I figured I would start since I am wide awake at 4:45am. DD woke up around 2:25 and just fell back to sleep 20 minutes ago. I only have an hour before I have to be up so I'm debating on powering through and saving myself some additional torture. I have so much anxiety with everything that I have to do before Christmas. Hope everyone had a better night of sleep! Sending hugs to everyone cause it just seems like we all need a little extra these days!
@fitmama418 I think it is completely normal to feel a twinge of What If when someone you were serious about finds happiness with someone else.. even if you've moved on and are in a good relationship.
You gave a part of your heart to this man, obviously. It's okay to feel this way, imo.
I'm dying right now.
I was like, Gawd fitmama is being bitchy this morning! I was offering her support and I thought I read her post correctly! Wah wah wah fitmama doesn't like me!"
Is snot a qualifier for a sick kid? And if that's the only symptom? LMK.
We slept most of yesterday. After not sleeping any of the day before and little the night before. It felt great. She's a tad over excited because she's been playing with kids and running free for too many days. Daddy getting off at midnight four days in a row sucked, too. Is it truly necessarily to keep the mall open until 11pm?
It can be a sign of anything for sure. And snot can be a catalyst for a number of other pains in the ass (ear infections, coughs, etc.). Here's hoping maybe baby girl just has an allergy of something and it doesn't escalate!
DH is FINALLY going in for his sleep study tonight. I feel awful for saying this, but I truly hope that they confirm the sleep apnea his doctor suspected after looking at his sleep study done by the Navy. His snoring doesn't keep me up anymore because I've figured out how to have my white noise on in our room and still be able to hear the baby monitor (aka...practically sleeping ON TOP of the baby monitor), but it's terrifying to hear him stop breathing in between snores as I'm first falling asleep. We just don't want this to snow ball into something more serious down the road. Fingers crossed!
Here's my tantrum... and this is very DD-y and definitely FWP as well...
So I had that car accident october 28th. right? yes ok, well so We couldn't take the car in til Dec. 1st., ok. The insurance adjuster quoted 2 weeks for the repairs. Perfect! When we dropped it off on the 1st, the repair shop guy said it will probably be a little longer, but that we would have it the week of the 15th. Ok, we can live with that.
Fast forward to last week, DH calls them to see when we can pick it up, they tell him, Late Thursday or Friday - most likely Friday. Ok, so we call Thurs. just to see and they say Friday. Still, ok. I'm just happy I'll get my car back. They call him Friday and say not til Monday....really?
So yesterday, DH leaves work early, picks me up and we go to get the car. At 4 o'clock when the manager told us it would be ready for us on Friday. We get there. Car is not ready. The manager says "Can I help you?" DH says "Yes we're here to pick up our car" Manager "It's not ready. Oh gosh is it 4 o'clock already I forgot to call and tell you." THAT IS YOUR ONE JOB DUDE!!!!
I said when will it be ready? Tomorrow, replies the jack-wagon manager. No one was even working on our car when we were there yesterday!!!!
So not only have they pushed back our pick up date by a week, no one is even working on our car! If it is not ready today I will flip shit.
I'm trying to decide if they are attempting to nickel and dime the Insurance company. Since the accident wasn't my fault it's all paid for by someone else's insurance...
@guiltypleasures I'm glad you're feeling better doll. I hope for no more rough days for you and all the success in the new year, in whatever route you choose to go. You have all of n13 support!
Oh, and one more thing. GO GET YOUR MOTHEREFFING FLU SHOT IF YOU HAVENT ALREADY!!!! And wash your dirty, germy, grubby hands like it's going out of style. The flu is EVERYWHERE. EVERYONE has the flu. In my ER at least.
Having kind of a rough day. I don't even know how to make this short.
My mom moved out of state last year when I was pregnant. It wasn't really planned and she was disappointed to be leaving when her first grandchild was coming soon. I know this last year would have been easier to manage if she were close.
Anyway, I have this wild idea that she and my SD should move back because I want them here for A and potential baby number 2. This would involve us also moving into a bigger place and having them live with us, and we'd rent out our condo. What's the hitch? They are chain smokers. Pete doesn't want A around all that smoke, and he's right. They won't quit. My SD has had cancer and that didn't slow him down. I'm so mad that they are just perfect, loving, supportive grandparents but their contact with A is limited because of a lifestyle choice.
Yes @Smilz4782, St Louis is an easy 4 hr drive from KC.
And be jealous ladies, I got to see her pretty face this morning to give her some tennis shoes for L!
I'm having a rough day. DH told me I have to make an appt with a therapist today after I texted him that I don't think I was meant to be a mom. I have no clue what I'm doing with my kid, she's crabby more than happy, her sleep is completely broken, etc. Add to that the complete unappreciation i feel at work and regret for not taking the other job (I sent an email this morning), I'm not looking forward to the holidays. I believe this will be the first Christmas Eve I will have ever spent away from my mom. I feel like crying at my desk but have way too much to do to really think about it.
It just needs to be 5 so I can get away from work until next year.
@Dapostrophe We're talking about it here and there. If A's tantrums become a daily thing I think Pete may say forget it!
They only smoke outside, but they smell like it, their clothes smell, it's awful. They have to take a separate car everywhere so they can smoke . If you go out to dinner, you'll barely see them because they'll have to leave to smoke so often. It's so frustrating. So if they did live with us they'd pretty much be in the front yard at all times.
@mwhipple77 Are you open to seeing a therapist? Maybe it's wise to try to talk about this with a professional. Don't blame yourself. You're exactly what she needs. You're the perfect mother for her. This is a really difficult phase, IMO.
@Yez9 I would never keep them from him at all. His lungs I do worry about though because of his asthma, and Pete is still wondering about CF. So I've dismissed that as a possibility, but he won't until we get another sweat chloride test.
I'm sorry about DS2, but glad you loved his therapist and already feel like this will be helpful.
Goldi, that sucks. The chain smoking would be a deal breaker for me. I'm sorry.
Same for me... smoking is my bigest pet peeve. With our LO's resp. issues our pulmonologist told us to keep him away from smoke as much as possible... Even second hand smoke can trigger breathing issues
Thanks ladies, I know I'm not alone in these feelings, its just that some days are way harder dealing with it then others. This week is a rough one.
@cagoldi I am open to seeing a therapist, and told DH I would a month or so ago because of other issues as well, but never made an appointment. I don't even know how to find someone. I've been to 2 therapists in my life and both times left feeling worse than when I went, so I never went back.
And now I sound like a nutcase! I promise, I'm not!
@Dapostrophe They are not financially stable, so they wouldn't qualify to buy it. Pete would never sell, anyway. He plans to keep it and rent it as a source of income when we retire
@Yez9 regarding the third hand smoke, I think you have to do a cost-benefit analysis. Does my child gain more from a relationship with this person than the potential harm the smoke on their clothing could cause? My answer is yes.
Santa is coming to our house tonight!!!!! We do presents Christmas eve morning because we travel most of the day on christmas. I'm so excited for the kids to open their presents it is unreal. Once they go to sleep I will post pics of the tree and presents .
GP- I meant to write this earlier but I'm scatter brained. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time TTC. It's fucking awful and no one gets it if they haven't been there. I'm glad you're having a better day and that you hang around us here. I'm sure it's hard at times especially when we bitch about FWP with kids but I'm glad you're here.
Thank you so much. It's actually easier on me to be some place like here or Parenting. It helps me get out the positive parts of baby crazy. I have a support group and my baby free zones too so it balances it out.
Daycare just called; Maggie's teacher is concerned about her breathing. She's had a bad cough the past couple of days and now her teacher says when she's breathing in, her neck is sucking in.
I called Kaiser to see if they want her to see the pedi and instead they three-wayed with daycare and asked all kinds of terrifying questions and now we have go to urgent care ASAP. I'm waiting for a train to DH's office; thank god he drove in.
I am really trying hard not to freak out, but I'm not doing so well. The advice nurse told me and daycare like 5 times that if we think she needs 911 to call it right away.
Just found out my brother was kicked out of the sober house he was living at and has been living out of his car for the last few weeks because he didn't want to tell anyone. Awesome.
Re: Tuesday Tantrums
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It's because I'm not @Finnaroo.
ETA although I'd love to be. She's hot as shit.
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Edit because I'm laffin at all your edits
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Sorry for the DD.
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Here's my tantrum... and this is very DD-y and definitely FWP as well...
So I had that car accident october 28th. right? yes ok, well so We couldn't take the car in til Dec. 1st., ok. The insurance adjuster quoted 2 weeks for the repairs. Perfect! When we dropped it off on the 1st, the repair shop guy said it will probably be a little longer, but that we would have it the week of the 15th. Ok, we can live with that.
Fast forward to last week, DH calls them to see when we can pick it up, they tell him, Late Thursday or Friday - most likely Friday. Ok, so we call Thurs. just to see and they say Friday. Still, ok. I'm just happy I'll get my car back. They call him Friday and say not til Monday....really?
So yesterday, DH leaves work early, picks me up and we go to get the car. At 4 o'clock when the manager told us it would be ready for us on Friday. We get there. Car is not ready. The manager says "Can I help you?" DH says "Yes we're here to pick up our car" Manager "It's not ready. Oh gosh is it 4 o'clock already I forgot to call and tell you." THAT IS YOUR ONE JOB DUDE!!!!
I said when will it be ready? Tomorrow, replies the jack-wagon manager. No one was even working on our car when we were there yesterday!!!!
So not only have they pushed back our pick up date by a week, no one is even working on our car! If it is not ready today I will flip shit.
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
I am making a salted caramel tart this morning, then going out to lunch with a friend, then making Italian wedding soup...I'm tired already!
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
:-* :-* :-* :-* You're such a sweetie.
#LOLFITMAMA
Having kind of a rough day. I don't even know how to make this short.
My mom moved out of state last year when I was pregnant. It wasn't really planned and she was disappointed to be leaving when her first grandchild was coming soon. I know this last year would have been easier to manage if she were close.
Anyway, I have this wild idea that she and my SD should move back because I want them here for A and potential baby number 2. This would involve us also moving into a bigger place and having them live with us, and we'd rent out our condo. What's the hitch? They are chain smokers. Pete doesn't want A around all that smoke, and he's right. They won't quit. My SD has had cancer and that didn't slow him down. I'm so mad that they are just perfect, loving, supportive grandparents but their contact with A is limited because of a lifestyle choice.
And be jealous ladies, I got to see her pretty face this morning to give her some tennis shoes for L!
I'm having a rough day. DH told me I have to make an appt with a therapist today after I texted him that I don't think I was meant to be a mom. I have no clue what I'm doing with my kid, she's crabby more than happy, her sleep is completely broken, etc. Add to that the complete unappreciation i feel at work and regret for not taking the other job (I sent an email this morning), I'm not looking forward to the holidays. I believe this will be the first Christmas Eve I will have ever spent away from my mom. I feel like crying at my desk but have way too much to do to really think about it.
It just needs to be 5 so I can get away from work until next year.
They only smoke outside, but they smell like it, their clothes smell, it's awful. They have to take a separate car everywhere so they can smoke . If you go out to dinner, you'll barely see them because they'll have to leave to smoke so often. It's so frustrating. So if they did live with us they'd pretty much be in the front yard at all times.
I'm sorry about DS2, but glad you loved his therapist and already feel like this will be helpful.
Same for me... smoking is my bigest pet peeve. With our LO's resp. issues our pulmonologist told us to keep him away from smoke as much as possible... Even second hand smoke can trigger breathing issues
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
@cagoldi I am open to seeing a therapist, and told DH I would a month or so ago because of other issues as well, but never made an appointment. I don't even know how to find someone. I've been to 2 therapists in my life and both times left feeling worse than when I went, so I never went back.
And now I sound like a nutcase! I promise, I'm not!
L did pretty well. No crying but he did bite the dentist....