Hi All,
This is my first time posting here. I don't venture out from my BMB much and I'm realizing I should. While looking to see if there was a working mom board I saw other boards that may be of interest that I never knew existed.
Anyway, my brief intro: I'm a 41 year old first time mom to a 6 month old son. I work from home and we have a nanny here during the day. Our hope was
to keep DS home for 9-12 months and then move to daycare, but our nanny
just gave her two week notice. So now my head is spinning. I don't know
whether we should get a new nanny or move to daycare earlier. I
don't know what would be easier on him. I don't like having to rush on
such a big decision and I'm feeling very unsettled over it.
Does anyone have experience with starting daycare at 6 months vs. 9 months vs 12 months? Is there an "ideal age" for a child to start daycare?
Me-41, Hubby-40.
1st BFP-8/17/12!
Missed Miscarriage discovered @ 8 week US. D&C.
2nd BFP-2/13/13!
Blighted Ovum discovered @ 8 week US. Natural miscarriage.
3rd BFP-5/22/13! By
early June, progesterone plummeting.
Another loss.
August 2013 - started Donor Egg process, but surprise BFP with my own eggs.
Dear Son born 5/28/14
Re: XP from May 14. May have to transistion to daycare earlier than expected and looking for input.
A lot of babies start to experience separation anxiety around 9-12 months. I don't use daycare, but my daughter would start bawling if I stood up and walked to the bathroom. That is why many people say "earlier is better", but you have to feel comfortable with it, too. If you enjoy having him at home and feel more comfortable with it, I'd go with another nanny.
IT WAS WONDERFUL.
We have a nanny now for DD (3 mo) because I just need the house help but we still send DS to his daycare. We will keep DD with the nanny as DS goes to prek next fall and a nanny will just work better for our family. But I admit to having pangs about DD not ever being in the care situation DS was in. The socialization, the "expert" care, the guidance I got about what was "normal" and the value I got in just seeing his peers.
3 years ago I never would have EVER believed I'd feel even slightly concerned about not sending my child to a daycare center.
Sounds like your situation is super stressful but I promise daycare for littles can be a good thing!
1st BFP-8/17/12! Missed Miscarriage discovered @ 8 week US. D&C.
2nd BFP-2/13/13! Blighted Ovum discovered @ 8 week US. Natural miscarriage.
3rd BFP-5/22/13! By early June, progesterone plummeting. Another loss.
August 2013 - started Donor Egg process, but surprise BFP with my own eggs.
Dear Son born 5/28/14
BFP #1 6/28/11 ~ EDD 3/7/12 ~ m/c 7/15/11 at 6w2d
BFP #2 8/29/11 ~ EDD 5/12/12. 4/25/12: Our take home baby is here!
BFP #3 8/27/13 ~ EDD 5/11/14. 4/27/14: Our second take home baby is here!
My DS started DC at 10 months and although I think DC has been really great for him, I'm choosing to get a nanny for our second child until he/she is 1.5-2 years old. DS got sick often during the first year of DC, and although that will happen at any age when you first send a child to DC, it's much easier dealing with a 2 year old who is sick vs. a 1 year old. At that young age, DS couldn't communicate well and there was definitely no reasoning with him. So for example, when he had diarhea and was getting severly dehydrated, we couldn't convince him to drink anything and resorted to pinning him down and squirting pedilyte in him. Whereas nowadys when he is sick, he will listen to us and drink and rest. Also, when he was sick while he was little, I didn't have the heart to leave him with an "emergency nanny" so I ended up taking a lot of time off work; whereas now when he does get sick, I just call one of those emergency nanny services and get a nanny in for the day and he and I are both good with that.
That said, our plan is to have our nanny take our second child to a lot of play dates and activities outside of the house so that he/she still gets the social interaction aspect of DC.
So if it were me I would probably go with another nanny for now and reassess once your LO is a year.
But yes, this is a good eye-opener that we need to lock down a day-care and get on their waiting list for a March-May start.
1st BFP-8/17/12! Missed Miscarriage discovered @ 8 week US. D&C.
2nd BFP-2/13/13! Blighted Ovum discovered @ 8 week US. Natural miscarriage.
3rd BFP-5/22/13! By early June, progesterone plummeting. Another loss.
August 2013 - started Donor Egg process, but surprise BFP with my own eggs.
Dear Son born 5/28/14
Mine started at 3mos, stopped at 4mos, started again at 5 mos, stopped at 10mos, and started again at 22mos. He cried at dropoff (and stopped by the time I got out of the parking lot) for the first couple of weeks at 22mos, but otherwise, the changes never really seemed to affect him.
1st BFP-8/17/12! Missed Miscarriage discovered @ 8 week US. D&C.
2nd BFP-2/13/13! Blighted Ovum discovered @ 8 week US. Natural miscarriage.
3rd BFP-5/22/13! By early June, progesterone plummeting. Another loss.
August 2013 - started Donor Egg process, but surprise BFP with my own eggs.
Dear Son born 5/28/14