NBR: keeping up with adult friendships

DCKate

I feel like I am doing a bad job of this. Because Bridget has been such a bad sleeper for the last month or so, I feel like whenever I have time to myself, even if it's just an hour at target, I don't want to call anyone or do anything but just have the time to myself. I'm also not working in an office again this election cycle, but here at home. That feels really isolating, although I am glad to be home with the kiddo.

I'm sure the first tip is to get off of the Internet and pick up the phone and call my friendS, but just looking for some tips on how to keep up my friendships even when things are really busy. Wondering if this is an issue or problem for anyone else?

ReeceFamily

I'm the same.  I'm lucky in that my local group of friends all have children DD's age-ish so we get together with our kids every few months.  I hate the phone so I only call a few close non-local friends maybe once a year to catch up, or I go visit them.  My BFF is in the Bay Area, and I talk to her maybe once a month and I make the 2-hour drive out there every few months to hang out with her (I bring DD and spend the night).

I think with the advent of cell phones/internet there is more pressure to keep up with EVERYONE and it's just not realistic.  

spainy17

My best friend and I talk at least every other day on the phone. Our other best friend maybe monthly if that. We have five kids between us but theirs are older so they have more freedom. We plan a couple of get togethers a year but honestly I get a lot from just talking to them. Because they understand it's easier.

My two other close friends don't have kids but one is DDS godmother so she us awesome about getting together with me and DD.

Other relationships are the wives of DHs friends, two of which had babies this year so it has helped us bond even though we don't go out like we used to.

I've let acquaintances go, I do very little with coworkers anymore, etc. mostly it is quality over quantity nowadays. I'm ok with the balance. Sometimes time alone is more important, to recharge.

spainy17

Yeah my best friend and I utilize my commute to catch up a lot. :-)

DCKate

amnat84 said:

I'm terrible at this but it doesn't bother me. I'm not a social butterfly and love Friday nights filled with Netflix and sweatpants. I was honestly so excited when my best friend had a baby because she constantly wanted to go out and I was always like "I'm too tired/lazy/broke to go anywhere" but felt bad. Those requests have dwindled a lot since she had her baby and now we see each other a perfect amount.

She's honestly my only local "friend." I have some coworkers who were bar buddies but since getting KU I haven't seen them.

The most adult interaction I get is probably on this board lol.

Me too! You ladies are such a constant in my life and I'm really happy that's the case!

ohiodoxiemama08

It's definitely been a struggle for me. I have a couple different groups of friends--mainly my friends from college, my friends from back home, fellow fire wives and neighbors. I'm on of the only of my close friends from college who has kids so that makes it hard. My best friend from college is local which is nice, but she's really not a baby person--in fact she doesn't want kids. She's very sweet with DD but it's just hard to plan things between both our schedules. My best friend from back home loves DD but works like crazy so we rarely see each other. We try to text often though. My other "back home" BFF is childless too--but is amazing with DD. However she lives hours away and has a busy job as a professor. My neighbor friend is great. Her son is 2 months younger than DD--her husband and my husband get along great. We even went on vacation together. Sadly they're moving for his work I really miss my female friendships. I was in a sorority in college and loved always having girls around to chat with/hang out. Once I'm done with school it's going to be my goal to work harder on maintaining friendships.

DCKate

This thread makes me all the more grateful to have my bump mamas in my life! And, glad I'm not the only one dealing with this.