ex issues

babs3137

So I'm 5 months preg. I have been trying to work through an ex of my guy -moving in onto the property of his moms. They were together 7 years. So yes it made me sick to my stomach once I found out she went behind his back to ask his mom if she could rent from her. She knew he would not be ok with it. Anyways months later she got drunk and cried and confessed to my man she wanted him back. But of course he doesn't want her back yet that's not grounds for her to be asked to move. I
Trust my guy .. and I know he resents his mom for allowing her to move in but I can't help but feel so infuriated. Especially since I went to her myself and she told me straight up she wasn't ever going to leave. I'm so upset with his mom and this situation has caused much turmoil between us. . I find myself being so angry and resenting his mom so much. To a point I cut off ties with her. And of course in turn that hurts my guy. I don't know how else I should handle this . I almost want to call it off with him cuz there has been so much damaging words exchanged and hurt hearts in this . Any encouraging words would be very much appreciated . .

polynomz

I think I caught the jist of this...maybe..

Letting this damage your relationship is probably the worst idea. Bitches like that are intimidated by strong relationships. So if its worth it to you stay strong and dont let her find any chinks in the armor.

isha12345

keep your relationship strong with your guy bacoz the woman will try to take advantage of even the slightest problem that arises between you and your guy..... be happy take care of yourself AND your guy and dont take stress

littlemissluc

If I were you, I would just walk away from anything that hurts me and my relationship. You want to build a strong and healthy enviroment for your baby to arrive to and you can not do that if you let someone who is not at all important cause so much trouble. Your MIL is obviously unaware of how sensitive this situation is but your relationship with her should not be your priority. If you have a man who loves you and wants to build a life with you and you have a baby on the way, that should be your number one priority. You can't make people change or go away and the harder you try, the worse it gets. Just let go of it all and focus on you, your man and your baby. The rest will go away eventualy.

missab

Let it run its course. Is your feeling that his mom did this because she would like them back together, or is she just making a wise business decision that has nothing to do with emotions? I think understanding HER motive would have a significant impact on how I would handle the situation (I.e. Have grounds for distancing myself from the mother because she might not have my growing family's best interests in mind versus her being a smart savvy lady who needed a renter and if she can separate the two (with no other driving motive) so could I.)

redneckmomma25

It just sounds so high school to me. If you have a strong relationship then what is there to worry about? Why are there issues? Is it you not trusting that is putting a strain on your relationship? What is your SO doing that is making you think it is a bad idea for her live where she is? Is his mother being manipulative trying to get them back together? Adults are normally still capable of working relationships after break ups.

Your post was just a bit difficult to understand. You may want to re read and edit for clarity.

redneckmomma25

You should really be able to check history while mobile....you listening bump gods?

mooreamanda6213

rsaj0807 said:

After reading the heartbreaking thread from Fro, I can't even deal with this right now. It all seems so juvenile.

This. I cannot believe the ignorance of some people. Fro had such a terrible loss. I dont even know her personally and my heart is breaking for her and her family. I think that the OP has some nerve to even post such a trivial issue. Things could be a lot worse in life OP. How about you check out the loss thread from last night and then rethink how bad things really are. Count your blessings.

ally3242

Just read that original post. Where's the Tylenol? 

taahira

I just can't even touch this post. My heart is breaking for the OP who is losing her baby.
Please take your petty problems else where.

somewheresublime86

I blame this post for the fact that I've had Natalie Imbrughlia's 'Torn' stuck in my head ALL morning.

taahira

somerandomchick said:

taahira said:

I just can't even touch this post. My heart is breaking for the OP who is losing her baby.
Please take your petty problems else where.

People are still allowed to have stupid problems even when others on the board are going through really hard times

But I do agree that the title made me think it was something serious, related to unborn baby health. And by the 'torn' I thought there was some really hard decision needing to be made and that the OP would need some hugs.

I agree people are allowed to have stupid problems, whether someone is going through heartbreaking issues.

I would never have clicked on this post if the title indicated "issues with my ex" or something similar. The title appeared to be a serious issue, with her baby or her health. I clicked to give my support, encouragement, and hugs. After reading the post I found it petty and overly dramatic considering there are people on here dealing with some real life changing problems.

angelike81

If you have a good man then you shouldn't let this break you up. Forgive his mother and like Elsa says let it go. So what if this woman wants him back. Right now she has a front row seat and is probably very entertained with the drama she is causing. She is getting the reaction out of you that she wants. How about instead you decide to not let it bother you and try to get a long with his mother. If your man hasn't given you any reason to doubt him then trust him. Decide to be happy regardless of where is ex lives. Be the bigger person. And if your talking to his mom and if his mom see how happy you are together his ex will find out and know her little game isn't working

ihatetomatoes

I started to type out a long winded reply and just realized I can't give enough of a shit to do so. Is your baby healthy? Your man is still with you and loves you and your family to be? Do you have a roof over your head and food to eat? Yes? Good enough. You're fine. Some day we all have to grow up.

JaneShops

Ugh, the title tricked me

JaneShops

Haha @frownyface‌, i think you & everyone out there is itching for another D-princess that they're rushing Moana. But we still gotta wait until 2016.. Sigh..

nomesy

Yeah I'm not feeling the need to even respond , but here I am , and here's my advice ... Pineapples. That is all.

RNmama2b

nomesy said:

Yeah I'm not feeling the need to even respond , but here I am , and here's my advice ... Pineapples. That is all.

I want pineapple now!

JaneShops

Mm pineapples
If the market doesn't have fresh, I might grab a can of dole pineapple rings

babs3137

I appreciate the feedback .. I apologize for the readers who were upset by my issue. I'm still new to this and trying to navigate through the site. Anyways yes I was a bit emotional over this and I thank the kind non judgmental replies. Obviously everyone has their own battles to work through and this is currently mine. So moving on again thank you for taking the time to read and respond.

Happy holidays !!
BC♡

babs3137

Ok . I began in October that doesn't mean I spent all this time since trying to figure out the site. Thank you

missab

babs3137 said:

Ok . I began in October that doesn't mean I spent all this time since trying to figure out the site. Thank you

@babs3137‌ - would you mind changing the title of your post as PPs have suggested? Even just saying "(not baby related)" or something would be helpful so that people don't open the thread expecting the post to be about a loss or pregnancy hardship. That would really help a lot.

Edit words are hard this morning

cwiceangel

@JaneShops‌ there's a new Disney princess coming?

JaneShops

@cwiceangel‌ sorry for my late response, but Yes! I think she's hawaiian?