Why I am a Terrible Person Wednesday

WasNotWas

It's crazy raining here and I'm hoping it keeps it up tomorrow so that my FIL can't "air fry" the turkey. It just adds to the list of reasons why them hosting is a terrible idea (I'd be happy to list the other reasons).

What makes you a terrible person today?

megaroo64

I am hoping someone on my husbands side of the family gets sick so I can use it as a reason for Nora and I to bow out of that thanksgiving. Nothing terrible sick. Like not Ebola- but like a bad cold or flu like symptoms.

Granted- this is also making the massive assumption that they would tell me--- which they wouldn't....

momofcatan

I bad-mouthed my BIL and SIL to my friends last weekend with a passive aggressive comment. I really shouldn't, all my friends know BIL and SIL. I think letting a smart ass comment out every once in a while (always behind their backs) helps keep my jealousy in check the rest of the time.

WasNotWas

steamboat123 said:

My team at work has nick named my asshat coworker "home school". He doesn't know, but the guy has no social norms (asks what you are looking at on your computer, interrupts on conversations, constantly makes comments during meetings to try and sound smart). He is so annoying.

Does he have aspergers?

I've wondered and I'm not a professional, but I think he's just a jerk. It's not really something you can ask, but he doesn't act like other adults I know are on the spectrum.

I'm pretty sure my boss is on the spectrum and he's still an ass.

itsStackie

If you ask LO, it's because I won't let her play with the ceramics, and because I can't cook butter beans like granny.

Lizzybizzy80

This is super weird and petty of me but I have one spot in our office freezer that I put my frozen dinners and where I used to put my freezer pack for pumping. If someone puts their food in "my" spot I move it. It's almost always the same person and she throws three dinners in there at a time. I know it's annoying but it's kind of like each of us has claimed our parking spaces.

Lizzybizzy80

I want to take two cars to my MILs so that I can leave early "because of B".

TheMilkMaker

My sister is moving across the country for work at the beginning of January and I haven't planned any sort of going away festivities, mostly because I'm in denial and if I have to plan something, it means she's actually leaving. Super-selfish, I know...

daffy2k

@WasNotWas‌, genuinely curious... Is "air frying" a typo/autocorrect, or is that actually what he calls it? Is it different than deep frying?

WasNotWas

daffy2k said:

@WasNotWas‌, genuinely curious... Is "air frying" a typo/autocorrect, or is that actually what he calls it? Is it different than deep frying?

air frying is what I call the thing. It's an oil-less deep fryer (which is like what's the point). It's basically a turkey cooked in an expensive convection oven...

daffy2k

WasNotWas said:

daffy2k said:

@WasNotWas‌, genuinely curious... Is "air frying" a typo/autocorrect, or is that actually what he calls it? Is it different than deep frying?

air frying is what I call the thing. It's an oil-less deep fryer (which is like what's the point). It's basically a turkey cooked in an expensive convection oven...

so basically it's an Actifry built specifically for a turkey? Yeah, that sounds ridiculous.

Lizzybizzy80

My boss started talking to me about his conversation with a friend in the nut business and how they have to handpick the largest nuts to send to Abu Dhabi because apparently everyone wants to be able to have the largest nuts. Like someone will be mad if his friend has larger nuts.

All I could hear was nuts, nuts, nuts, guys want to have big nuts.

bumpuser7846882

@smpeachey‌ - that's a huge part of why I feel so shitty about feeling so shitty!

I'm a terrible person because I'm waiting for SH to ask me about my appointment instead of bringing it up myself. Or telling him how selfish and ungrateful I think he's being. Basically I'm being really passive aggressive, which I hate.

daffy2k

Hugs @smpeachey‌ . I remember having similar feelings (not on here because I wasn't active on TB then) after I had my miscarriage. It's not fair and you are totally justified in your feelings.

daffy2k

I've been a super bitch lately, and today is no different. SH keeps doing and saying dumb shit and just doesn't get it when I tell him how annoying he's being. I know part of it is me being hormonal and whatever, but I think he needs to make a bigger effort not to piss me off. Yeah, I'm a terrible person.

momofcatan

Sympkin said:

momofcatan said:

I bad-mouthed my BIL and SIL to my friends last weekend with a passive aggressive comment. I really shouldn't, all my friends know BIL and SIL. I think letting a smart ass comment out every once in a while (always behind their backs) helps keep my jealousy in check the rest of the time.

Bad-mouthing my SIL/BIL is pretty much a hobby for me, it keeps me from exploding at them for all their stupid shit.

It's a problem for me because it is totally about jealousy. I know they are going to end up with the perfect, financially stable life even though they live off of their parent right now, and I want to have a toddler tantrum about how unfair that is.

daffy2k

@momofcatan‌ I acutally find it hard to believe that they will, if they so readily live off their parents at this age (I'm assuming they are close-ish in age to you or I?) I know far too many spoiled 40 year olds who have never learned how to manage their money because their parents always bail them out. So even with a good job and what should be an equally good income they just can't ever get it together. I know you feel jealous (I probably would too), but just remember that their parents probably aren't doing them any favours supporting them this way and that down the road you and your H will be way better off because of it.

momofcatan

daffy2k said:

@momofcatan‌ I acutally find it hard to believe that they will, if they so readily live off their parents at this age (I'm assuming they are close-ish in age to you or I?) I know far too many spoiled 40 year olds who have never learned how to manage their money because their parents always bail them out. So even with a good job and what should be an equally good income they just can't ever get it together. I know you feel jealous (I probably would too), but just remember that their parents probably aren't doing them any favours supporting them this way and that down the road you and your H will be way better off because of it.

@daffy2k I almost wish I could say this is them, but its not. They are in their early 20's and on their way to a  great life. They are extremely smart, at top dental and medical schools and only living off of their parents because they are both students. My BIL is not a material person, they do not spend a lot of money things (unless you count having a baby, but even then they get their parents to buy everything for them). They are also smart in that they keep finding ways to guilt my IL into paying for more and more of their schooling so their student loans won't even be that large.

As I said, I want to have a big huge toddler tantrum.

daffy2k

@momofcatan‌ I totally get where you're coming from. If they keep guilting their parents into paying for more and more though, I still see a similar pattern to what I mentioned. There's a sense of entitlement there and if one day it's cut off, smart or not, a lot of people can't deal. Time will only tell. You and your H can be proud of the fact that you do make it on your own, while it sometimes sucks, you've earned every bit of what you have. They might say they have too, but in reality they haven't. Being a student for 8 years doesn't entitle you to the same plush life you lived as a kid (and your child to that too). I really hope they are, or at least learn to be, very grateful for what is being given to them.

daffy2k

kdc2007 said:

I'm not helping peel potatoes. G was up most of the night (now she has an ear infection) and I'm so tired. She's clingy and crabby. And I'm tired.

I've been pulling the tired mom card out here and there too. No shame. Do you know how many times I've covered for the other girls in the family when their kids were young? It's their turn to help while my babies are little. I'm not saying I sit on my ass every holiday, but if my kid needs me or I've been up all night and someone tells me to sit down, well I don't argue.

daffy2k

@CL8badB‌ that would drive me nuts! It's my house, I'll cook how I want dammit!!