Trouble TTC a Sibling

When are you done

This may just be the Clomid talking, but I have been thinking a lot lately about how if these next steps don't work for us (Clomid again this cycle and then IUI next cycle) when would we be done and just accept that DD will be an only child.

I know that we aren't comfortable with IVF.  We are OOP for one thing, and also, I just can't imagine going through something so invasive that in the end might not work out for us (thanks alot TTCAL brain).  I have started to think now of how many IUI's I would be willing to do before throwing in the towel.  Unfourtantly DH is on this ride becuase I want a second so bad.  I am pretty sure he would be ok if I just said screw it. 

So ladies, when are you done?  Do you have a timeline or treatment plan where you say "enough is enough?"

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Re: When are you done

  • Honestly I don't know. We will see what the RE says and I feel we need to give it a try with what they tell us even though we are OOP too. It all so so hard!

    ME: 35 DH: 39

    Married July 2011

    DD Born 8/12

    TTC #2 since 11/13

    ME: Submucosal Fibroid Surgery Date APRIL 14th 2015 -Left Tube is blocked by Fibroid~Surgeon removed 26 Fibroids from my Ute and Unblocked my Tube

    DH:Azoospermia...Thank God we have 12 vials of frozen swimmers

    July 15-Check to see if Ute is all healed

    IUI #1 8/3/15...BFN

    IUI #2 9/5/15...BFP on 9/17/15

    Beta #1-344

    Beta #2-809

    Beta #3 8,390

    1st u/s 8/8/15 1 bean HB 135 @ 6w5d



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  •  Ive debated getting on B/C if we aren't successful within the next 6 mos, because Ive realized Ive let TTC stress take away from the other things I should be enjoying in life. Its a tough decision, I feel for you and wish you luck as well :)

  • It's such a hard decision. I originally gave myself a cutoff of the age of 30. Well, that passed last February and we're still trying :/

    If my kids weren't so old already I would probably stick it out and try for a while, but my son is almost 14, and I really don't want my kids being 15+ years apart. Not to mention the emotional rollercoaster that I don't think I can handle much longer.

    We have about 6 more cycles before calling it quits and being happy with what we have :)
    Me-30     DH-28
    BFP #1-EDD 04/06/2001, DS born 04/02/2001
    BFP #2-EDD 08/12/2006, DD born 08/19/2006
    TTC #3 since 6/12
    BFP #3-M/C in August 2012 at 6 weeks
    BFP #4-M/C in January 2013 at 9 weeks
    11/14-blood work, ultrasound, and DH SA all normal
    12/14-1st cycle of Clomid; BFN
    1/15-2nd cycle of Clomid
  • We gave ourselves a year, which will be April. We decided not to seek intervention so I guess April will be it. I will turn 36 then too so I suppose it's a double deadline



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  • I got a BFN today after my first medicated IUI cycle. This next cycle we are trying IVF. If the IVF cycle doesn't work we will try until we have no remaining blastocytes. If we get through this next few months and still no baby we will give up trying for another biological child. We will adopt though because neither DH or I am ready to stop growing our family. We are really leaning towards foster to adopt but are open to private adoption as well. We have been trying for another child for so long, we are both ready to move onto adoption soon if we don't get pregnant in the next few months. We are both at peace with it. Oh, we also have talked about even if we do conceive, we might still adopt a third chikd once the baby was a few years old.
  • @Reagan1010 that love it was for your plan, not for your bfn! Sorry about that!

    ME: 35 DH: 39

    Married July 2011

    DD Born 8/12

    TTC #2 since 11/13

    ME: Submucosal Fibroid Surgery Date APRIL 14th 2015 -Left Tube is blocked by Fibroid~Surgeon removed 26 Fibroids from my Ute and Unblocked my Tube

    DH:Azoospermia...Thank God we have 12 vials of frozen swimmers

    July 15-Check to see if Ute is all healed

    IUI #1 8/3/15...BFN

    IUI #2 9/5/15...BFP on 9/17/15

    Beta #1-344

    Beta #2-809

    Beta #3 8,390

    1st u/s 8/8/15 1 bean HB 135 @ 6w5d



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  • I'm not sure about when we'll be done.  We've had 2 losses this year.  If we have another loss, I think I will want RPL testing.  DH is also approaching 40, so that may factor into our decision.  We're only 6 months into trying for #2 though, so I feel like we are a long ways away from admitting defeat.  I don't think we will consider IVF or adoption though.
                                                                                              BFP #1 3/2/12, T born 11/7/12
                                                                                                 BFP #2  7/2/14, CP 7/6/14
                                 BFP #3 8/28/14, MMC 10/2/14 @ 9wks - misoprostol 10/6/14, D&C 11/3/14 for retained tissue
                                       BFP #4 12/25/14, EDD 9/7/15 - please stick baby, you are so loved and wanted!!!!!                                                                                           
                                                                                                                                                   
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  • DH has severe MFI (only 2% of his swimmers move forward).  I feel like if we aren't doing IUI, then we are really just admitting defeat. 

    I am now trying to wrap my head around how many IUI I would be willing to put myself through (and also pay OOP for). 

    Then, if the IUI don't work and I reach my breaking point, do I just keep DTD unprotected in hopes that some miracle happens, or do we just get on BCP and say screw this only one for us.

    ........Did I mention this sucks?

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  • These are crappy decisions to have to make to be sure. I think you just have to take it day by day and see how you feel. If TTC is just crazy-making and you are ready to move on, you'll know. 

    We're not there yet but realistically we only have funds for 1-2 more IVFs and I'm already AMA so there are only a handful of years left that it's realistic to expect something to happen. We had dreams of 3 kids but we are thrilled we have 1. Two would be amazing. More than that and we'd be over the moon but it may not happen. 
    **Warning: Losses and living child mentioned**
    BFP#1 1/31/12, EDD 10/6/12 Harrison Gray born sleeping @ 18w6d. You changed our lives little guy.
    BFP#2 EDD 10/29/13, C/P 2/25/13, Bye little Ish, we barely got to know you.
    BFP#3 EDD 12/21/13, Baby Boots born 11/23/13 My rainbow baby!
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  • That's being going through my mind for the past 8 months. I've had two miscarriages this year, but they think they have found the cause (a fibroid). I'm going for surgery next week to get it removed, but have been told me need to ttc quickly to get pregnant before another one may grow. I would say at this time next year I will be done, either way. DH is ready to be done whenever I say, as I'm the one pushing for a second.

    DD 15.07.2012

    BFP #2 01.18.2014, MMC 04.10.2014 15w5d

    BFP #3 07.18.2014, MC 07.31.2014 5w6d

    DX: RPL due to submucosal uterine fibroid. Hysteroscopy 12/16. All clear!

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  • I think we'll see what happens during 2015 and go from there.
    Together since April 2004.  Married since June 19th, 2010.
     BFP #1: January 31st 2012: CP. 
     BFP #2: June 1st 2012, Due:2/8/13. Avery was born via unplanned c section on 2/13/13. 
     BFP #3: Sept. 25th, 2014. Due: 6/5/15.  MMC on 10/23/14. Confirmed complete molar pregnancy per D&C 10/29/14, 
    HCG officially negative 12/10/14.  Benched until June 2015.
                                                        
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  • sweetc129 said:


    NB817 said:

    @Reagan1010 that love it was for your plan, not for your bfn! Sorry about that!

    Me too
    >:D<

    Mine as well. Sorry about BFN.
  • twocents6708twocents6708 member
    edited December 2014
    We haven't started treatments yet since we are benched for a few months and just now starting the TTCAS stage. When we were TTC our first LO, we said we wouldn't do IVF. I am willing to do IUI but DH is still on the fence. We have discussed embryo adoption as well but there is a possibility we would be "one and done" if treatment got too costly, both emotionally and financially. I work in the foster care system so we wouldn't be able to foster unless I quit my job due to regulations, but it's something I would have to think hard about or we might become licensed through a private agency if that's where our journey takes us.
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  • DH and I have had this talk many times and I play it over in my head over and over. DS is 2 and was IVF. We have not used protection since and nothing. We've just gone back to RE and are starting to save for another round because it's just too expensive for is at the moment. While I just feel like throwing in the towel at times, I'd really like to give my DS and sibling.
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