Night time duties, question for second time moms

lana22

tripletoe said:

I let my husband sleep not because he's gotta work, but to me, it seemed pointless to wake him if I was nursing. It would take me 30 seconds to change a diaper and I didn't see the point in disturbing him to do that if I was already up. 

this. never understood one spouse getting up just to change diapers when one has to be up for nursing. once we switch to bottles/formula he will take some feedings. 

Lanatir

lana22 said:

tripletoe said:

I let my husband sleep not because he's gotta work, but to me, it seemed pointless to wake him if I was nursing. It would take me 30 seconds to change a diaper and I didn't see the point in disturbing him to do that if I was already up. 

this. never understood one spouse getting up just to change diapers when one has to be up for nursing. once we switch to bottles/formula he will take some feedings. 

I'm sure this would probably happen with my husband if we didn't have the newborn in the room.  My friend used to make her husband bring her the baby, though, since he was awake anyway when the baby would start crying, so she could get everything situated for nursing.

I tried the "my husband is working, so he should get to sleep" thing, but he was often up anyway due to the rooming in and then once I had the PPD diagnosis, every little bit of extra sleep I got probably outweighed him going to work a little tired, or so we both think.  It's definitely an issue where you will need to weigh so many different factors to find the best solution for your family.