I need some advice, sorry it's long. I'm trying really hard not to let this forum turn me into a know it all. I'm a ftm and a friend of mine just had her third kid 4 weeks after I did. But she sent a pic of her wearing baby saying it hurt her back, and babies head was way down on moms belly. So I told her I "think" baby should be higher, kissable level. She had trouble pumping and so I gave her a few tips. I don't want to come off like I'm some smart baby person now, because I'm not. But I get anxious every time she sends me a picture of her LO sleeping in her bassinet covered in blankets with a pillow by her head. And she says when she bed shares she keeps lots of pillows & blankets around her so her DH doesn't roll on/touch baby in his sleep. How do I tell her that stuff is dangerous without coming off like I think I know everything?? (Again I DON'T know everything, at all. But I have learned a lot here that I wish to share, mostly just the dangerous stuff) I hated getting people's 2 cents all the time while pregnant. But the co sleeping covered in pillows and blankets worries me. TIA. And if you all think I should just mind my own business, then thanks for the honesty because that's what I've been trying to do, ha.
I would just send her some information on safe co sleeping. Just say you knew she was concerned about her DH and you had looked into it and found certain links really informative.
I think the best way is to give other moms access to the information you have found most helpful, but still let them make their own choices.
Also...if she is having trouble pumping maybe see if you two can go to a lactation group together (or any type of new mom group). I love the one I go to. We talk everything, and share tips and what had worked in real life for all sorts of topics. You could bring up co sleeping there as well and see if other moms have tips to share with her, and ask questions to guide the conversation to help educate her.
Tomorrow is my first day back at work. Not happy. Pretty sure I'm not going back after Christmas. Or if I do, it's as PRN, so I only work a few days per month.
This is exactly how I felt when I went back. My mom gave me great advice. She said, 6 weeks off, 6 weeks on... Meaning since I've been off 6 weeks, I should give it a real chance and work at least 6 weeks before deciding not to work. 2 weeks in, I'm already so glad to be working again.
Not bad advice at all. I was a SAHM with the older 3, and I really just want the same experience with this one.
Fed LO before leaving the house. Drove across town. Usually she falls asleep in the car...nope awake. Walk into the store and she has a meltdown. Go to feed her think she's done another meltdown. Thank goodness for the nice comfortable feeding room at the store.
remember when we used to care about baby shower hosting, people who made us guess the sex of the baby, mucus plugs and more? I couldn't care less about all that flaming now. Now all I care about is my little kangiraptor sleeping and getting four hours of sleep at a time.
No MIL, baby does not need to be held by you to sleep she is hungry and if you keep suggesting other solutions than me feeding her I will flip the eff out.
"You wouldn't want to have to start photoshopping him in pictures because he is too fat." -My dad regarding the possibility of over feeding.
Okay dad, I'm definitely ready for your visit to be over. Your humor is no longer appreciated.
5 cycles of "TTC" - 3 intentional, 2 not so intentional. 5 BFPs. My rainbow arrived 10/15/14. TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
I just realized the song "Merry Christmas from the Family" perfectly describes my side of the family's Christmas. So redneck, but so fun. I'm sad I'll be missing out this year.
Omg! Watching MIL handle DD while she was crying because dd was hungry (like I said 45 minutes ago )was damn terrifying. She flopped dd from arm to shoulder back to her arm in under a minute WITHOUT supporting her head. Then she stood up and started walking with her and tried swinging her side to side through the air by my stairs. I said something 3 times and she didn't hear me. She will babysit my daughter over my dead body.
Kangaroo hold in the moby may be new favorite thing -- I wrap DS in it while he's sleeping w/o setting him down and waking him up. It feels so good to stand up and have my arms free again
This hold saved Thanksgiving dinner for me. I actually got to eat!
Me: 30 | DH: 4/12/85 - 6/16/14 | Quinn Patrick born 9/28/14
S is refusing to nap today. Thankfully it's partly because he's in a good mood, but I wasn't expecting to have to entertain the kid at only 6 weeks old. I thought he'd be content in his "stations" or in my arms, but that's suddenly no longer enough and he greatly appreciates actual interaction. He also decided to roll onto his back from his stomach and I wasn't prepared for it and had to catch his head before it hit one of the legs on the swing. WTF kid?
On the fun side, we took him to brunch today, and there was a "benedict" station with all varieties of eggs benedict. I'm not a fan, but the challah french toast was orgasmic; between that and the breakfast pastries, I was a glutton. Definitely made up for forgetting to eat all week!
Oh, but he also took his first poop outside of the house when we were 2 blocks from the club. I ended up changing him on the floor of the ladies lounge, and multiple women commented on how good he was because despite being awake, there wasn't a peep from him outside of coos the entire meal or during diaper changing. I was so proud of him!
5 cycles of "TTC" - 3 intentional, 2 not so intentional. 5 BFPs. My rainbow arrived 10/15/14. TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
I took a bunch of pictures from the last 12 years and made a photo book, and I'm thinking about giving it to my parents as part of their christmas present. We lost a bunch of pictures in a house fire several years ago, so I made one for the kids to give their dad, too, since I took the remaining ones with me when I moved to SD.
Ugh... I just logged into my grade book for the first time since I left school. The first trimester just ended and somehow almost ALL of my students have over 95% for their grade. While I'm sure this makes them happy, this cannot possibly be an accurate reflection of mastery and does not set a good precedent for the remainder of the school year. I am not an easy grader, and 8th graders do NOT deserve As just for showing up. There also isn't a single grade in there for writing -- this is a Language Arts class; they need to be writing. What the fuck has my long-term sub been doing?
After 2 weeks of reprieve, cluster feeding has made a comeback. That's okay though. Gives me a reason to hold DS without people telling me to put him down or I'll spoil him.
Me: 30 | DH: 4/12/85 - 6/16/14 | Quinn Patrick born 9/28/14
Ugh... I just logged into my grade book for the first time since I left school. The first trimester just ended and somehow almost ALL of my students have over 95% for their grade. While I'm sure this makes them happy, this cannot possibly be an accurate reflection of mastery and does not set a good precedent for the remainder of the school year. I am not an easy grader, and 8th graders do NOT deserve As just for showing up. There also isn't a single grade in there for writing -- this is a Language Arts class; they need to be writing. What the fuck has my long-term sub been doing?
And this guy had a ton of experience -- 23 yrs teaching, 15 yrs teaching AP -- but had just moved to our state, so didn't have a full time position yet bc his credential hadn't yet transferred. I emailed my principal about it -- I'm so not okay with this.
That is stressful. I haven't checked mine (although 3rd grade much different than 8th). I do, however, stalk my ClassDojo account (behavior tracker) and it seems like most of my students are being PITAes for the long term sub and my co teacher. I do not look forward to having to come back and be Sargent Hard Ass when I return in January.
After 2 weeks of reprieve, cluster feeding has made a comeback. That's okay though. Gives me a reason to hold DS without people telling me to put him down or I'll spoil him.
Spoil him? Ugh. Dude. DD was fussing. After mentioning that DD just wanted to be held and stimulated in some way, MIL made the comment that DD needs to learn to entertain herself. SHE'S 2 MONTHS OLD FOR FUCKS SAKE. She doesn't know how to entertain herself. And I also let her know that sometimes she enjoys sleeping on our chest, she looked at me like I was crazy. I just can't with people telling me that what I'm doing is going to affect my baby negatively. Makes me irrationally angry.
S/o bird poop...a bird pooped on my head on my birthday this year. I was sitting under a tree and felt something, but thought it was a falling leaf. Then I was in the bathroom and ran my finges through my hair to see some white residue and realize what happened.
Also, this summer, a bird decided to use my head as a launch pad to land on and fly off from...bird dug its claws in my head and it hurt!
@keelyd I know your pain. Apparently they had to fire my first long term sub (recommended by the district) because he was doing crazy shit and not following any of my lesson plans. Thankfully the sub thats been there for the last 3-4weeks is great. It was a pain to not totally be unplugged but at least I wont be blindsided when I get back.
After 2 weeks of reprieve, cluster feeding has made a comeback. That's okay though. Gives me a reason to hold DS without people telling me to put him down or I'll spoil him.
Spoil him? Ugh. Dude. DD was fussing. After mentioning that DD just wanted to be held and stimulated in some way, MIL made the comment that DD needs to learn to entertain herself. SHE'S 2 MONTHS OLD FOR FUCKS SAKE. She doesn't know how to entertain herself. And I also let her know that sometimes she enjoys sleeping on our chest, she looked at me like I was crazy. I just can't with people telling me that what I'm doing is going to affect my baby negatively. Makes me irrationally angry.
People also don't seem to get that, hey, I actually LIKE holding my baby. He won't be a baby forever. Let me hold him without comment.
Me: 30 | DH: 4/12/85 - 6/16/14 | Quinn Patrick born 9/28/14
After 2 weeks of reprieve, cluster feeding has made a comeback. That's okay though. Gives me a reason to hold DS without people telling me to put him down or I'll spoil him.
Spoil him? Ugh. Dude. DD was fussing. After mentioning that DD just wanted to be held and stimulated in some way, MIL made the comment that DD needs to learn to entertain herself. SHE'S 2 MONTHS OLD FOR FUCKS SAKE. She doesn't know how to entertain herself. And I also let her know that sometimes she enjoys sleeping on our chest, she looked at me like I was crazy. I just can't with people telling me that what I'm doing is going to affect my baby negatively. Makes me irrationally angry.
People also don't seem to get that, hey, I actually LIKE holding my baby. He won't be a baby forever. Let me hold him without comment.
I finally told my MIL that I'll never look back and wish I didn't hold my baby so much...
Baby starts daycare tomorrow. I have so much shit to prepare. But DH found a website wheye we ordered custom labels for all lo's stuff. Namebubble.Com
He has been cooing up a storm and my heart is just not ready to share him all day with others. His daycare is across the street from my office so I can go visit but ugh!
I go back to work on Tuesday and it is going to be so weird going back. Wish I could have lo with me there but we all know I wouldn't get shit done.
It has been a wild ride ladys and I will do my best to stay current with you all but I have a feeling I will drop off the radar for awhile.
Today we went on a walk in the neighborhood and finished putting up the tree. This morning little dude was all independent and it made me sad. Currently, he's asleep in my arms and doesn't want anything else. Makes my heart melt.
My sweet little baby chicken is eating right now as we lay in bed and I try to watch 'getting on' but she is snoring so loud I cannot hear the show!! Be quiet little chicken! Also, I made an apple pie half from scratch today- crust was Pillsbury so so so good.. I have been wanting apple pie for weeks! Yummo!
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I think the best way is to give other moms access to the information you have found most helpful, but still let them make their own choices.
Also...if she is having trouble pumping maybe see if you two can go to a lactation group together (or any type of new mom group). I love the one I go to. We talk everything, and share tips and what had worked in real life for all sorts of topics. You could bring up co sleeping there as well and see if other moms have tips to share with her, and ask questions to guide the conversation to help educate her.
Now all I care about is my little kangiraptor sleeping and getting four hours of sleep at a time.
Funny how things change.
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
https://share.shutterfly.com/action/welcome?sid=0AcNGzVi0ZNnDjA
Yes? No? (Knowing my luck, the link doesn't even work)
Also, this summer, a bird decided to use my head as a launch pad to land on and fly off from...bird dug its claws in my head and it hurt!
Down with birds.
He has been cooing up a storm and my heart is just not ready to share him all day with others. His daycare is across the street from my office so I can go visit but ugh!
I go back to work on Tuesday and it is going to be so weird going back. Wish I could have lo with me there but we all know I wouldn't get shit done.
It has been a wild ride ladys and I will do my best to stay current with you all but I have a feeling I will drop off the radar for awhile.
Today we went on a walk in the neighborhood and finished putting up the tree. This morning little dude was all independent and it made me sad. Currently, he's asleep in my arms and doesn't want anything else. Makes my heart melt.
Currently watching Atlanta housewives. I'd love a glass of wine, but I don't want to move the cuddly baby.
I was just coming to say that my four year old wont go the eff to sleep and keeps asking 'how many minutes until morning?'