A Goodbye and Prayers for You All...Baby is Great!

suszbaker · December 2014

I just wanted to say goodbye to you all and thanks to those that been supportive and not judgmental to me. I want you to know that I will think of you. You and your babies will be in my prayers as we approach our due dates. I can now refer to BD as SO from this point on. He came back from his discernment retreat a couple of days ago. He has officially decided to leave the church and early in the new year he will be taking an awesome job with the company he worked for before he entered the seminary. He is so happy and so confident in his decision. You can imagine how ecstatic this has made me. It was the longest two weeks ever! This is going to be difficult for all of us, but he will bear the brunt of it. He will speak to the congregation next weekend. I don't know if this is the right decision, but it is what he has decided he wants. The last mass he celebrated was on Thanksgiving Day. I think he knew that before hand. He asked his Mom to come to it. The reason that I am saying goodbye is that we met with an assistant to the Bishop last night and he told us that we shouldn't be discussing our situation....we shouldn't try to glamorize it in any way. We're just supposed to quietly endure the long process that this will be. Please say a prayer for my SO. He is a wonderful man. He is going from being a celibate living with other celibates to being in a family with one child and one on the way. (Okay, that even sounds funny to me....he was living as a celibate until one crazy night in August) We won't be living together...at least for now. Lots of adjustments and learning to come for all of us. Baby is doing great and I'm feeling pretty awesome....a little tired because I have been working so much. Merry Christmas! Thanks again.....

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josim · December 2014

Best wishes to you and your family. I've been thinking about you, and am so very happy for you!!

headovaheels · December 2014

I wish you many blessings on your journey of becoming a family. I'm happy that everything seems to be working out. Wish you didn't have to quit us

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DawnLilly · December 2014

Don't forget about yourself in this adjustment. His acclamation is not the only that matters. Find a confidante outside of the Church.

jil1210 · December 2014

Best of luck to you and your family! Hope everything continues to go well and you're able to find a safe place to discuss all of the changes you are experiencing.

marijaa333 · December 2014

Thank you for the update - I am very happy for you both and most of all for the kiddo.

Your Bishop sounds like a wonderful person, and I wish there were more people in the world, regardless of their affiliation with any church, who were encouraging and supporting us all to be more humble and mindful of what and how we share our lives with the world. I would just make the case that you will also need a reasonable confidante, and sometimes those not directly in your environment can be good options because they have no stake and less bias. I don't know if this board is ideal, but I would encourage you to consult a therapist or someone else you trust when you need to. A minister in your church could be a good option for most situations but it may be difficult for their advice to be objective in this one; having said this, the Bishop definitely sounds supportive, and you sound like you have the ability to figure all this out on your own. All I wanted to say is: don't isolate yourself from human contact and from your very natural need to discuss the situation when you need to, with a small circle of people you trust (which may or may not include those to whom you are totally anonymous...).

Merry Christmas to you all!

ETA: Only now seeing @DawnLilly's post and I agree completely.

brose1117 · December 2014

I am wishing you and your family the best of luck.

gsancho · December 2014

Best of luck to you!

tinalovescauliflower · December 2014

Good luck to you and your family!

HSTeacherHeidi · December 2014

marijaa333 said:
Thank you for the update - I am very happy for you both and most of all for the kiddo.

Your Bishop sounds like a wonderful person, and I wish there were more people in the world, regardless of their affiliation with any church, who were encouraging and supporting us all to be more humble and mindful of what and how we share our lives with the world. I would just make the case that you will also need a reasonable confidante, and sometimes those not directly in your environment can be good options because they have no stake and less bias. I don't know if this board is ideal, but I would encourage you to consult a therapist or someone else you trust when you need to. A minister in your church could be a good option for most situations but it may be difficult for their advice to be objective in this one; having said this, the Bishop definitely sounds supportive, and you sound like you have the ability to figure all this out on your own. All I wanted to say is: don't isolate yourself from human contact and from your very natural need to discuss the situation when you need to, with a small circle of people you trust (which may or may not include those to whom you are totally anonymous...).

Merry Christmas to you all!

ETA: Only now seeing @DawnLilly's post and I agree completely.

Goodluck and totally agree with above!!!!

lgsdesigner · December 2014

I wish you and your family the very best, and hope to see you back here one day. Take care!

rivers714 · December 2014

Thus made my weekend!!! Good luck

mpower0606 · December 2014

So happy things are working out for you and your family!! Wish you were able to stay-please come back to update. Good luck & lots of love to you >:D<

VeganOnTuesdays · December 2014

Good luck! Sending you many thoughts and prayers as you continue your journey!

Poppy715 · December 2014

I'm glad to hear you both found a solution that will work for each of you. I wish your family nothing but happiness. I'm thinking of you and your SO as you both work through this transition. Take care!