Moms of boys

mancila60

So I just saw this and it was written by a dad which I think makes it better. I just thought I would share it.
https://dalepartridge.com/5-things-ill-teach-my-boys-about-pornography/

mancila60

I agree with the religious point of it. And I don't exactly agree with the explanations of it or the way he puts it. I liked the points and basis of it more than anything but I think it is interesting coming from a guy or dad in general.

PinkDahLia44

Ehhhhh...mixed feelings. Of course I don't like to think about my son someday watching porn, but I'm pretty sure he probably will. I would rather focus on teaching him that there is beauty in everybody, rather than fearing that if he sees someone like Kim Kardashian naked someday that his marriage will be in trouble (bc really? That guy with worrying that he will compare his wife to Kim Kardashian and harm his marriage? That sounds like he's got more going on than just an aversion to porn...I have never once worried that my husband will unfairly compare my body to that of anyone else's, bc I know he loves me and thinks I'm beautiful the way I am.)

PinkDahLia44

@wedding06 said:

Hmm This article had a lot of religious undertones- such as "God created man and woman" or the shame in masturbation. I don't plan to encourage my son to watch porn (shuddering at the whole thought) but I do think there is a healthy balance and he shouldn't be ashamed if he looks twice at a naked body. And I do agree with the first point which points out that they are people first.

I also agree that they are people first, but they are adults who have made the decision to choose pornography as a career (I am leaving out any pornography that forces participation, because that is a whole other animal, but for the most part, porn actors have decided to do this). While I would not encourage my children to enter the porn industry, what they choose to do as adults is not up to me, and I will not be ashamed of my son or any future children, boys or girls.

And I don't even want to get into "any decision that causes others pain" comment, bc I feel that is a broad statement that opens all kinds of cans of worms.

I have the feels, clearly.

dovetail223

I think sometimes articles like this gloss over how important sexual intimacy is in relationships. In general, he does a decent job of not slut shaming the porn stars, but there is nothing wrong with a wife, mother, business woman feeling sexually empowered. It seems like the 'boys' might grow up to be men that don't understand that.

Also, what about couples that want to make their own porn? Or watch porn as part of their sexual activity? (These are rhetorical questions)

Interesting read though!