New LO (not mine) x2 recently...:(

AuntieMissy76

Our close friends (lesbian couple) had a boy 8 weeks ago and DH's cousin (like a brother to him) had a boy today. Both started TTC after we did. The new LO born today was their second attempt after she had crazy cycles and a blighted ovum the first time around. The girls had the obvious obstacle of having to get donor sperm and do IUI and got BFP first cycle they had. All of this is wonderful for them and I am so happy for them and met one last week and the other we're going to the hospital to meet tomorrow. I just closed my door at work and looked at the picture they sent and cried while I texted him to see how her labour had gone and let him tell me about crazy tearing due to forceps and how much it hurt him to see her in pain. Told him to be prepared to do all the running around and lifting for her and try to let her sleep. Told him to get her warm damp facecloths to put on her chest when her milk comes in to help with the let down. Was proud of him for being strong and for getting over the gross and cutting the cord. Was really sweet conversation and they will be amazing parents....but my tears were not of joy for them. They were heartache that we have been trying for longer than both other couples and haven't had any luck. Maybe it's best that I am benched for this month. Maybe I need an emotional break. Maybe we're meant to be parents in 2015? I need a BFP soon. All I want is one healthy LO to love. I can't make these comments to anyone because I don't want to take away from their moment. I can't even stress DH out by letting him know how sad I am. All I can do is vent here. I can't wait for our happy moment.

hooligans4

I'm sorry. I will just send you hugs

dream2be3

I completely understand what it's like to be happy for someone else but at the same time be heartbroken because you want it to be you. You can vent here anytime! I'm sorry you haven't gotten your BFP yet...lots of hugs to you!

Nikolie93

I'm so sorry, hon. So many *hugs* to you.

kindershlitz

I'm sorry. It's hard and your feeling are so understandable.

MySallyGirl

totally understandable. Sending hugs

KateLouise

I'm so sorry you're having a tough time.

Big hugs to you. This is the perfect place to vent anytime you need to!

boymamaco

I'm so sorry. Was there for many years. Sometimes I'd plan to do something special for myself - a massage, play hookey and go to yoga, get a mani, whatever to just break/be on my own/ and get whatever I needed to allow my feelings to be heard. Big hugs to you!

Davie813

I'm sorry. My SIL had a baby this week, too, and I had some similar feelings. Unlike you, I didn't give any kindly advice or heartfelt congratulations. I said my congrats quickly, then railed to DH for awhile about the awfulness of the name they chose. Because I never claimed to be especially nice. And it _was_ awful.

In all seriousness, your emotional generosity is wonderful. But you have to be kind to yourself, too, know your limits, and do or don't do whatever you need to make this whole thing bearable to you.

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vh2014

Vent away. . Impressed that you could give such good advice and keep your crap together to do so. Hope you are sitting on the lucky bench so when you get back in the game is BFP time.

kelley72

I'm just commenting now bc I had a rough couple of days myself a week ago.  I'm so sorry you are in pain and so hopeful for you at the same time!  Hope you've had a good cry and ?wine/chocolate perhaps both to have a moment to yourself.  Best wishes for you