Can I ask this here? dear diary

myfriendscallmemeg

I think if one more "Should I announce on Christmas" thread pops up in my BMB the townspeople are going to eat me alive.

But here's the situation, my sister is nosy, so she found out that our SIL is expecting, and she had voiced her suspicions to me, so when she got it confirmed I wheedled it out of her. (Okay, we're a nosy family.) Apparently my SIL has some sort of cutesy plan to tell the whole family when we're all together tomorrow.

I was roughly planning on telling the family sometime this Christmas too, but I'm having douchey feelings about stealing her thunder.

So should I just text my SIL & be like, hey, I know what's up. What should we do? Do you wanna joint announce? Do you want me to wait? Or should I just sit with my mouth shut and just let her have her moment and then tell everyone later.

myfriendscallmemeg

Oh ps. It's assumed that I'm also pregnant, but not blatantly spelled out. My bad.

pearlofwisdom1

Say hey I'm pregnant and call it a day.

FrickandFrack

I would keep your plans and let her do her thing also. The family will be excited and both of you will get to have your fun.

myfriendscallmemeg

Okay thanks! I'll probably just play it by ear. I won't be heartbroken if I don't get to announce this weekend.

I know it all seems like 3rd grade drama, but I just needed to have my feelings out there.

I'll definitely read the crowd and if it's cool I'll just throw a "me too!" out there. Or something super hilarious like "if you think that baby is cute just wait until you see the one I'm growing."

Because I make super cute babes.

armandos_girl

Personally, I'd let her have her moment, but then I've never been one to do pregnancy announcements.  I tried to do something special for DH for our first and well, it didn't go as planned, lol. Ever since then, it's just been a pick up the phone sort of thing.

bullybutt

Just hold off until New Years and make an announcement then. 

myfriendscallmemeg

BunkinMama said:

myfriendscallmemeg said:

Okay thanks! I'll probably just play it by ear. I won't be heartbroken if I don't get to announce this weekend.

I know it all seems like 3rd grade drama, but I just needed to have my feelings out there.

I'll definitely read the crowd and if it's cool I'll just throw a "me too!" out there. Or something super hilarious like "if you think that baby is cute just wait until you see the one I'm growing."

Because I make super cute babes.

Yeah, don't say that

Hahahaha, I'll try to refrain myself.

pepperedmoth

I was never a Special Announcer. I just told people individually when I saw them and when the moment felt right. And I told them it wasn't a secret and to feel free and mention it to other friends.

So in your shoes I would just tell your family casually whenever you feel like it (I totally get wanting to tell them in person, so if Christmas is your only chance to do that, it's absolutely reasonable to tell them then) and let them spread word. But I wouldn't make it a Big Thing, especially cuz it's your second and her first.

And if you see your family all the time but SIL doesn't? I would wait until later.

pepperedmoth

I was never a Special Announcer. I just told people individually when I saw them and when the moment felt right. And I told them it wasn't a secret and to feel free and mention it to other friends.

So in your shoes I would just tell your family casually whenever you feel like it (I totally get wanting to tell them in person, so if Christmas is your only chance to do that, it's absolutely reasonable to tell them then) and let them spread word. But I wouldn't make it a Big Thing, especially cuz it's your second and her first.

And if you see your family all the time but SIL doesn't? I would wait until later.

myfriendscallmemeg

I suck at details. But it's both of our seconds.

And the allure of Christmas, although it was earlier than desired, was the my entire side of the family would be under one roof. (Which doesn't happen often.)

I'm not wanting to make a big announcement, just kind of let everyone know in person via sending a group text to all 15 of them.

barackollama

myfriendscallmemeg said:

I'm not wanting to make a big announcement, just kind of let everyone know in person via sending a group text to all 15 of them.

Yeah, I totally get that. As a family member, I'd think it kind of strange to receive a "by the way, I'm pregnant" text a day or so after I saw someone in person. But I can also see why your questioning announcing the same day. Basically I'm a giant vat of ambivalence but want to chime in anyway.

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rvasc said:

I would wait for SIL to announce then share with her privately that you were planning to announce but wanted to talk with her first since you just found out about her pregnancy. I would definitely not do it the same moment.

This is exactly what I did. She freaked out (happily) and we ended up telling everyone. It's her second, and she's glad that our kids will be close in age!