Not announcing anytime soon (2nd baby)

lilitaliangirl

This is kiddo #2 for me and hubs. DS is almost 5. I don't really have any desire to share with extended family until more around Christmas (roughly 17 weeks). My mom says I'm taking away for this baby by not sharing with everyone. I just don't like all the coddling that comes from people when they know you are pregnant. Am I being selfish?

babybean9

I think you have to go with what you're most comfortable with. Your pregnancy, your rules! A lot of people don't share until they're further along.

sassypants2010

I am doing the same. I have a hard time telling extended family anything since they try to one up everyone. You are not being selfish, you are doing what makes you comfortable and that is the best thing to do right now.

TheNewMrsY

Selfish? No way! It's your pregnancy and you get to do it the way you want!

beckynsean11

You need to do what's right for you. We've told a few people, but we probably won't be telling anyone we don't have to tell until February. I don't feel that it's selfish. What's going on in my uterus is between myself, MH & my doctors. We'll tell the world when we're ready.

seannemairi

I'm the same way. I've told my co workers(I'm a flight attendant and we're all really close) the parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles know. My mother not shutting the fuck up about it ever is really irritating to me. I blame the hormones but I've never liked the attention. I'm saving it next time.

Bfairchild618

Same boat. Second baby, waiting until Christmas. Sometimes I feel sad that we are waiting so long. But, then I remember how annoying some people become once you tell them and I decide all over again that waiting is a good idea. Haha.

emme&dubya

I was going to tell my family at Christmas (16 weeks 2 days) but when I had my mom over for a belated Thanksgiving, and I mentioned that I was a bit sick over our vacation, she kept saying that maybe I was pregnant.  Then she was insistent that she should be the second person to know after Hubby.  She asked if I was prego, and I just flat out said, "No."  

I would think my own mother, who taught me all of my manners, would realize how rude it is to ever ask anyone if they're pregnant.  So, now I'm probably not going to tell her or anyone in my family, until there's so much belly there's no way to blame it on being fat.  I was worried about telling her anyway since she would probably be hit harder than I would be if I lost the baby.

Maybe it's incredibly spiteful, but right now I don't care, and feel incredibly justified.  I've already told my close friends, since I know they won't coddle me or pity me one way or another.

MrsCaliRN

I'm a FTM and after I told my mom this Thanksgiving, I've pretty much regretted it. She is the annoying coddler you mentioned: always trying to feed me and tell me what I should and shouldn't do. Also, she keeps comparing me to pregnant women in movies saying, "Oh, sweetie, you should wear something like that" or "Don't you feel like that sometimes?" Arg! I wish I could wait to tell the rest of my family, but I'm kind of being forced to because my mom thinks it's selfish of me to not have told everyone already. I'm not even 12 weeks along yet! Geez!

crikit83

It's not like you're going to hide the baby in the attic once you have it. I get that family gets really excited about babies too, and that's awesome, but you don't owe them that. 

My DH has said a few times that he wishes we'd held out a little longer on telling family - "They have so many opinions!"

lfaithlove

We did announce over this past weekend, but I was really reluctant and actually very much enjoyed keeping it amidst my closest family and a few friends. I also hate all the coddling and attention. I have had mixed emotions since announcing. (This is also baby #2 for us). So I would definitely encourage you to go with your gut/what makes you feel the most comfortable and happy. Pregnancy is hard enough as it is without trying to decode some secrete unwritten rule book/giving into what others think is best.