For the new daddy to be...

dbk28 · December 2014

I hope this doesn't sound too braggy ... But my husband has been amazing. I don't know how I would have gotten through this all without his help and he's worked so hard to keep the house in order, keep me sane and healthy, etc.

Any ideas for something I can do for him?? Something special since when baby comes it will be all about baby and for the last 9ish months it's been all about me! Thanks in advance, you moms are awesome!!

snowbaby1214 · December 2014

The only thing my DH seems to think of as a reward is head. That's all he ever wants as a gift.

shannjohnston · December 2014

My immediate thought was: steak and a bj
I'm just glad @snowbaby1214‌ said it first.

snowbaby1214 · December 2014

Oh, steak! That's good, too!

dbk28 · December 2014

I was afraid you all would say that... Lol. You are probably right though!

tkr7c9 · December 2014

What PP said is exactly what my DH would want too.... unfortunately.

LadyXaverian · December 2014

saiven said:

You made him a baby. Seems like a fair trade.

Yeah, I grew a human. But thanks for doing the laundry, though.

I thank him and tell him I appreciate him all the time. Hopefully he doesn't feel like he needs anything above and beyond that andplusalso a baby.

elleswarth · December 2014

BJ's are how I get shit done around my house. For instance, I will trade one BJ for the whole house to be mopped and vacuumed, and he always agrees. Granted, he will do things without the promise of such, but when it's something big, I usually try to make it a trade. I think trading your DH 9 months, your pre-pregnancy body and all the uncomfortable crap that comes along with pregnancy for one baby is a fair trade.

britb618 · December 2014

Before my daughter was born we went and got couples massages together. It was a little lets celebrate us and what is about to happen and a little I appreciate who you are etc. My husband loved it. I did it again last weekend for our anniversary and once again, huge hit. While yes I agree that a baby is the ultimate gift to both of you its nice to show your appreciation for your loved ones, just like he's shown his appreciation for you by helping out etc. We plan to keep up this once a year thing (at least once a year) where we go away just the two of us for a night and get massages at a swanky hotel. I personally prefer when I'm not pregnant because I get nauseous easily during the massage so maybe schedule it for a month after baby is born or something (if you can swing it) My hubs and I have same bank account so it wasn't so much the actual spending of money by one of us, it was more that I planned something for us that he really enjoys. He always talks to his friends/family about how he loves when I do that

so just a thought, and yea if you do the hotel he'll prob expect a bj lol!

jennielynn+ · December 2014

My husband has been awesome too! He is not BJ deprived so, that leaves that out. I love the couples massage idea and steak. That is a gift both sides of the couple can enjoy.

I am getting a few of the cute books Dads can read to/with baby. He will get them at Christmas as something to look forward to when the baby gets here. I also thought of one of the baby wearing things he put on our registry... the Ergo maybe? We are pretty active outside and since he put it on the registry, I figure it was important to him. It is not something we would typically splurge on so, I think it would be a thoughtful gift.

southernyankeegirl · December 2014

I bought him his own diaper bag, so he can keep doing his half of the parenting. And I bought him the mop he likes so he'll keep doing his part of the housework.

I also bought him an espresso machine for Christmas as I know we'll both need the caffeine when sleep deprived!

mali3 · December 2014

My husband is fantastic as well, I couldnt ask for a better one. He has his hobbies and I plan on buying something for him and giving it to him when the baby is born to "thank" him for everything he has done. Of course I expect husbands to always be there for you no matter what, but to me he has gone above and beyond what I ever would expect from him (when I am too tired and lazy to do things).

I think doing something special for your husband is a good idea, especially if hes been doing special things for you...outside doing laundry, cleaning, dishes, etc.

bustysinclare · December 2014

Steak, BJ, Guy's night? For xmas I'm getting hubby an PS4 which is WAAAAAY more than I'd normally do for any gift - but it's good for us with a new baby because we will barely be leaving the house for a while

Maebb · December 2014

Now I wonder if I've been giving out BJs too willy-nilly because I don't ever get anything for them (other than sex). Hmmm.

Last time I got DH an "awesome dad" coffee mug. This time I will get him scotch. He'll need it with two kids.

LaBellaVida · December 2014

Nothing. I've received 1 (ONE) measly back rub, and only because I was on the verge of tears.

He's done no housework, or really taken care of the kids.

He could have done allot more, but he chooses not to. It is what it is...... But I'm certainly not going to buy him anything. He's getting a baby. That's it.

Not even a steak, or bj. /shrugs

I'd probably be more inclined to show my appreciation if he did more.

llambrose · December 2014

Yeah, I am not big into this idea. My husband has had to pick up some slack around the house but it really seems only fair considering I am growing a baby. When I am not pregnant, I do most of the work (probably a 70/30 split) so I figure he can handle a couple of months of grocery shopping and house cleaning, especially since I work full time and he doesn't. I don't do bj's under any circumstances so I certainly wouldn't do that! Lol! The only thing that I can really see myself doing is something cute and more sentimental like framing a picture of the two of them or making a coffee mug with pictures on it or something like that.

HStrawberry · December 2014

My DH has been super helpful around the house and has taken on a ton of our big reno projects by himself. I cook and bake for him regularly.. I've been trying hard to keep it up during the last few weeks. I've been making his favorites since he has been so amazing during the whole pregnancy. The way to his heart is definitely through his stomach

he has one of those annoyingly fast metabolisms and eats like a teenager so treats don't last long.. It's a big job lol

4littlebears · December 2014

My DH is getting a baby, and a vasectomy (his choice!). And he is quite helpful.

Jellybean707 · December 2014

We also don't believe in sex acts as a reward or in exchange for something. Adding a "this for that" type of dynamic to our sex life just isn't for us.

As far as him being awesomely supportive during my pregnancy, well la dee da. I grow the baby, he supports me in whatever way he can and we both get a child added to our family at the end.

I do my best to show my appreciation for him by thanking him for his hard work and doing my share in our partnership.

Beauxbaton · December 2014

Am I the only one who's a husband who if I offer a bj he just goes "I'm fine?"

4littlebears · December 2014

CuppyCakes721 said:
Am I the only one who's a husband who if I offer a bj he just goes "I'm fine?"

Not mine, but I don't care for him being down there on me. I think it's gross and I won't kiss him after either. Bodily functions and all that jazz.

llambrose · December 2014

Not mine, but I don't care for him being down there on me. I think it's gross and I won't kiss him after either. Bodily functions and all that jazz.

I broke the quote...

This is exactly me! I find both things gross and I don't want my poor mouth anywhere near genitals! I don't feel bad for not giving oral at all because I do not expect to receive it.

LaBellaVida · December 2014

Some of you girls are broken.

Mmkay 2 of you.

:P

4littlebears · December 2014

@LaBellaVida I will admit this whole heartedly!! Ha ha!

I just have a thing about germs... yuk

dbk28 · December 2014

These are such great ideas!!! I just feel SOOO lazy lately and it seems like every time I turn around DH is in the kitchen, with the vacuum, in the laundry room, at the store. I've done nothing around the house in like 6 weeks and I work 12 hour days... Thanks to all the ladies who understand I want to show him that I've noticed it and appreciate it (and really want it to continue LOL!!). January is right around the corner. We can do this

kilayla13 · December 2014

Unfortunately buying my man things is a real challenge for me....before we met I used to always get gifts for my exes and splurge.... since he and I met I haven't at all... figured he was a keeper cause he does everything for me.... he recently made the baby monitor we are going to use and he loves to buy baby clothes online. we do everything together and agree on everything because we share money.. I dont feel like I need to go out of my way until the baby is here. Especially since she will be born close to his birthday... I have a real challenge on my hands... probably going to ask around for advice when I am finally done with my job...

susannahbrynn · December 2014

I was going to get DH a book of dad jokes. Nothing else, really, but thought it might be a fun way to get started as a dad. He's kinda nervous about it (being a good dad) and gets pretty worked up sometimes.

Maebb · December 2014

I forgot - I got this book for DH too, but I can't remember if I got it for him when DS was born or for Father's Day.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0740750240/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1418852874&sr=8-1

peggels24 · December 2014

Um...when I'm really pleased with something that he's done, I say "You da best" but we don't really keep track of who does what and when (or maybe he does and just doesn't tell me). If the laundry needs to get done, one of us does it. If dinner needs to be made, someone makes it or orders something or we go out. If grocery shopping needs to be done, someone does it. He does the majority of the improvements and landscaping around the house but that is only because he won't let me hire someone to do them.

Disneygeek77 · December 2014

Does he have a favorite sports team ? Maybe get him and the baby matching caps or hats ?

tbowen18 · December 2014

My hubby enjoys whiskey so I will be getting him a nice bottle of whiskey (the expensive kind he doesn't normally buy) and a flask...perhaps your SO would enjoy something like that too?