New to the board. Just turned 36 been TTC since June with no luck yet

Jess8791 · December 2014

Hello,

I am new to the board. I have been reading on here for a few months now but thought it would be a good time to post! I got married in June 2013. This past Jan I got a new job so we had to hold off on the TTC until the timing would put me in my role after a year (you know the maternity leave rules

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I use the Ovia app, I havent been religiously taking OPKs or charting my BBT but I know I need to. I feel like every month I can just tell when I am ovulating as I get the clear CM and my app seems to predict everything correctly. In November since we weren't having luck yet my Dr had me get an HSG on 11/18 and I found out my tubes were open. Hubby doesn't feel comfortable going to get his counts checked, so he did an OTC kit from Target and it came out normal. Weird thing happened like 5 days after my HSG I started having brown spotting (I did have red spotting the day of a little the next day) and then my right eye compulsively twitched for 2 days straight. My spotting lasted about 7-8 (11/23-12/30) days and I thought first could I have been pregnant that fast (I heard the HSG could sometimes help) but I thought no way! We BDd the day after the HSG so I thought perhaps.. well a bunch of BFNs and I figured not the case and chalked it up as AF coming a week early. My Dr said HSG does not affect your cycle.. but I think that is untrue.

Last week according to Ovia and I took some OPKs that I was ovulating around 12/8. We Bd'd on 12/8, 12/10 (we tried the Stork OTC this day) and then again on 12/11. I had the clear stretchy CM and everything then. Well then weirdest thing ever. Starting last night I started getting cramps that felt like AF. Then I had even more CM the stretchy egg white kind and still have cramps today. I took an OPK to see was it inaccurate last week, but it came up negative. WEIRD again! AF is due around 12/21 so I dont know if this could be implantation or just another weird HSG side effect happening again and AF is coming early. Any ideas? I would love any help or support. I just really wish this is our month!!!

kelley72 · December 2014

First, welcome and best wishes!

Second, I have no experience or knowledge re hsg's other's may and will probably comment, but if my doctor said something and I didn't believe him I'd be looking for another physician one that I trusted his expertise in.

I hope you find you have no need, but the general thought as we hit the 35 mark is to ttc with well timed intercourse for six months and if you are ready to at that point move on to an RE for further testing and assistance.

I highly suggest if you aren't + this cycle then read Taking Charge Of Your Fertility, look into charting with fertility friend and make use of your bbt!

Again, best wishes

vh2014 · December 2014

Welcome! I have been having "ovulation cramps" for about 3 months now.. at least once a week. LOL. It's amazing the tricks your mind and body play on you during this journey. Have to echo @kelley72 if you don't trust your ob/gyn get a new one. It's going to be at least a 9 month journey with them so you want to trust them.

Jess8791 · December 2014

Thanks for your comments! Its so hard when it comes to a dr and finding the "right" one. Especially that I likely may need more of a fertility dr and definitely a new OB at this point and I can't ask friends for recommendations as I dont want to tell them we are TTC because it just adds to the disappointment every month when its a BFN and people keep wondering you know!? What would you recommend?

flyliceandcoffee · December 2014

don't have much to add since I know not much if anything about HSGs, but wanted to say welcome and good luck!

Jess8791 · December 2014

Thanks again! Good luck to you all too

Random question: Have any of you experienced EWCM and OPK -?? I got OPK + last week and a little EWCM and now yesterday and today I have a lot of EWCM and cramping but OPK says -. I know you ovulate once per cycle so that is weird to me

Confusing!!!

kelley72 · December 2014

Yes, ewcm even after confirmed O with bbt but it is know big deal. That is why temping is so important, +opks and ewcm point to fertile state but don't confirm ovulation. You (general you not necessarily you in particular) can have multiple lh surges without ovulation.

Jess8791 · December 2014

Thanks Kelley that makes sense!

Nikolie93 · December 2014

Hello and welcome to the board!

I am not familiar with hsg's so no help there and good advice has already been given. I want to second (or third or fourth) fertility friend and temping.

Good luck to you!

spartandawg · December 2014

I had an HSG (miserable experience), however my cycle didn't change and I had no side effects (not even any spotting). I was a little shaky for about an hour after the procedure but that was it. So, I am doubting that you are having HSG side effects nearly a month later. Of course, the best idea would be to ask your RE.

Jess8791 · December 2014

@spartandawg I second you on the HSG experience! Worst pain I have experienced to date in life!

I just signed up for FF today and looking at the ovulation predictor calendar on there VS Ovia is tremendously different. Do either of you prefer one tracker over the other?

emsmama15 · December 2014

Hi and welcome! You'll find a lot of the ladies here use, and prefer FF. It learns your cycles and can help predict things better. The best (only) way to confirm ovulation though is by temping. My recommendation is that if you feel you've had well timed intercourse for six months, just head to a RE. Don't waste time with an OBGYN. Which is not to say you don't need a new one if you don't trust the one you have. Good luck!l

hooligans4 · December 2014

Welcome.
Everyone else gave great advice.

MySallyGirl · December 2014

Welcome to the board!

wannabmama23 · December 2014

Welcome! Nothing to add (except FF is awesome). Good luck!

CML11 · December 2014

After my HSG I also had some spotting off and on. My HSG hurt like hell too. I feel your pain!

Also FYI the OTC SA kit will only test sperm count. So it's a good place to start, but it cannot tell you motility, morphology and PH.

I used to use phone Apps when I first starting TTC. But in reality, an app can't factor in that you were stressed or sick and didn't O when your app said your should have even though you got EWCM. You can only know for sure that you O'd if you temped.

Good luck to you, and FX this was your month.