How to break the news.

valeemommy

Hi guys & thanks for reading. I'm 25 years old,currently pregnant with my first baby and my boyfriend and I are very happy, along with his family and his daughter! The only problem for me is I don't know how to tell my parents. Now before you give an idea, understand, my parents are extremely distant, cold people (to put it lightly). I grew up in a very conservative military background and my parents are not the type to be excited, at all. I actually moved at the age of 21 cross country ALONE because our relationship was so toxic. Now, I have a younger brother who knows and is ecstatic at the idea of being an uncle, but I'm dreading telling my parents. A lot of people keep saying 'Who DOESN'T love a baby?' 'They will be happy!' 'They will love the idea of being grandparents!' and to be completely honest, they are NOT those people. But for ME, I have to tell them before anyone else. I do not have any friends who live close (my bff is 2,000 miles away) to lean on, but this is getting to the point where I'm making myself sick and even my boyfriend is worried about the stress I'm putting on myself. It's important to me to tell them because even though they're not lovable, they're my mom and dad. I've done some awfully disappointing things in their minds (not going to college, living with a man before marriage, etc) and I know this will add to it. I just need some help, please? Thanks for reading guys and I hope you have a great holiday!

JuneBug0611

I'm so sorry this is so stressful for you. Maybe consider telling them over email so you can take your time and say exactly what you want to say without being discouraged or intimidated by their reaction, and they have some time to process the news and can reach out to you when they are ready. Maybe they will surprise you with how they respond -- I sure hope so! I am glad your BF and his family and your brother are supportive. Hang in there!

ChristyM87

Just tell them. They may surprise you with their reaction, and if they don't you are an adult and don't have to be around their toxic personality

LadyAnnibal

I understand where you are coming from. I'm younger but in the same boat and with zero support. As scary as it may be, just telling them is probably your best bet. "Mom, Dad, I have something to tell you guys. I'm pregnant/we're having a baby/ you're gonna be grandparents." Whichever sounds best/works for you.

bumpuser8571475

If you're making yourself that sick over it, I would think that once you tell them, you'll feel better no matter what they're reaction is. Just get it over with.

dot2point0

Sorry this is stressing you out so much, but try not to let it. Maybe you could wait until your first u/s and send them the sonogram when you tell them? Sometimes it's easier for people to take the news when there's a visual instead of just an abstract idea. Good luck and hope all goes well.

bosco213

Pick up the phone, say "hey Mom & Dad, just calling to let you know I'm pregnant and really excited about it." Boom, done.