Kicking already !?

kgould94

I'm only 15 weeks and 4 days but at night I'm pretty sure I feel the baby kicking me so hard. Is that normal ? I'm 112 pounds so everyone is telling me it's because I'm smaller built. Wanted to know from other mommies though !

mamahawk12

Definitely possible!! I've been feeling movement for the last 10 days or so. Nothing regular or super strong, but definitely baby. Enjoy it now, it gets less cute as they expand into your organs and rib cage

KonaCoffeeBean

Not sure how your weight would have anything to do with how early you can feel fetal movement.

musictchr25

KonaCoffeeBean said:

Not sure how your weight would have anything to do with how early you can feel fetal movement.

Good point. It doesn't have anything to do with it. 

delujm0

Your weight has nothing to do with it...it's more about how baby is positioned.

But yes it is possible at 15+ weeks to feel occassional kicks. You likely won't feel regular movement until the late 20's.

cnoel44

I'm 16 weeks and have definitely felt our active little one a few times already!

cmcards83

I am 17 weeks today and my sweet June baby is kicking up a storm right now! I can even see it! I haven't been too emotional up to this point but it just brought tears to my eyes.

mamahawk12

Hm, I didn't take her post as braggy at all. A lot of women mention their weight on here, and I can see how she would think being smaller might help you feel movement earlier (even though it has nothing to do with it.) It's hard to tell when you're a ftm.

littlegrapey

You are lucky. Some nights I think I feel something, but I can't be 100% sure if it's baby or gas right now.

musictchr25

sensitivesally said:

threearrows said:

sensitivesally said:

mamahawk12 said:

Hm, I didn't take her post as braggy at all. A lot of women mention their weight on here, and I can see how she would think being smaller might help you feel movement earlier (even though it has nothing to do with it.) It's hard to tell when you're a ftm.

She said her baby was kicking her "so hard."  She was not questioning whether it was a kick or not.  Andplusalso, people don't generally start off a conversation with their weight unless that's what they want people to comment on.

Everything about this post is braggy. 

I doubt if someone posted "I'm 180 lbs and small framed but totally feel the baby" it would be because they wanted people to comment on their weight. 

It's a weird double standard, IMO, that people that are smaller are considered braggy when they post their weight as a detail that explains what their reasoning is. If someone posted they weren't feeling movement because they were bigger, I highly doubt people would tell them they were bragging about being over weight.

I have yet to see anyone brag about being overweight or brag about being a normal weight.  It's not a double standard.  It's reality.

Society has made being thin "ideal" and unfortunately, those who mention their low weight, even in an attempt to explain something, are often mistaken for bragging about it. I think no matter what, we will always consider it bragging - that ideal doesn't really allow for those who are of normal weight or overweight to brag about something, because it's not considered "ideal". No one wants to be overweight - it's just "not ideal" according to society, therefore not brag-worthy. 

I hope that makes some sense.....

mamahawk12

I also have several close friends who struggle with low BMI due to thyroid issues, gastrointestinal issues, etc. Not everyone with a low weight wants to be that way, so I don't think it's fair to assume anyone is ever bragging about their weight unless their comment is something blatant, along the lines of "Wow, I'm so skinny it's hard to relate to all you fat bitches". If mentioning your weight is pertinent to your question or comment, it shouldn't matter if that number is 90 or 490.

Startwirler

Weight does make a difference, mostly if you are overweight though. It may be harder to feel if overweight. Most movement now is slight, not hard though...probably gas. I have felt movement for a few weeks but this is my fifth so my uterus is more sensitive.

musictchr25

Startwirler said:

Weight does make a difference, mostly if you are overweight though. It may be harder to feel if overweight. Most movement now is slight, not hard though...probably gas. I have felt movement for a few weeks but this is my fifth so my uterus is more sensitive.

Weight only makes a difference in feeling the baby move from the outside. If you're a little chubbier and have a few more layers of fat underneath your skin, other people may have a hard time feeling the baby's movements. As a pregnant woman, your weight has no impact on feeling the baby move from inside your body. 

littlegrapey

I didn't really read her post as being braggy. I saw the mention of her weight, and based on the context it was used I read it as though she was under the impression that due to her being smaller that it was possible to feel more intense movement of her baby sooner.

mamahawk12

"I'm 112 pounds so everyone is telling me it's because I'm smaller built. Wanted to know from other mommies though" does not equal "I'm 112 lbs so I can feel my baby and fatter women cannot."

ooopswediditagain

littlegrapey said:

I didn't really read her post as being braggy. I saw the mention of her weight, and based on the context it was used I read it as though she was under the impression that due to her being smaller that it was possible to feel more intense movement of her baby sooner.

It wasn't braggy at all. People generally only get offended because they are overweight themselves. I've been over weight and I've been thin. It absoluey is a double standard. She didn't say anythinge wrong. Having a negative reaction to her statement/question says way more about the person having the reaction than it does the OP. She was just asking a simple question and didn't say it was because of her weight she was saying she was told that could be why.

musictchr25

mamahawk12 said:

"I'm 112 pounds so everyone is telling me it's because I'm smaller built. Wanted to know from other mommies though" does not equal "I'm 112 lbs so I can feel my baby and fatter women cannot."

Actually, it kind of does. Leaving it at "I'm 112 pounds" is one thing, because that's just giving general information, but adding on "because I'm smaller built" brings in a comparison. Smaller than most women/normal women/larger women/overweight women.

ooopswediditagain

emilyzemily said:

I can understand the weight argument. I am a size 6-8 (2-4 in USA) but would NEVER say I can feel my baby sooner because i'm smaller than other people, weight has zero effect on the nerves that can feel the baby and I think op was wrong to say she can feel it earlier because of her weight. I can appreciate my size now and the fact I have a fast metabolism but growing up was totally different, I remember searching the internet desperate to find something I could take thay would make me put weight on. I had someone tell me it was my own fault i'm experiencing tummy pains a lot and RLP because of how small I am and I swear to god I wanted to punch them in the face!

My daughter has this exact problem. I can never find clothing to fit her. She is very tall but so thin I can't get pants to fit her. She's been asking me if there is something wrong with her because she is thin. I've had her doctor tell her she is totally fine. The sad part is we are so comfortable with being overweight in this country that clothing is even made bigger now. I was just like her when I was young. I am over weight now and that is my fault/responsibility. I certainly feel no ill will towards thin women. That's ridiculous.

darvo

@sensitivesally‌ Y u hate skinny ppl so much? (;

queequeg09256

Wow totally didn't take this as baggy in any way guess people need an excuse to be rude. Congrats on feeling the baby that is awesome and to all you other ladies out there

musictchr25

queequeg09256 said:

Wow totally didn't take this as baggy in any way guess people need an excuse to be rude. Congrats on feeling the baby that is awesome and to all you other ladies out there

Really? You're going to go there with this post? Maybe you should start your own thread and tell everyone how rude they are. 

mrs_massie

littlegrapey said:

I didn't really read her post as being braggy. I saw the mention of her weight, and based on the context it was used I read it as though she was under the impression that due to her being smaller that it was possible to feel more intense movement of her baby sooner.

I agree. I didn't see anything braggy from the OP. I don't think she was looking for anyone to comment on her weight. I think she was just looking for other people to tell her if it's normal for people of her build to feel strong movement this early.

I'm 5'8 and 165 pounds and every once in a while I think I can feel some. movement. I don't attribute that to my weight, but I do feel beautiful as a pregnant woman and I don't think that's anything to be ashamed of. I think everyone should share their weight proudly because we're all beautiful pregnant women!

megmama

mamahawk12 said:

"I'm 112 pounds so everyone is telling me it's because I'm smaller built. Wanted to know from other mommies though" does not equal "I'm 112 lbs so I can feel my baby and fatter women cannot."

I agree with this, OP might just be needing some input from other moms, it doesn't sound like she was intentionally bragging, I think she just wanted to get others experiences.. BUT I do respect everyones opinion, and if some people feel offended or that it's braggy, they are allowed to feel that way. 

mamahawk12

megmama said:

mamahawk12 said:

"I'm 112 pounds so everyone is telling me it's because I'm smaller built. Wanted to know from other mommies though" does not equal "I'm 112 lbs so I can feel my baby and fatter women cannot."

I agree with this, OP might just be needing some input from other moms, it doesn't sound like she was intentionally bragging, I think she just wanted to get others experiences.. BUT I do respect everyones opinion, and if some people feel offended or that it's braggy, they are allowed to feel that way. 

Ditto. I'm not sure where some of the comments are headed here, I was merely saying that given the context of her post, I didn't see anything braggy about it. Which, clearly, is a matter of interpretation. Personally, I'm a lot more annoyed by the weight posts that are a long the lines of "I'm so itty bitty (naturally, of course) and I'm just having the HARDEST TIME gaining weight this pregnancy. Am I normal!?" That would be a case where commenting on your size is irrelevant to the post.

delujm0

sensitivesally said:

littlegrapey said:

I didn't really read her post as being braggy. I saw the mention of her weight, and based on the context it was used I read it as though she was under the impression that due to her being smaller that it was possible to feel more intense movement of her baby sooner.

I can think of zero reasons other than bragging for OP to mention she is 112 pounds.  I stand by my opinion.  

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I kind if agree...I mean if OP said "I have a small build so maybe that's why" or "i have low BMI" rather than "here is my exact weight aren't I so small" I wouldn't have read it as baggy at all. But adding the weight is kind of braggy. I never read a post that says "is this because I weigh 140 or 150 or 160lbs?" It's always "is it because I'm some sub-120lb person?"

And this isn't about me being overweight and easily offended...i have normal BMI.

BabyList

Wow...that escalated quickly...

MZavakos

Congrats on feeling baby! Im moving into week 15 and hoping it happens soon! Im on baby 3 and still havent felt him/her yet. Excited for you!

mrs_massie

sensitivesally said:

MrsMassimilla said:

I agree. I didn't see anything braggy from the OP. I don't think she was looking for anyone to comment on her weight. I think she was just looking for other people to tell her if it's normal for people of her build to feel strong movement this early. I'm 5'8 and 165 pounds and every once in a while I think I can feel some. movement. I don't attribute that to my weight, but I do feel beautiful as a pregnant woman and I don't think that's anything to be ashamed of. I think everyone should share their weight proudly because we're all beautiful pregnant women!

Do you honestly think that sharing your height and weight here was more important than, I don't know, how far along you are?  At least OP gave us that.  On the June board, we are all at the point where for those due in later June it's maybe a bit too early for movement, but those due earlier in June are at the point where some may be beginning to feel some movement.  It's going to happen for all of us at some point or another.  Weight is insignificant, whether you are 165 pounds or 112 pounds.

I'm almost 16 weeks. I didnt purposely leave that information out. Don't be such a debbie downer.  The point that I was getting  across in my reply post was that it shouldn't matter what we weigh. We're pregnant and its beautiful no matter what size you are. Everyone will experience pregnancy in different ways and at  different times. I don't think it necessarily has to do with weight, but I don't think that anyone should have to feel bad for posting their weight no matter what size they are.  Congrats to you OP if you are feeling your baby kick. It's a a  beautiful thing and I can't wait until I'm sure that what I feel is my baby. 

michelleleehoy

Ha, sensitive Sally indeed!

thay33

I actually agree with @sensitivesally‌ honestly I feel if anyone needs to bring their weight into anything they are bragging... & honestly I don't want to see or know how much you weigh after how much I've gained since I've gotten pregnant. I totally think it's bragging.

thursdaychick

Why is she bragging about being skinny? 112 is not necessarily skinny.. it matters how tall she is. With her saying she is small built makes me think that she is probably average weight but small frame/short. She didn't have to mention her weight---but she probably wasn't thinking anything about it.

kp1325

I have to agree with the poster above - weight means nothing except in relation to height. Being 5'7" and 112 pounds is much different than being 5'0" and 112 pounds so I can't say that I agree that she was just trying to brag about her weight. People mention their weight for reference on this site all the time so I'm sure she didn't think anything of it.

And I get what everyone saying about how feeling the baby has nothing to do with weight or your size - but I will admit that at first, it made sense to me that someone who is smaller would have an easier time feeling the baby - my thought process went somewhat like "oh well, yeah, there's less to feel it through if you're smaller, that makes sense...." then 30 minutes and a coffee later "oh wait, you feel the baby moving from the inside... not the outside"

LaurenFlury

Yeah wow... Your response was just catty and mean. Would you like a trophy for that?

musictchr25

LaurenFlury said:

Yeah wow... Your response was just catty and mean. Would you like a trophy for that?

Who are you talking to? 

musictchr25

sensitivesally said:

LaurenFlury said:

Yeah wow... Your response was just catty and mean. Would you like a trophy for that?

Who are you talking to? 

I'm guessing me since I seem to have touched a nerve with the random noncontributing special snowflakes today. The dissenting opinions make for good discussion -- I'm always up for that, even when my opinion is in the minority -- but apparently calling me mean and restating my name like it's an insult is the most @laurenflury and friends are capable of when it comes to contributing to a discussion.

Well, at least we know it's effective...  8-|

mamahawk12

This has really gotten a little ridiculous. There have been, and will continue to be, far more substantial debates on the board. 

In summation, we all agree that you're an asshat if you use your weight, or the weight of others to make other women feel poorly about themselves. Regardless of what that number may be. 

Whether or not you found OP's comment to be intentionally offensive or "braggy" is up to your own interpretation. 

C6091

being a recovered anorexic this is a hard thread to read as it triggers painful memories & thoughts. Something I'm struggling with as my tummy grows. I support @sensitivesally‌ in what she is saying - women who struggle with their body image may read 'I'm 112lbs and think.. Wow I wish I was 112lbs' she's saying the context could be taken differently than how it's meant to be taken. I'm lucky I've been able to banish any thoughts of numbers and calories from my mind in the last year, but pregnancy has me thinking.. I'm not pretty, as I'm sure it has with any woman & not just about their weight. Everyone is perfect, embrace yourself. be content, but to say she must be fat if she's 'hating' on skinny people isn't the thing to say.. There's no such thing as 'fat' there's a woman who's sexy in one way and a woman who's sexy in another, whatever your shape.. If you are confident and happy you will appeal to anyone regardless of your size. If you believe your beautiful they will believe it too. To the point.. You will feel your baby when you feel it, it's internal.. I don't think it matters how much external skin you have.. so yeah just saying.. rant over. sorry.

kgould94

No need to be rude even my doctor said it's because I'm smaller thanks for being rude though

musictchr25

kgould94 said:

No need to be rude even my doctor said it's because I'm smaller thanks for being rude though

I said it before - not sure that you read the entire thread.

Weight/size only makes a difference in feeling the baby move from the outside. If you're a little chubbier and have a few more layers of fat underneath your skin, other people may have a hard time feeling the baby's movements. As a pregnant woman, your weight or size has no impact on feeling the baby move from inside your body. 

thursdaychick

C6091 said:

being a recovered anorexic this is a hard thread to read as it triggers painful memories & thoughts. Something I'm struggling with as my tummy grows. I support @sensitivesally‌ in what she is saying - women who struggle with their body image may read 'I'm 112lbs and think.. Wow I wish I was 112lbs' she's saying the context could be taken differently than how it's meant to be taken. I'm lucky I've been able to banish any thoughts of numbers and calories from my mind in the last year, but pregnancy has me thinking.. I'm not pretty, as I'm sure it has with any woman & not just about their weight. Everyone is perfect, embrace yourself. be content, but to say she must be fat if she's 'hating' on skinny people isn't the thing to say.. There's no such thing as 'fat' there's a woman who's sexy in one way and a woman who's sexy in another, whatever your shape.. If you are confident and happy you will appeal to anyone regardless of your size. If you believe your beautiful they will believe it too. To the point.. You will feel your baby when you feel it, it's internal.. I don't think it matters how much external skin you have.. so yeah just saying.. rant over. sorry.

agreed. I am too a recover anorexic ( about 6 months)...and lot of these threads are triggering when I see numbers. I am having a hard enough time right now with body changes. But this said, this is our issue ( anyone that has an issue with it), and it is something we have to deal with. I don't think anyone who mentions numbers has any intention to let other people down. and @ C6091: I know you didn't say anything negative about OP post. I was more agreeing with you with more input

Jurnee07

kgould94 said:

I'm only 15 weeks and 4 days but at night I'm pretty sure I feel the baby kicking me so hard. Is that normal ? I'm 112 pounds so everyone is telling me it's because I'm smaller built. Wanted to know from other mommies though !

It's sad that such a simple innocent thread was hijacked. If it is your baby kicking that's So awesome! Recently only thing I've felt has been stretching (i think).