Hi ladies. New here and this was cross posted from another board. I APOLOGIZE if this is long lol, but I wanted to give some background.
DD is 3 1/2 and started started speech the end of April last year from our DOE school system. She is only given 2 - 30 min sessions a week and had NO speech for the summer. She ended up getting the therapist who evaluated her. Me and her became pretty friendly on a personal level and DD really likes her and talks about her all the time. Her main job is a ST at a pre-school and she works for the school agency part-time. DD was evaluated by her to have a severe expressive articulation delay, along with fronting and dropping, making her extremely hard to understand, except for me. Even I have to say "what" a few times a day though to certain things.
From the get go, I have never been sufficient feedback on how DD does during her sessions nor given any nightly homework to do. She did give me flash cards to do drills and work on her final constant deletion. Maybe once or 2x she told me that they were working on the P sound. Every week I still continued to ask what or how she did, and I get answers like "Oh good" then silence or "She listens so well." DD would come out with Scholastic 4 page magazines in her hand. The ST would tell me to finish reading them to her at home. So she's just reading to her? Sometimes she'd say "We learned about fire safety or about the Fall." Then she'd hand me a blank coloring sheet and say you can do this with her. A coloring sheet.? Or a worksheet where you match pictures. I thought there was some method to what she was doing, but started getting concerned about what was going during her sessions. The ST made a big thing about enrolling her in preschool saying it would help with her speech. We had NO plan on sending her this year at 3, but we did thinking it would help. We are on a strict budget to afford this. We found a low cost, play based preschool and DD LOVES it. She goes 2x a week for half a day.But as far as helping her speech, no help at all.
The ST has mentioned 3 times in the past few months how she wants to quit working for the school system, how parents are always canceling on her and complaining about the commute for her. Then she said she feels the therapy the kids get from the agency is inadequate. Huh? I mean she works there. Isn't the THERAPIST responsible for making sure the kid gets what they need. There were also times the ST would show up late cutting into DD's session time. Or one time she texted me asking me for a time change for that day. I said ok. In convo after the session, she said "I'm glad this time works for you bc I got new cases at my school I work at. If it didn't, you'd have to be assigned a differed ST." So, she would just drop us like that?
During DD's sessions at the agency, sometimes there would be 3 other kids with 3 therapists in a room. I would hear them talking to DD, though she was supposed to be getting a 1:1 session with ONLY her therapist. I KNOW this was not helping DD. We were lucky that the ST started letting us come 1x a week to her office at the preschool she worked at, but DD didn't seem show any improvement from the change of locations. I sort of felt stuck throughout this bc we couldn't afford private speech and bc her ST was so nice to DD and I. I kept thinking DD would progress. A few weeks ago I started thinking that perhaps somehow, someway we needed to come up with the money for private speech.
Last week, the last time I saw her, we had a convo that sort of made me "know" DD needed a new ST. She comes out, I ask what they did, I get "Oh the gingerbread man." Then I ask, "Is there anything for me to work on her with?" And get told AGAIN no. So I said, "Ok, bc I really don't see her speech getting any better." She then tells me she was going to wait until after the new year, but she's concerned her language isn't at where it should be and how she was really quiet again. Also, she thinks DD needs more hours of speech week. This was never expressed to me before and the kid talks up a storm at home, in stores, etc. So perhaps whatever she is doing isn't getting DD so speak much. Then she confuses me and starts saying how "her school" has a 5 day a week program where they could work on her numbers and we could go that "route." How pre-k now requires so much (yeah I know, I'm certified to teach). I was thinking she meant to bring her 5 days for speech, but what she wanted was for me to enroll DD at her school. What does this have to do with speech problem? I said to her, "She's enrolled already in a school we like and I'm not pulling her out mid year." She seemed kind of disappointed when I said that. Then she says how she doen't want to push her school on me. What was she doing then? Then "Oh you have an education background, how do you feel she is doing with her numers." I said fine, bc I think she is doing fine. AGAIN she says how she thinks she's going to quit working at the school agency. So how was DD going to even stay with her for speech services then? I just didn't understand what she was getting at and sort of felt like she was deflecting the fact that whatever she is doing with DD is not working Also, making it seem that DD's preschool is inadequate.
I told DH what had happened and he said maybe she gets financial kickbacks from getting people in her school. I was pissed off too that yet again I'm ASKING to help my kid at home, but get told there's not a single thing I can do. From what I read, that doesn't make sense. So I made the decision to call my case coordinator, change agencies and get a new therapist. And I STILL feel bad that I did this bc she was so nice to DD and I. She even gave me paperwork to sub at her school if I wanted. But I felt like we were getting NO WHERE with DD's speech. Also, DD told me there was another lady in the room with her that day. Her ST really should not be having any of her friends from her school in the room with DD. The next day she texted me saying she was sorry to see us leave and when her IEP evaluation date is.
I started googling stuff recently and began thinking maybe DD has apraxia, though that has never been mentioned to me. Maybe that's why she hasn't made any progress and she's so hard to understand when she speaks? Though, it may just be she had bad speech therapy. So, she's starting up in 2 weeks with the NEW therapist. It will only be DD and the therapist in the room too. DD keeps asking when she's seeing her old ST and I feel really bad saying she won't see her again ;(
So do you all think I did the right choice by switching? And why do I feel bad that we switched? I know speech can be a long process, but I've also heard stories about speech from the school system that sucks and them doing a one size fits all kind of therapy. I'm just really frustrated and feel like we wasted almost a year and got no where. Would you ask her new ST if I should have her re-avaluated again, or do they do this at her annual IEP meeting come March? Would you explain to the new ST what happened with the old ST? I am just really worried she's going to go into pre-k 4 next year being as hard to understand as she is now. I even scheduled a hearing test for her next week. Help!