Coming back and man is she CRAZY...

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Hey ladies... it's been a while, my apologies.  I'm a photographer (in addition to being a teacher) so my summer/fall is super super hectic (wedding anyone?  October is the new June in New England).  but THANKFULLY it's slowed down so I finally had a chance to visit and not feel guilty about "wasting time."  LOL  So, hope all is well, I see some new additions - CONGRATS!  no new additions here (house renovations will be underway in spring/summer so prob a 2016 sibling!).  

Anyways, my DD is crazy.  Wondering if there are any other mom's out there who are truly losing their mind?  LOL  She's bi-polar, she operates at an 11 all the time and is SO INTENSE.  she will drop something and it's the end of the world.  she doesn't want something and it gets thrown on the floor.  my husband and i look at each other like WTF??? at least 5 times a day.  I mean, i think we are good parents and trying to raise her right, not give in and be stern, remain even keeled and stick to routines.  sooooo what the heck?  i understand at 2 1/2 the threes can start and please God I hope so cuz if this gets worse I'm moving out!  

Our ways of dealing with her shananigans are time outs for her or her stuffed animals (sometimes she gives zero f*cks when we put her in time out), walking away, staying calm and questioning her as to why she is upset and asking her to explain in words  not screaming babble.  She has an excellent vocab so when she wants to she'll talk your ear off.  when she's upset it's just yelling, and snots, and throwing...  oiy.

Any suggestions or things that have worked well for you?  I just keep crossing my fingers and hope it doesn't get any crazier til at least 12 or 13!  

TIA and have a great weekend!

selockar

Welcome back! I don't really have any advice for you, but we are right there with you. DS2 is starting to get more difficult. The littlest thing can set him off. His new favorite words are no, I don't know, and yucky. I've started putting him in time out for saying yucky. It was getting out of control. When he doesn't want something he throws it and says yucky. It could be his favorite toy and he'll still do it. My experience with DS1 was 2.5-3.5 being pretty tough. I kept reinforcing our rules and one day it clicked and he he was back to his sweet self again.

bellelamb

I agree 2.5-3.5 is hard! I think around 4 it gets easier they are just learning emotions now and how to deal with and express them. We put our kids in their rooms when they throw a fit, they can come out when they are under control. I don't try to talk to or concole them until the fit is over.
Plus around the holidays the excitement makes their emotions more on the surface all the time! We had more fits today from the 2.5 year old and 4 year old than we have in a normal week. As far as throwing things I think not giving it back is a good option, throw your fork your fine with dinner, (nothing till breakfast) throw a toy it's away until tomorrow, ect. We are not big on routines here honestly I think it makes kids who can't adjust when things don't go exactly as they expect and it leads to more fits. (Plus I suck at routines each day is different)

Good luck! It will get worse but it will stop shocking you

MelissaMiso

I've called Sophia "bipolar baby" for the longest time. Their moods change so quickly. Luckily, she hasn't gotten TOO bad (yet). But she has her "No" days. I do have a lot more grey hairs now, it may be coincidence but I'm not too sure.