Thoughts on O after MC

vmatt850

So, I had an MC on 10/28 - my dr said, "I see no reason that you two can't try again right away." Great! When I asked her, "should I wait for my next cycle to make sure everything is back to normal?" She didn't seem too concerned, she just basically just repeated the first sentence.

I guess I was just a little confused by her sort of nonchalant attitude..? Has anyone else been given approval to TTC before their bodies even return back to normal?

It's been 2 weeks since it happened but, it's really been weighing on my mind. I am definitely going to call and ask to speak to another OB/GYN just to make sure. She wasn't my regular dr, as he was on vacation at the time. And since she handled my MC, my follow up was with her.

nicnackmama

My midwife said that she would recommend waiting until after 1 cycle.  But she added that if we felt ready mentally and my body allowed us to get pregnant again before then, that it was okay also.  She said she has several patients who got pregnant after a mc and before AF and had healthy pregnancies.  From what I've read it can be hard to predict O after a mc.  Good luck OP.  

vmatt850

@wickedsugar‌ sorry - I haven't been on TB on a computer yet and can't figure out how to do the siggy via the app. It was an early pregnancy MC. 5 weeks, naturally.

@nicnackmama‌ I feel ready mentally. I had just found out I was pregnant 5 days before my miscarriage. And before that, I didn't even know if we were able to conceive. Then, bam, first time trying and it happened. If anything, I am just over the moon that the ability is there. Eager, even, to try again! Just sort of went against what I have seen on this board/what most doctors seem to advise?

welly01

My doctor had similar advice to yours. We didn't wait for AF and just started trying right away.

buggirl72

I am sorry for your loss. I think speaking with your regular doctor first is a good plan. Even if you miscarried only five days after finding out you were pregnant, that does not tell us how far you were - only that you did not know for very long. Also, everybody and every miscarriage is different. Following your doctors advice is the best thing but, in this case, I would consult the doctor who knows you first.
Finally, while some women can get pregnant the cycle after a loss and go on to have a healthy, no complication pregnancy, many don't. I have seen far too many women on this board have back to back losses. I'm not saying this to scare you. I am telling you this because back to back losses suck. Allowing yourself time to heal both emotionally and physically is very important.

Nikolie93

It doesn't sound like you're ready or that you feel comfortable with the advice you were given. If I were in your shoes I would wait to talk to your regular Dr.

And as the other ladies said, make sure you're ready mentally. That's just as important as being ready physically. Good luck to you!

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Littleowl913

After my D&C my OB told me to wait one cycle. If this doc didn't feel right, definitely talk to your regular OB.