Anyone still holding in the secret?

ambarnett1

Hey ladies! I've been such a dirty lurker lately. Anyways, has anyone not told all of their families/friends about the pregnancy? I'm 16 weeks with a 7 month old. I've been hesitant to tell my family because I know some of them will be disappointed. We will find out the sex this Sunday, so I plan to finally tell everyone. My family sucks and is not supportive even though I'm married and we have a home.

So, anyone else keeping the secret still?

lladymack

We haven't told all our extended family or friends yet. I just want to keep this one out little secret a little longer. Also helps we live in Europe so no one has seen me yet.

I'm sorry that your family isn't supportive. Hopefully once they hear the news they'll change their tune.
Good luck

AidanMarlene

I haven't told most of my family yet either for the same reasons. However, I am not married nor do I own my home so it makes things worst for me. My goal is set to tell everyone after my anatomy scan. I'm sorry that your family is not supportive. Hopefully their reactions are different from what you anticipate.

lala5507

Nope, my belly would have given up that secret by now anyway.  I hope your family surprises you and support you!

stephaniesee

Just printed up christmas cards yesterday for our extended families that live far away with the little surprise inside, a bunch of people don't know yet but the cat will be let out of the bag by the end of the week! (18w)

mewylde

Sorry, lurker here, first post. Only a hand full of people know, and that was only because of my extreme MS so we had to tell them. We are waiting until after our 20 wk US which isn't until Dec. 29, I think we might tell for New Years. We are due May 23rd. I wish we could wait longer but my DH's family doesn't know at all so he is ready to tell, and eventually I will start showing.

headovaheels

I'm still holding on to my secret. We are waiting for my stepdaughter to come on her Christmas break to tell the kids at the same time. We will then share with the rest if the world. Only people at my job know. I work with my primary care provider.

ETA--just read your entire OP- sorry to hear that your Fam is not supportive. I hope that after they find out, they will get over it quickly. Try not to let it stress you out. It will be Ok .

CamoBride2010

We haven't "told" anyone but close family. But at this point there is no real hiding it, it's pretty obvious haha. I guess we are sort of at the "not telling but not denying stage", but I'm weird like that. I never mentioned DD on facebook until I was like....32 weeks or so.

katiegarrett66

I still haven't told everyone..there's only my parents and nana who know, I'll be 18w tomorrow & I plan on telling my 6yr old and the rest of the family after Christmas.

sabriel1

We've told our parents and siblings last week but that's it. I plan on waiting until I'm 20weeks and get the results from my anatomy scan (December 15) before we tell anyone else though. I might even hold it until the New Year, I just like to keep it quiet so I don't get as many unsolicited comments and advice.

OP: I'm sorry your family is unsupportive. Maybe they will surprise you with their reaction when you tell them.

wlrtimes2

I am 18 weeks and the only person that knows is my little sister. We wanted to wait to tell until I have my anatomy scan which is this Friday!! But now we have waited this long so we aren't telling anyone else until we go home for Christmas in 3 weeks. The only way I have been able to pull it off is that we just moved across the country from all of our friends and families. At first is was so easy to hide it, but FaceTime is getting more difficult!

OP: So sorry about your family! I hope that they will surprise you!

rivers714

I just posted on fb last night .. After telling my immediate family last month. My friends are excited- family hasn't liked or commented yet

stargazer530

I am 15 weeks with a 7 month old. I concieved with an iud in place. This will be number 4. I have told my parents, mainly because I had them keep my kids while I went to the doc and my sis. I have also told my niece because she is pregnant as well. But I haven't told anyone else and haven't made the Facebook announcement yet. I am dreading it as well. I heard so much crap with number 3, and since I don't feel the need to share with everyone that this baby was definitely not only not planned but actively being prevented, I am sure there is going to be lots of wonderful opinions on this one as well.

rels09

It wouldn't be secret to anyone who's seen me, but we're not "out" on Facebook or anything yet. We're telling the last few people who we wouldn't want to find out through a more public forum like that. 

brownie17

We had to tell my parents because I was so sick, so my siblings also know. I have also told two friends, but other than that we are keeping it a secret. My husband lost his job 6 months ago, so I am not looking forward to the nasty comments about us having a 4th child in the financial situation we are in. I guess I am happier keeping this wonderful news to myself so that no one can squash my excitement. I don't need to defend myself!

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catmentzer21

I am 18 weeks and have not told any one. My mil knows because she lived down the street and it has become apparent. For the first time though she has not told any one. I will tell every one when I know what the sex is because at that point my husband will not be able to keep it in any more.

manacita

My husband's mom is a terrible person and is currently in a time out. Unfortunately, he would like to tell his parents first to avoid the drama it would create to tell anyone else first, so no one on his side know.

For me, I will have 3 under 3. All of mine are about 17-18 months apart. I, like you, worry about getting any support and well wishes versus the inevitable crap and eye rolling and snarky comments about sex making babies. So my mom and three friends know. I'll go public after my anatomy scan. Maybe... Maybe not...

I understand where you are coming from. It feels awful to worry that a baby won't be celebrated as it should be. Xoxo

la79al

My ILs know, my mom knows and one set of my grandparents know.  Also, a preschool teacher and a lady at the post office.  And my 2 BFFs.  I generally don't tell a lot of people or make a FB post.  I will let word get around once I give the go ahead.  We haven't told the kids yet so that's what we're waiting for.  I want to tell them soon but I want to give them time to process it so I am waiting for perfect timing.  Hopefully this weekend so it's not too close to Christmas.  

KellyFM522

Haven't told any family because there have been lots of other family members with big things going on. I'm totally OK with it though. They are going to find out in our Christmas Card at the end of next week or the week after. We won't see anyone until the day after Christmas so it's all gravy.

PsMomma718

I'm sorry your family isn't supportive, OP.  

We finally shared with family on Thanksgiving at 14+6.  I also told my boss, and plan to tell the rest of my office next week.  Other than a few close friends we would like to tell in person, the rest of the world can find out as the belly gets bigger. 

Lezzie82

Anyone I see in real life will be told... of course family already knows.

Facebook, we are planning on trying something a little different with this baby, not announcing until I go in to have it!  I am going to make it fun and silly, plus most people will already know lol.

So there's that.

saric83

We finally told people today, but if it weren't the holiday season with so many upcoming group events, I would have kept it quiet even longer.  But I was tired of outright lying to cover it up, and the baggy clothes weren't fooling anyone anymore.

dj99

At this point mostly everyone knows. I'm almost 19 weeks.

raejessica

I'm sorry your family has been unsupportive. Hopefully they realize that this is your family and that they can find a way to be happy for you.
Only four people know so far, but we are planning to share the news with our families around Christmas. I will probably avoid posting on facebook, just because it's not a priority.

Ballet80

We told everyone around 13-14 weeks, but we have been TTC for the past two years with a fertility specialists. I had so many people praying that it would eventually work and it did. I thought shot not telling people til much later in the pregnancy because I was scared but then my husband said to just stop worrying and just be happy. So I told everyone and it was a huge relief, so many people were happy because they knew how long we had been dealing with this. It makes me sad for those of you that don't have support from your family, your children are such a blessing.