Saddest preggy mom

destinymiel

Im on my 19th week now and DH leave me for other women..i dont know what to do and how to be excited and happy now for the baby.just found out recently that im expecting a baby boy but it doesnt excites me at all.....

rivers714

My sons dad left me for his highschool sweetheart. It sucks, you're not supposed to go through all this alone. However- the sooner the better. It was really hard at first but my sons grown up with mom and dad never being together. It's his normal, he's thriving as a second grader!!

fvhearn

Be excited! Your baby is the most important right now. I have struggled as I have probably dealt with some of the most difficult situations since I have been pregnant. I make it through the day because of my peanut in my belly. Don't let anyone steal your joy or happiness while pregnant!

saric83

What a shit.  Hopefully, as you get further along, you can start to get more excited as you've had a bit of time to process what happens next for all three of you.  Good luck!

kayledbury

My DH told me this morning that it's hard to b intrested in my pregnacy when he no longer likes me... And said he was leaving and not coming back which I'm not sure how much (especially since my stepson stayed with me) he ment and how much is due to "extracrilicular" activities but regardless ik how u feel right now I'm sorry it's really hard and really sucks but for me my baby gives me hope for happiness in the future

destinymiel

Thank you so much for taking time to inspire me..i really needed that...i would name my baby Lucas Theon which means light and godly...Hopefully my little one brings light to my life.....really appreciate everything you said @ramy3 ,@saltyH20 ,@saric83 , @fvhearn and @xbreannalynn ....i really dont understand why theres a such guys like that @kaledbury @rivers714‌

kayledbury

Bc they had perants more messed up then them that did a lot of damage and their inner demons over took them ik at least for my husband this is true

destinymiel

You made me smile

rivers714

@destinymiel I think I have like some weird pheromone that attracts these type of guys. With my son's dad we were both incredibly young 19 and 20,which I think was probably a lot of the reason. My current pregnancies dad, I have tried my hardest to try to see it from his perspective, but dear god it just makes my head hurt.

Like I mentioned before how you start setting things up now will help set the tone. I know its so easy with hormones and everything to get emotional and mad and upset, but everytime i want to do something that is arguably batshit crazy (whether the jerkoff deserves it or not) I think to myself "18 years from now if I had to explain my actions to my child, would I be proud of how I acted or embarrassed". It sounds really stupid but it helps put things into perspective, and at least allows me to take a step back and really think about my actions. Your relationship with your husband/soon to be ex and his relationship with his child are two completely different things, he might be a shitty husband but he could be a really good dad.

Ballet80

What a jerk!!!!!!! But on a bright note, you are about to meet a little man soon who will never leave you!!! Keep your head up!!!

destinymiel

@rivers714‌ i dont think he is concerned abt my child and my situation...he doesnt go with me during check ups and i always see that he doesnt care.... I love him so much and it really tears me apart..maybe 1 day i could finally accept the fact that hes not for me but its really hard to be pregnant alone..

SchoolPsychSteph

Oh friend, I'm so sorry you are going through this. Do you have family or close friends nearby? I know it's not the same, but it would help I hope. You said you loved him and that's understandable, but now you can focus on your baby. You can raise him to not be like his father and treat women with respect. I can't imagine how much you are hurting. Big hugs to you

rivers714

destinymiel said:

@rivers714‌ i dont think he is concerned abt my child and my situation...he doesnt go with me during check ups and i always see that he doesnt care.... I love him so much and it really tears me apart..maybe 1 day i could finally accept the fact that hes not for me but its really hard to be pregnant alone..

Well it seems like you and me are in a very similar situation. Hope for the best, that he will want to be a parent and a good one, but prepare for the worst, that he's not only a bad husband but a deadbeat dad. It sucks, but you got this!

When I came " public" about my pregnancy. A guy I dated a couple years ago messaged me and when he realized the dad bailed said " amanda you've been the greatest mom and dad to Gabe, don't for a second think you won't be to this one."... And he's right though my sons dad has stepped up a bit in the years we're at probably 90% me 10%!him in the responsibility department.

destinymiel

@rivers714‌ im happy for you....hope i could also have same positivity that you have now...by the way i like ur sons name Gabe..is it NN?

rivers714

Gabriel James.

It sounds so cliche but time helps a lot my son is 8 on the 17th... So it's been years since this was fresh, it gets easier. I'm sure right now it feels like your heart was ripped from your chest, but I promise it gets easier.

destinymiel

Nice name....i really hope so..and thanks a lot..big help ☺️