TTC After a Loss

Hello there

hello ladies,
I am too ttc after a loss. I had a missed miscarriage in July of this year and it was probably the most horrible experience I have had in my whole life. I love that this forum is here for support. There is no one I can really be frank with about how I fee about losing our baby. I've had people even say "you can't be sad every day"

Re: Hello there

  • I am so sorry for you loss ((((hugs)))). One of the things you will discover is that people do not know how to respond to a loss. You are grieving the loss of your child and no one has the right to tell you how to do that or to tell you when to stop being sad.

    The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise
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  • I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome. I have days or weeks where I feel better and then I will have terrible days. It comes in waves. I hope you can also talk to your SO about it.

    Me: 31 DH: 36
    Dated Since ‘02, Married in ‘06
    BFP#1 05/16/06, EDD01/16/07, MC 06/12/06 at 8 weeks
    BFP #2 08/14/14, EDD 04/22/15, MC 09/17/14 at 9 weeks

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss and that people have reacted like that.  You learn a lot about people when you have gone through a loss and they haven't.  Bottom line only you know how to grieve for your child, no one else can tell you how to feel. (hugs)
    Me: 31     DH: 33
    Dx: Me: Recurrent Pregnancy Loss; DH: Low Morphology (2%)
    BFP#1: MC 3/1/11 at 6w1d - EDD 10/21/11
    BFP#2: 5/3/11 - EDD 1/9/12 - DD Born 1/6/12
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    TTC #2 since 12/13
    BFP#3: MC 2/8/14 at 4w5d - EDD 10/13/14
    BFP#4: MC 5/6/14 at 4w4d - EDD 1/9/15
    BFP#5: MMC discovered 8/4/14 at 9w1d - D&C 8/5/14 - Baby Boy with Trisomy 16 (maternal origin) - EDD 3/8/15
    BFP#6: CP 11/6/14 at 4w2d - EDD 7/14/15
    IVF #1 with ICSI & PGS: May/June 2015, ER 6/3/15, 17R/17M/15F
    IVF #2 with ICSI & PGS: July 2015, ER 7/16/15, 16R/11M/9F
    PGS results = 6 normal embryos (4 boys, 2 girls)
    FET 9/23/15 = BFFN
    Natural FET 11/4/15 = BFP!
    Beta 9dp5dt = 92

  • I am so sorry for your loss but welcome. I hope you find support and comfort here as I have. 

    What the others have said it true, no one else can tell you how to feel. Sorry that you have heard some insensitive things. Some people just don't understand or know what to say *hug* 
    I am not sure how to say this without getting a "solicitation" warning so I guess I just say that I am not longer active on THIS site. 



  • Welcome! I'm so sorry about your loss. I totally understand what you mean about not having anyone to talk to about this stuff. It's like this horrible, lonely club that no one wants to be in. 

    Me: 28 MH: 28  Married10/27/2012

    TTC Baby #1

    BFP: 9/2014 EDD: 6/9/2015 MC: 10/13/2014



  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  Welcome and I hope you can find some comfort here.
                                                                                              BFP #1 3/2/12, T born 11/7/12
                                                                                                 BFP #2  7/2/14, CP 7/6/14
                                 BFP #3 8/28/14, MMC 10/2/14 @ 9wks - misoprostol 10/6/14, D&C 11/3/14 for retained tissue
                                       BFP #4 12/25/14, EDD 9/7/15 - please stick baby, you are so loved and wanted!!!!!                                                                                           
                                                                                                                                                   
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. Welcome

    Married 9/13/14

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    Me: 24 / DH: 24

    BFP#1 10/15/14 - EDD 6/19/2014 - MC 10/23/14

    BFP #2: 12/18/14 - EDD: 8/31/15 - MC 1/4/14 5w6d

    **Currently Benched until TBD**

    My Chart


  • I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you will find comfort and support here.

    I suffered a missed miscarriage in September and not a day goes by that I don't think about it and feel an ache. Some days are better than others, but the loss (the worst thing I've ever experienced) will always be a part of me. You're not alone in your sadness. 
    * Me: 31, DH: 33 * Married 10.16.10 * Parents of our furbaby Sophie *
    BFP: 8.28.14 | EDD 5.6.15 | MMC Discovered 9.25.14 (8 weeks)| D&C 9.30.14

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    "Everybody here has got a story to tell. Everybody's been through their own hell. There's nothing too special about getting hurt, but getting over it that takes the work. Because one way or another, we all need each other. Nothing's going to turn out the way you thought it would. Friends and lovers, don't you duck and cover because everything comes out the way it should in the end." -Glen Phillips, "Duck and Cover" 


  • I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board! You have every right to grieve as long and exactly how you want to.  ((hugs))
    Me: 26 DH:28
    TTC - Sept 2014
    # 1 BFP - October 5, 2014 EDD June 5, 2015 CP - October 14, 2014


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  • Welcome. I am sorry for your loss.

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  • I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome to this board.
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    I'll be at a new place providing support. 


  • Sorry for your loss. Welcome!

    IUI#3 brought us our dragon baby Z

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  • Welcome, I'm sorry for you loss.  ::hugs::  I'm sorry that you've encountered some stupid people and they've said such hurtful things.
    Me (29) + DH (31) = Married 9 1/2 years
    BFP 11/9/14 - EDD 7/15/15 - natural MC at 8w5d   
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  • I'm very sorry for your loss.  ((((HUGS)))  Never let anyone tell you how (or how long) to grieve for your baby. 
    TTC #3 since 8/2012 image
    DX Endometriosis 2/2002 (lost left tube due to a cyst), PCOS
    6/2010
     BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013
    BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014

    My chart here  All ALers welcome!
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  • So sorry for your loss. You will heal in your own time, it's a process. Don't let others bully you into feeling better if you're not ready! Hugs.
    started TTC 3/2014 & got hitched 4/2014
    husbter's a 38 y/o smarty pants phD/me? a 27 y/o cat lady extraordinaire
    & we're missing our darling barnacles:
    May 2014 loss @ 9 weeks, MMC, no hb found at first appointment | edd dec 4 2014
    October 2014 loss @ 12 weeks, MMC measuring 10w after hearing hb @ 8w | edd apr 15, 2015
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