New to this...

AuntieMissy76

My husband and I have been TTC for a bit over a year now, everything checked out well for both of us in March when we went to our first clinic in Toronto, even though I am 38 and he is 40 we seem to have great test results. A few cycles of monitoring, two cycles with Letrozole, Ovidrel and Prometrium and no intervention. One cycle of IUI with the same medication, and the last cycle I had a folicular cyst at 2cm so they wouldn't go ahead with the Letrozole (apparently that is normal? I have never had problematic cysts before, and they were afraid the medication would enlarge it to a problematic point?). I switched clinics on Monday (we had our first meeting with our new doctor that day) as we live so far from downtown Toronto and I needed a shorter commute for the daily routine of bloodwork and ultrasound during cycles as I was so tired and stressed from it so we chose to move to another clinic closer to home. I'm feeling good about it. She actually showed me the follicles, my uterus, the size of my ovaries and that the cyst had resolved itself already. I think we will be missing another cycle due to holiday clinic closing dates. Then we plan to try IUI once or twice more before opting for IVF if we can afford it. Not too sure how I feel about IVF, but I imagine that's the best way to know for sure why we are having trouble conceiving as then they will have eggs to fertilize and can detect any problems with my eggs?

I have known my whole life that I am meant to be a mother and just really want something to work before we go too heavily into debt and can't afford to explore other options. I'm interested to see what kinds of other women are out there going through the same unexplained difficulty, and how you are coping with the stress of TTC, cycle monitoring and clinic appointments, scheduled intercourse, and juggling normal life.

And am I the only one that finds it really frustrating when people say "Just relax and it will happen. Just forget about it!" when it is so difficult to 'forget' what is going on when you are finding it hard to even feel sexy because you've got dark circles under your eyes from early morning monitoring appointments before a full work day, bruises from bloodwork and gross progesterone supplement ickiness going on all day long??

Sorry if I haven't figured out the acronyms yet, or how to add a signature line that is like the others I see on here with stats and stuff...I'm going to have to take some notes and figure it all out.

AuntieMissy76

KateLouise

Hi there,

I haven't had the same experiences as yourself, I just wanted to say welcome.

I hope that your new clinic is really useful, and that are able to get a BFP soon!

Best wishes to you.

bookworm40

Welcome and good luck!
You aren't alone in getting tired of hearing "relax and it will happen". If I hear it one more time someone is going to get an earful lol. Hope your new clinic helps and that your stay here on this board is a short one!

MySallyGirl

Welcome to the board. I hope you get some answers and your bfp soon!

suziq1978

Welcome.  I don't have any advice or experiences to share but I wanted to say good luck!

rspalding001

Welcome and good luck!

mst08

Welcome to the board and best of luck to you!! Hope your stay here is short and sweet

Radiantly

Welcome, you've found the right place for support...... this is a difficult journey....... hugs from NYC!

kelley72

Welcome!  You sound like you have a good game plan going forward and as I have no experience with ART or RE's I'd defer to the experience of other ladies for information in that regard.  Your experience with other's perhaps well-meaning but poor comments is not unique, and I hope you hang here for support, laughter, and most of all huge congratulations when you are successful! Best wishes!

Teenie16

Welcome and good luck! I've heard that phrase way too many times to count! Hope your stay here is short!

flyliceandcoffee

just wanted to say welcome and good luck!

susykat77

Welcome!! I do hope you have a short stay here! And the relax and it'll happen statement drives me crazy too!

Nikolie93

Welcome and I am sorry for your stresses. *hug* I also hate hearing "relax and it will happen". (1) relaxing is not an option for my crazy self, and (2) there is no way anyone knows if it will happen or not. Sometimes people say things they feel are helpful when they really aren't

As for the acronyms I suggest reading the post at the top of this board. It also has a list of acronyms and a link that will help. Truth be told, I had to print the list out when I first started. ">

welcome & intro message from the ttc after 35 board. 

KirstenAlecia

Welcome! This is a wonderful board for support and venting all the crazy frustrations we all have from time to time. 

CML11

Welcome! I have done 2 IUI cycles and 2 IVF cycles and hopefully going to do IVF starting next week. Good luck!

And yes I may throat punch the next person that tells me to relax. Lol

URMySunshine77

Welcome to you. I side eyed my nurse practitioner when she said "just relax" and that she felt like stress was the biggest root of our IF.

wannabmama23

Welcome! I'm pretty new to all this so no experiences to share. Just wanted to say "hey" and good luck!

nd613

Welcome! I'm getting tired of the "relax and it will happen" as well. Or "just get really drunk"- that's another one of my favorites. 

Hope your stay here is short! Good luck!!

AuntieMissy76

Thank you all for the welcoming comments...just having you all say you totally 'get' the stress of "just relax..." is nice to know I am very much not alone in this. I look forward to getting to know all of you and share in your joys (and pains). Just knowing how many people are out there going through similar experiences (even if it's just the urge to throat punch people when they say completely blind and typical comments like that) lol!

AF arrived today and I spent the day at the mall doing the last of my Christmas shopping - although the baby clothes and kids clothes stores made me happy (they remind me of my friends' amazing kids who I adore) I was more than a little sad when walking past the maternity store. Like a bit of salt in a fresh wound....but I justified a big greasy burger for lunch because red meat has iron in it - and my body needs that, right?

URMySunshine77

I am jealous that you are finished with Christmas shopping. I wish that I could be that organized.

I hope that you can achieve your goal of motherhood soon. Have you tried acupuncture? I find it really helpful in relaxing and finding some "me" time.

wvarn

Hi and Welcome. It sounds like you have a good game plan with all the Dr stuff.  I haven't went that route yet so I can't be any help there, but If I have one more person tell me to "relax and it will happen" I might poke them in the eye.  lol

Nikolie93

@auntiemissy76 your body wants whatever it wants right now so do it! And a cheeseburger sounds delicious right now...even though it's 10 in the morning  

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AuntieMissy76 said:

Thank you all for the welcoming comments...just having you all say you totally 'get' the stress of "just relax..." is nice to know I am very much not alone in this. I look forward to getting to know all of you and share in your joys (and pains). Just knowing how many people are out there going through similar experiences (even if it's just the urge to throat punch people when they say completely blind and typical comments like that) lol!

AF arrived today and I spent the day at the mall doing the last of my Christmas shopping - although the baby clothes and kids clothes stores made me happy (they remind me of my friends' amazing kids who I adore) I was more than a little sad when walking past the maternity store. Like a bit of salt in a fresh wound....but I justified a big greasy burger for lunch because red meat has iron in it - and my body needs that, right?

Love your thinking. I am about to go gluten free so I'll take mine without a bun, but hey. A girl has to get her iron. The cheese is usually vitamin d fortified right? Guess I'll have extra. Welcome!

Davie813

Welcome and good luck!