Single mom for the 2nd time

crector421

Hi! I'm almost 8 weeks pregnant with my 2nd. My DS is 4 and his dad has never been around (he took advantage of me at a party, I didn't want him around). I was dating my now ex, for almost 2 and a half years when he broke up with me out of nowhere, he said he just couldn't fall in love with me and he felt like he'd been faking our relationship. Found out we were pregnant 1 week later. Not great timing. He doesn't want to try and make our relationship work because he knows he'd just be faking even more. Feels good haha. But I don't want an abortion. But at the same time, I love him and watching him move on is going to be so hard!!!! I'm not worried about parenting, I've done just fine with that with my DS, but I'm just so sad that I have to be single again and have a baby when I thought I was in a relationship with the man I was going to marry. And the expenses of having 2 kids by myself

MinnesotaMomma91

There are pleanty of ways you can lessen the finacial burden. There is wic, snap, daycare assitance, goverment health insurance, and child support.

Im sorry your going through all of this, thats rough. And im sorry about your first ds dad. No one should have to go through that.

ST3WD

Definitely look into the assistance Minnesota mentioned if you haven't already. The process takes time, so the earlier you do, the better!

*hugs* My heart goes out to you. That's a difficult situation to face. Other than getting c/s, I would try to not focus on what he's doing. Whatever it is isn't as awesome as growing your beautiful family. 

If you have any supportive people around you, try surrounding yourself with them. 

Keep us updated on how you're doing, and congrats on your pregnancy!

kelly136

I totally get that feeling of not wanting to do it alone. Besides the finances, it just really sucks sometimes to not have a partner to share it with. There are pros and cons to every situation, so I try to stay focused on the positive parts of being single just to keep me going through the day. But I definitely have at least one meltdown a day where I wish more than anything I had someone just to laugh and cry with about all the crazy parenting stuff and to help me make decisions about random everyday stuff like what kind of pizza do we want and what kind of toilet paper do we like etc. etc. It gets so overwhelming doing it all yourself, because it's not nearly as much "fun". 

You can do this. Stay focused on your new baby and try not to let the pain of your break up take away from the excitement of your pregnancy. I was so depressed during my pregnancy I forgot to enjoy so many moments and so much "happy" time was missed because I was so distracted by other worries. Keep being a good mom and do the best you can even if it's not the way you wish it was. 

lacideshae5151

I completely feel you! I was friends with benifits with my sons dad, my son will be 3 in January then this time 2012 I fell in love with someone new and ended up cheating on him and a week later he broke up with me ( he didn't even know I cheated) he left me for his ex that he supposedly hated.so now I'm pregnant by a guy I can't even stand that was just meant as a rebound, and I'm sitting here heartbroken watching my ex be happy with his new gf