Tuesday randoms??

Saragoeswest

@TicketTuesday‌ what type of illustrative work do you do?

Lindseyione

scottysgirl77 said:

Loss mentioned.



One of my husbands college teammates was in an accident last night. He and his two year old son died and his wife is in critical condition. They were hit by a speeding vehicle and their car caught fire.

I can't imagine being his poor wife, she was the driver and the only survivor. And right before Christmas too.

That's absolutely heart breaking. T&P for your family and the wife.

angeltennis3

I am in a local moms facebook group, and someone posted today about how they were canceling Christmas because of poor behavior from their 5 and 7 year olds. They had a "letter from Santa" and everything that explained that their behavior was unacceptable and therefore they aren't getting gifts for Christmas.

I only have DD so I know I don't know the trials of having an older child...but I kind of side eyed them for having Santa be the disciplinarian. I have no idea what their children have behaved like or what other discipline approaches they have taken...but to "cancel Christmas" and have the discipline come from Santa just seems wrong to me...

bumpuser10309732

@scottysgirl77 how tragic. I just can't fathom losing the two most important things in my life. 

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angeltennis3 said:

I am in a local moms facebook group, and someone posted today about how they were canceling Christmas because of poor behavior from their 5 and 7 year olds. They had a "letter from Santa" and everything that explained that their behavior was unacceptable and therefore they aren't getting gifts for Christmas. I only have DD so I know I don't know the trials of having an older child...but I kind of side eyed them for having Santa be the disciplinarian. I have no idea what their children have behaved like or what other discipline approaches they have taken...but to "cancel Christmas" and have the discipline come from Santa just seems wrong to me...

that doesn't make sense to me either. Nut up as the parent and own your decision. Also what the actual fuck could a 5 & 7 year old do horrible enough to cancel Christmas?!? Did they kill the family pet? Because I don't really see this as a fitting punishment otherwise. Even then me thinks you need therapy. Better yet, go ahead and buy your whole family a session. 

bumpuser10309732

SPurp13 said:

I want to make lactation cookies. But I'm not breastfeeding. So. Unnecessary calories. Of all the things I miss about breastfeeding, those cookies are the things that haunt me the most. So. Good.

Purp what's in these cookies? Toss me one of them interwebz snacks

rosalie12

@scottysgirl77‌ I can't imagine the sadness you all must be feeling. And his poor wife. How devastating. Prayers to your family and theirs. I don't understand why things like that have to happen. I'm so sorry.

MuffinMom14

MrsBabe614 said:

SPurp13 said:

I want to make lactation cookies. But I'm not breastfeeding. So. Unnecessary calories. Of all the things I miss about breastfeeding, those cookies are the things that haunt me the most. So. Good.

Purp what's in these cookies? Toss me one of them interwebz snacks

These are the ones my husband made. He said he'd make them again. But. No.

https://www.bellybelly.com.au/breastfeeding/lactation-cookies#.VJm3nV4DEA

AppleGrapeMSTK

@scottysgirl77 That's devastating. I can't imagine.

DreadGamerWife

TicketTuesday said:

I just made gingerbread cookie dough for the first time! It's chilling in the fridge but I can't wait to see if it turns out. For Christmas Eve all the kids are decorating sugar cookies and all the parents are having a competition decorating giant gingerbread men.

Does anyone have any fun Christmas Eve activities planned and want to share? We're still trying to come up with some.

We make breakfast for Christmas Eve dinner and when DH was a child, they used to make homemade butter. They would put the heavy cream in several mason jars with a wooden clothes pin as a beater and then poll them back and forth between the cousins. Then used the butter on the pancakes.

pnwlover12

How the hell is everyone baking and getting shit done? Am I the only one with a yetti baby that has to be held ALL the tine, and even then he screams his head off? I'm at the end of my fucking rope.

ajh1230

@pnwlover‌12 you are not alone. I'm terrified to go back to work, DH will be alone with LO while I work night shift and then go to daycare so I can sleep a couple hours during the day.

MrsSinner402

Anyone else's LO scream BLOODY FUCKING MURDER when you try to burp them between every few ounces? DD gets so pissed off and so worked up that I'm sure its part of the reason she's spitting up a ton when I do burp her. So frustrating.

bumpuser10309732

pnwlover12 said:

How the hell is everyone baking and getting shit done? Am I the only one with a yetti baby that has to be held ALL the tine, and even then he screams his head off? I'm at the end of my fucking rope.

@pnwlover12 NOPE! We have two peas in a pod. She's seriously mellowed in just the last couple of weeks though. I had to wear her while baking banana bread and I have YET to wrap any Christmas presents. With a pissed off baby and an over excitable cat, it's next to impossible. GIFT BAGS FOR THE WIN! And this is all without a toddler. HOW DO YOU DO IT?!

pnwlover12

MrsBabe614 said:

pnwlover12 said:

How the hell is everyone baking and getting shit done? Am I the only one with a yetti baby that has to be held ALL the tine, and even then he screams his head off? I'm at the end of my fucking rope.

@pnwlover12 NOPE! We have two peas in a pod. She's seriously mellowed in just the last couple of weeks though. I had to wear her while baking banana bread and I have YET to wrap any Christmas presents. With a pissed off baby and an over excitable cat, it's next to impossible. GIFT BAGS FOR THE WIN! And this is all without a toddler. HOW DO YOU DO IT?!

Basically, I cry. A lot.

bumpuser10309732

pnwlover12 said:

pnwlover12 said:

How the hell is everyone baking and getting shit done? Am I the only one with a yetti baby that has to be held ALL the tine, and even then he screams his head off? I'm at the end of my fucking rope.

@pnwlover12 NOPE! We have two peas in a pod. She's seriously mellowed in just the last couple of weeks though. I had to wear her while baking banana bread and I have YET to wrap any Christmas presents. With a pissed off baby and an over excitable cat, it's next to impossible. GIFT BAGS FOR THE WIN! And this is all without a toddler. HOW DO YOU DO IT?!

Basically, I cry. A lot.

I'm so sorry friend ((hugs)) is he fussy or does he do a constant cry? Nonetheless it's enough to make you go ape shit eventually. I send you these for Christmas.

Jennyc00

Need some advice... When you are at family gatherings and your holding your lo do you family members or in laws ask to hold your lo or do they just grab them out of your hands and take over? And do you mind one way or another? I'm having an incident with my in laws specifically mil. She just grabs lo out of my hands even last night when I was feeding him telling me she would feed him and for me to "go enjoy myself" at the family party. It's like she's possessive over him and I'm supposed to roll over and not touch him when anyone else is around. Last night I got pissed enough when she tried to grab him again I said "he's ok here" to give her a clue and she said in front of the whole family "jokingly" "I hate my daughter in law cause she won't let me hold him" and I got stared at by everyone. Wtf?? I don't mind family holding him but at least ask me before pulling him out of my arms. I didn't tell my DH about this incident and am dreading to cause he gets so defensive about his family.

Emerald27

@Jennyc00‌ ((hugs)) That's rough. Part of why we have a baby carrier. I've had one family member say in front of me but to him that she would take LO and run away with him; "we don't need mommy. Let's run away from mommy together," um...hell no. Give me back my baby and don't say something like that or we will never speak again!

angeltennis3

Jennyc00 said:

Need some advice... When you are at family gatherings and your holding your lo do you family members or in laws ask to hold your lo or do they just grab them out of your hands and take over? And do you mind one way or another? I'm having an incident with my in laws specifically mil. She just grabs lo out of my hands even last night when I was feeding him telling me she would feed him and for me to "go enjoy myself" at the family party. It's like she's possessive over him and I'm supposed to roll over and not touch him when anyone else is around. Last night I got pissed enough when she tried to grab him again I said "he's ok here" to give her a clue and she said in front of the whole family "jokingly" "I hate my daughter in law cause she won't let me hold him" and I got stared at by everyone. Wtf?? I don't mind family holding him but at least ask me before pulling him out of my arms. I didn't tell my DH about this incident and am dreading to cause he gets so defensive about his family.

My Inlaws live out of town, so when they are around they pretty much want DD the entire time. I get it and I am happy they want to spend so much time with her, but I am not going days without snuggling my baby girl. And you better believe if she is fussy, I am taking her back to calm her.

But saying that you hate her, or just grabbing your LO from your arms is unacceptable.

I prefer to have DH handle any confrontations with his parents, but I ask him to approach it in a way that makes it come from both of us, not just me. Maybe ask your DH to say something about how he noticed she would just take LO from you, and that you both are happy she loves your LO so much but would prefer if she asked, and also understood that there will be times one of you feels like holding your LO, too.

lrobi13

MrsSinner402 said:

Anyone else's LO scream BLOODY FUCKING MURDER when you try to burp them between every few ounces? DD gets so pissed off and so worked up that I'm sure its part of the reason she's spitting up a ton when I do burp her. So frustrating.

Yes, I usually shove the paci in so that he will calm down enough so that he can get a burp (or spitup) out

lrobi13

pnwlover12 said:

pnwlover12 said:

How the hell is everyone baking and getting shit done? Am I the only one with a yetti baby that has to be held ALL the tine, and even then he screams his head off? I'm at the end of my fucking rope.

@pnwlover12 NOPE! We have two peas in a pod. She's seriously mellowed in just the last couple of weeks though. I had to wear her while baking banana bread and I have YET to wrap any Christmas presents. With a pissed off baby and an over excitable cat, it's next to impossible. GIFT BAGS FOR THE WIN! And this is all without a toddler. HOW DO YOU DO IT?!

Basically, I cry. A lot.

Big hugs, it has to get better, right?  I am sorry that you are having a tough time.  I honestly look forward to bringing lo to daycare because it is a nice break.  Do you have anyone who can watch him for a bit so you can catch your breath?

bumpuser10309732

Jennyc00 said:

Need some advice... When you are at family gatherings and your holding your lo do you family members or in laws ask to hold your lo or do they just grab them out of your hands and take over? And do you mind one way or another? I'm having an incident with my in laws specifically mil. She just grabs lo out of my hands even last night when I was feeding him telling me she would feed him and for me to "go enjoy myself" at the family party. It's like she's possessive over him and I'm supposed to roll over and not touch him when anyone else is around. Last night I got pissed enough when she tried to grab him again I said "he's ok here" to give her a clue and she said in front of the whole family "jokingly" "I hate my daughter in law cause she won't let me hold him" and I got stared at by everyone. Wtf?? I don't mind family holding him but at least ask me before pulling him out of my arms. I didn't tell my DH about this incident and am dreading to cause he gets so defensive about his family.

@Jennyc00 uhh no to your MIL. My IL's do the same thing because they're so fucking excited that they never stop to think about what I want as mom. Something needs to be said. I like what PP said about how sometimes you want to hold your own baby. 

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starla487 said:

DD screamed after her shots and then I saw her first real tears in her eyes. We also have thrush. And she's a slow gainer. Merry fucking Christmas.

Hugs to you! I hope your thrush gets better and DD sleeps through the part of not feeling well.

lrobi13

@starla487 Oh the real tears. I see those fuckers every day.  Seriously, the kid has it pretty damn good so I am not sure how he manages to produce so many big fat salty tears.

FX the thrush heals quickly and that her weight is just fine.  I hate the weight pressure.  Some kids are just smaller. End of the elfing story.  I'm 5'2 and DH is 5'7ish...our kids is gonna be small.

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@Irobi13 We must both be working? Why are places of business even open around this time? Haha

cmac6186

Took 45min to get to DDs dr appointment because of mall traffic near the office. Dh had brought her from daycare but I wanted to be there too. She was crying when I got there bc of the rectal thermometer. By the time the shots came she was already revved up and actually calmed down fairly quickly after nursing for a bit.

@scottysgirl77‌ so sorry for the loss. It made me squeeze dd a little tighter! I can't even imagine.

@MrsSinner402‌ Dd hates having the bottle taken away.

@keelyd yay!! You had to get something to go smoothly sooner or later! I was hoping for you!

victoria+james

@scottysgirl77‌ - So heartbreaking! I'll be keeping her in my thoughts.

@Jennyc00‌ - I'm a bit of a bitch, so if someone said they "hated" me for not letting them hold LO I'd respond by saying that I'd be happy to let them hold LO when they can prove that they are a good influence and "hating" baby's mom is not a good start. I'm also getting much better at just firmly saying "No." when anyone tries to just take LO from me. I'm trying to set the expectation that you must ask me first. So even if I would happily hand him over I still say no and then 10 or so minutes later I'll say to LO "Would you like Grammy (or other person) to hold you? Let's ask Grammy if she would like to hold you."

@starla487‌ - I'm sorry! Baby tears are the saddest

golfingdarwinfish

TicketTuesday said:

We have so many sugary sweets and snacks that neighbors have dropped off. I stayed up all night working on client illustrations. Therefore, DS1 is eating brownies for breakfast and has no pants on.

You're an awesome mom.  I wish I could do that (for me, not S.  I don't think he could handle a brownie yet.).

golfingdarwinfish

First time on today so I am catching up and giving out love tits. 

My family is visiting from NC (retired there) and it's totally overstimulating DS.  He barely napped yesterday, and then last night woke up at 4 and 7am, which is highly unusual for him.   After his 10:30am feeding I basically threw him in the car seat and my mom, sister and I went to Whole Foods, Target, BRU, Italian Deli, Italian Pastry Shop, and Starbucks.  Took about 3 hours and he slept the entire time.  He woke up his normal, happy self thankfully.  But, I need to be mindful of him being overstimulated, so now after playing for 2 hours he is sleeping in the swing.

I've made 5 dozed chocolate chip cookies and 4 dozen russian tea cookies thus far.  Still need to make DH's favorite italian almond cookies, but they are my least favorite because the dough is a PITA to work with at all times.  I haven't started wrapping yet and am considering finally doing that while LO sleeps and everyone else is here to watch him.

@scottysgirl77 I'm so sorry. What a tragedy.  I have no idea how people find the strength to carry on after things like that.

victoria+james

Oogiebear... google it, buy it, love it.

You're welcome!

persephonerose

sabby2 said:

DD is letting out the most manly farts.. while I'm feeding her. I need a gas mask (are you my mummy?).

Love that book!

It is a very cute book. However, I was referring to Doctor Who.

Yeah doctor who was my first thought as well. That episode was creepy.

persephonerose

@jennyc00 This is the time to embrace you momma bear. Big the bigger bitch. I would not wait for DH to say something. I would block her every time she tried to take the baby. As soon as she put her hands on the baby I would very loudly say "MIL you need to be gentle with the baby, stop yanking her out of my arms you will hurt her" so that everyone is aware of what she is doing.  If she ever said again that she hates you because you wont let her hold the baby, look her right in the eyes and say "I am glad to know you feel that way" Then get up and leave, I don't mean leave the room either. Get your bag, get the keys and walk out.

If you let her do this now it will only get worse. I know from experience.

persephonerose

I will be honest the only way I am getting stuff done is to put on cartoons for the toddler, let DH deal with the twins (unless both are screaming), and today its with the help of MIL and BIL who are coming over to start the tamale prep.

golfingdarwinfish

So, uhm, there's a present in the fridge?

BreandMikewedding

Jennyc00 said:

Need some advice... When you are at family gatherings and your holding your lo do you family members or in laws ask to hold your lo or do they just grab them out of your hands and take over? And do you mind one way or another? I'm having an incident with my in laws specifically mil. She just grabs lo out of my hands even last night when I was feeding him telling me she would feed him and for me to "go enjoy myself" at the family party. It's like she's possessive over him and I'm supposed to roll over and not touch him when anyone else is around. Last night I got pissed enough when she tried to grab him again I said "he's ok here" to give her a clue and she said in front of the whole family "jokingly" "I hate my daughter in law cause she won't let me hold him" and I got stared at by everyone. Wtf?? I don't mind family holding him but at least ask me before pulling him out of my arms. I didn't tell my DH about this incident and am dreading to cause he gets so defensive about his family.

I would cut a bitch! If anyone but dh and I want to do anything with our kids, they need to ask one of us first. We made them, we own them.

cmac6186

So dd is a vaccine unicorn. She is happily cooing and smiling and just being pleasant. Apparently she has a high tolerance for pain?

golfingdarwinfish

starla487 said:

Thanks everyone. She's sleeping now, so I'm hoping we can both get a breather. She was so worked up that she wouldn't even comfort nurse. And then it took an hour to get her Rx from Target because of paperwork errors. I was so done. I guess now would be a great time to wean off nipple shields. Sigh. The pedi isn't concerned about her weight yet, but says it's something to keep an eye on. Particularly since all of her other stats are gaining/trending upward, but her weight is flatlining. I'm not the biggest person on the planet, so I could have just passed along my genes to her, but there was just a bunch of talk about supplementing already. She eats and is satisfied most of the time, with the exception of the evening. (Takes her forever to nurse and then wants to every hour.) My only recommendation given was to wake her to eat if it's been more than 4 hours and to offer both breasts consistently. (Which I don't... Because she seems happy.) Diaper output is more than fine. You think you are doing great and someone hands you all of that on a plate. It's hard. So I feel for you keely and famousea, and everyone else having weight issues.

@starla487

>:D<

The moment sperm meets egg the infinite worrying begins.  

S had a difficult time gaining at first, and I was quite worried after his first month numbers, but he improved from there.  She may still have to hit her "stride".  Also, some are slower to gain at first and will be very steady and the spurt, steady, spurt, while some LOs spurt like crazy early on and then plateau around 6-9 months. 

Hang in there mom, I know this journey from preparing to get pregnant, to pregnancy, to DD's entrance into this world has been stressful and difficult at times, but you're doing great.

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Emerald27

victoria+james said:

Oogiebear... google it, buy it, love it.

You're welcome!

Wow!! I need this!! I've been picking LO's nose. Lol FFTC?

Emerald27

crawford411 said:

My dad is currently at urgent care being tested for the flu. He and I have all of the same symptoms.

I know that breastfeeding and general hygiene are the only things I can do to keep Sunny safe. She appears to feel totally fine, but I am irrationally freaked out about this. The flu strain going around our area was not one covered in the annual vaccine.

FX for you!! And I hope you feel better soon.