July 2015 Moms

Husband's smell - help!

Please help, is anyone finding that their partner's "stench" is suddenly absolutely repulsive!? I don't know what to do. For some reason my husband gives off this "stink" that literally makes me sick. I've tried asking him nicely to brush his teeth or things before sexy time, because I've identified that beer breath is a no-go, but he just blows up and starts yelling saying how I don't love him, and think he's unattractive.

It's been causing these little fights (that I just don't have the energy to handle) for a couple of weeks, but last night I actually woke up sick and started vomiting. I had to move downstairs before it got better, and every trip back upstairs to the bathroom, the ENTIRE room smelled like that. It reminds me of really bad boozey sweat and beer breath...but honestly, I think I notice it before he starts drinking.

I know our noses are more sensitive these days, but this is just such a problem and incredibly embarrassing for us both. Am I the only one struggling!? Am I in the wrong that he needs to figure it out and FIX it!? I know no one likes to be told they stink, but I'm trying to be gentle about it :(

Re: Husband's smell - help!

  • Your just extra sensitive to smells right now. The smell of alcohol and smoke both make me want to vomit when I am pregnant. Since you already told him the smells bother you there really isn't a need to mention it again. I would just kindly sleep in another room. Eventually he should realize that the smell of drinking is really a problem when he wakes up alone. Good luck!
  • Thanks...at least I don't feel crazy about this now! I'm hoping he "gets it" after last night. And that it gets better. I couldn't even stand him talking remotely near me the other night - and we were outside! He had drank a redbull that afternoon...

    Literally NO other smells bother me, like at all.
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  • DH knows he has to brush his teeth, use mouthwash, and shower with good smelling body wash before bed. He's pretty good about not taking it personally :)
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  • Dh smells good but when he drinks I can smell the beer and I hate it and he knows to distance himself a little bit because it makes me sick.
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  • We're going shopping today - I need the man equivalent to bath and body works! I think some fancy soap for him is in order...and extra mouth rinse.
  • My husband recently switched to a new deodorant. I hate it, He love its. I can't snuggle up next to him without the overwhelming smell pushing me away. I asked him to get either a scentless one or go back to the one he had been using for the past 8 years! We'll see.
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  • You can't help your sense of smell and aversions. Just tell him it's normal and that he should take precautions if he wants to have sex / be near you. Lol
  • I drag DH into the bathroom with me before bed and we both do the full oral hygiene routine together.  I made up some  bs about "needing his support to be better about flossing and stuff because pregnancy ruins your teeth" but my real motive was getting him to stop breathing in my fucking face all night.  We live in a 1br and we do.not.have.a.couch so it's bed or floor for me.  Ugh.

    On a completely unhelpful note, but one I find interesting: evolutionary psychology is kind of BS imho but I read a study once about women's attraction to men based on their pregnancy status.  So some researchers took pheromone samples (a little pillow placed in a guy's armpit for some time) and had women rate the attractiveness of the scents.  They found that women who were pregnant or on progesterone birth control (which kind of mimics pregnancy) preferred the scent of men who were more genetically related to them, and that women who were not pregnant preferred the scent of men who were more genetically different.  In other words, when you're in "GET ME PREGNANT!" mode biologically, you'll find yourself attracted to men who will give you a good genetic match because they're different from you, and then when you actually GET pregnant (or your body thinks you are) you seek out men who are similar to you genetically, or likely related to you (brothers, cousins, family members) because they will likely serve as good protectors when you're prego and vulnerable.  The study was used to try to explain why women choose guys who are bad for them which is why it's total BS, but it's interesting nonetheless ;)  I'll see if I can find a free link.

    Man I'm rambly today.

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  • This is very common. Do some research and find articles you can share with him that will help him understand what you're going through. Let him know you don't hate him, your hormones do.
  • Hey man, I'm in that boat. It's his breath and I tell him that. I didn't mind it before pregnancy but now it's just hideous. I can even smell it when we're not close! Weird ....
  • Soooo happy to read that I'm not the only one!  We got married on 11/1 and just got back from a delayed honeymoon in Jamaica.  The whole time we were there he wanted to be snuggly and affectionate and all I wanted to do was push him away.  Between that and my non-existent sex drive, I feel really bad for him. 
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  • My husband and I are going through this as we speak. I was trying to be nice for awhile and tell him the beer breath was making me nauseous but my niceness stopped when I started gagging over his smell.

    I did mention that we are both pregnant and if I cant drink and smoke he should not either (that went over real well lol). So I know im a little harsh and crazy but I locked him out of the room and he was not allowed to enter until he showered and brushed his teeth. The alcohol smell still comes out the pores sooo n the middle of the night I relocate to breath better. Luckily his compassion came back and he avoids me when he has a drink now lol. That was our compromise and it works for me.
  • I think it's a slight issue normally, but the alcohol just goes over the edge. And I agree, @shay092185‌ , it seeps out of his pores.

    Today, I tried to spend time with him, but we're on our second bar :( I don't want to tell him he CAN'T do things just because I cant, but come on...it's Christmas Eve and he's drinking redbull vodka and beer all day. Redbull is even worse than the beer. Ugh. I don't know what to do!!! I'm getting aggrivated now.
  • Omg i thought it was just me getting annoyed about smells of my boyfriend. He doesn't smell but lately every smell from him is driving me crazy. I keep pushing his face away from mine when we're sleeping
  • Errsbear11 just tell him you cant and you dont mean to damper his day. Call one of us friends to drink with him. I threw up on my husband so he could figure it out cuz he wasn't getting it (I know im dramatic but I needed him to understand and words werent working). This is my second child and it doesn't last the whole pregnancy, you will feel normal again.
  • I'm so glad I'm not the only one. I don't know what it is, but I swear I can smell vinegar on my husband. It's so strange. And when he dips I can hardly be around him. He did quit smoking, which is amazing and I'm so proud of him, and he even switched from the wintergreen dip to regular so it wouldn't make me sick, but there is still something funky that's making me nauseous at times.
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  • My husband can go outside for all of 5 minutes and I swear he smells like he's done 2 hours of crossfit. It's terrible! I'm sorry your poor hubby is feeling the wrath of the sense of smell symptom, let him know he is not alone!
  • mkruparmkrupar member
    edited December 2014
    Ugh I was thinking of posting something about this. My H loves onions. Onions on errything. The stench on his breath makes me want to gag. I told him a thousand times and he kept eating them and wanting kisses. I stopped kissing him when he ate them.

    He also seems to have this knack of preparing food that he's going to eat, but absolutely wants to make me gag. I loathe beans on a normal day, and now his beans and rice have me running from the room.

    He woke me up from my nap this afternoon and gave me a kiss and I ugh, coffee breath.

    I can't wait until this smell aversion is over.
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  • Oh girl !!! Me too!!! His breath.....its just repulsive....even after brushing... I think its just our heightened sense of smell...
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