Tired of hearing I'm too old!

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Shoecrazysarah

I haven't had anyone say it to my face, but I know some are thinking it. It's frustrating. Honestly, I definitely feel we are more prepared to be parents now then in our 20's.

Nikolie93

I also have not heard it to my face but sure people are saying it.

Just try to brush it off. I know, easier said than done *hug*

meredithcarole

My great grandmother had twins at 40. I say it doesn't matter what others think.

vh2014

I got that at my bridal shower.. from someone who had 2 children in their 40s... my answer was we'll see but then, because I wasn't prepared I explained that he hadn't had kids.  Somehow that made it ok... really?  We didn't have one together so that should have been enough.... but even if we did, if we just wanted to grow our family it's no one's business. Only my body gets to decide when I am too old, and I intend to fight that all the way. Maybe next time I'll say "you're too old to have bad manners but I see it doesn't stop you". 

shadiddynyc

I have heard "you better have some kids before you get too old," since I was about 34. Who decides the optimum time to have children? Especially when you have no idea of my situation. I had a friend of mine a couple of yrs ago say to me that I was selfish because I didn't have a baby smh.

Nikolie93

@shadiddynyc‌ I heard I was selfish years ago as well!

CML11

Maybe it's just me being jaded and bitter, but I would start saying these things. Pretty sure the comments would stop

KirstenAlecia

shadiddynyc said:

I have heard "you better have some kids before you get too old," since I was about 34. Who decides the optimum time to have children? Especially when you have no idea of my situation. I had a friend of mine a couple of yrs ago say to me that I was selfish because I didn't have a baby smh.

pshhhhhh, I would have said "well I disagree but 

IF I WAS SELFISH....thats the best reason NOT to be a parent!" Woulda shut em up either way.....

lcwed

Ughhh!!!  That is rough.  As for the neices and nephews, I think their comments just go to show the immaturity of their ages.  Also, with the increase of teen pregnancies anything past 28 would seem ancient to them.  I imagine with today's youth, teen pregnancy is more like "oh you have chicken pox" kind of thing.  Most people don't get it at that age, but when they do, its not the big drama it was when we were in school.

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CML11

@hopingfour2‌ I love that! I hope that puts them in their place for good!

mst08

Some people feel "too free" to interject their opinions! I'm sorry you had to go through this. The bad manners reply is great!

AuntieMissy76

I know in my case I have always wanted children but was not going to bring them into the world accidentally. I am on my second marriage (first hubby wound up being gay - there's a can of worms!) and with the perfect man this time. I waited until the situation was perfect to try to bring a child into the world. I wanted a supportive, committed partner. I wanted to have the means to make sure my child was brought up with a comfortable lifestyle. I waited until the right moment. I feel like it was selfless of me to wait for the sake of my child to try. Not selfish at all! We are all unique as are our circumstances. Chalk their lack of manners up to the inexperience of youth and know that your children will benefit from your wisdom and maturity.

MsJazzy73

Oh I KNOW my comments wouldn't be nice! Teen parents? Humph, better too "old" but more stable mentally, physically and financially, than todo young that I drop my baby off at daycare before high school! Flashback to my MIL, who just had to say that she wouldn't have gotten the tubal reversal until he put a ring on my finger! (He proposed later that year and we just married in May) So how do you feel about your daughter whose on her 4th child by her 4th baby daddy - all born outta wedlock! I just wish people would shut up sometimes!!!!!

peregrinefalconx

Meh. Crass comments from people who should know better. You could make a mean, "well at least i didn't ruin my life by having kids too early" (not that this true or you feel that way--but geez, my mom who had my brother at 18 certainly felt like that). And yes to MzJassy's comment. I really wouldn't be nice about what I had to say back. Something probably like how I have a masters degree, am financially stable, have a career, etc. and whaddyou got? or "wow, that's rude." Man, I am all mad just thinking about it.

BTW, my grandmother had my father at 45 in 1941...She lived to be 90.

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MySallyGirl

She sounds clueless like we all were when very young!