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singingsea

I'm going to try and make this short and simple.

My BFF's kids and my child go to the same sitter. Our sitter is wonderful, just fantastic with the kids and what she charges us is a steal (at least in our area). I pay $160 a week for one child. BFF just got off maternity leave and she's paying $250 for her newborn DD and DS is 3.

She's really beating up our sitter on the price. To the point where it's almost harassment. Every day she mentions it and has even called around to the other kid's parents asking what we pay, is she salaried (she is). Sitter is married to BFF's cousin so I don't know if BFF feels like she owes her something (wtf? That's dumb)

I'm trying to stay out of it but at what point do I tell my friend she's kinda being a twat waffle? She's a good friend of mine but she is a bossy, tactless person at times. I'm letting them duke it out on their own but I told our sitter to stand her ground.

draeray

Wow. Tell her that here in Colorado it's $250 to $350 a week for 1 child and $250 is on the lower end for an at home daycare vs. $350 for a center.

ericalee27

Sterling13 said:

$250 for both kids is a steal. Have her call me, I'll tell her what two kids in daycare would cost here.

For real.  I want to puke when I hear someone only pays $250/week for two kids.  I'm easily twice that.

singingsea

The sad thing is I don't even think DS's sitter realizes how cheap she is and how much more she could be charging. I told her she needs to be assertive on this and not let my friend bully her.

My friend is generally a good person I swear but she is both naive, lacks tact and can be rude. She needs to be put in her place sometimes (more often than not I'm the one that does it).

I feel like I'm walking a really fine line here. I offered to talk to BFF but sitter doesn't want me to.

If BFF brings it up though I'm going to let her know she's being an asshat.

StephPeth

LMAO at twat waffle )

kelly321

expatmama said:

Yikes, I am embarrassed to say I pay 250 for my two kids per month .... ok, not embarrassed enough not to brag about it. 

But yeah, not cool to keep bringing it up. Either you keep the service and pay the rate, or you go elsewhere. Even more awkward if she has a relationship with said sitter. She's providing a service that she gets to set the price for, your BFF doesn't have to pay. 

Ok, you got me beat! 225 / month for DD2 b/c she's under 3 and 92 / month for DD1.

I agree with the rest totally, too. If she's your BFF you should be able to say something about it. Who else is going to tell her to give it a rest?

tamarar5

Omg, $250 is a crazy steal! If my kids were in ft daycare, I'd be paying $300 for Amelia, $300 for Elliott until he's 2 years old, then $250 per week just for him. On top of that, C would be in after school care at a minimum of $5.00/hour. And this is one of the CHEAPER places in my city.

djm31012

I would say something to her now. I pay $300/wk (i think its like 294) for daycare for 1 child. Shes being cheap and taking advantage of your sitter.

singingsea

I agree with everything above. I don't know if it's because she's family that my friend thinks she can walk all over our sitter but that's really shitty.

Oy if I didn't call her a twat waffle I'd show her this thread I want to give BFF the benefit of the doubt and chalk it up to postpartum hormones or something. She's been having a rough time returning to work but it doesn't justify how she's been acting.

I'm hoping my friend gets her head out of her ass soon. I want to call her out. She says she can't afford our sitter yet her husband buys comics that are hundreds of dollars and just got her a tattoo chair, gun, needles, etc. Maybe you should put money away for child care instead of spending it on stupid shit. BOOM mic drop.