Another update

klbowie · November 2014

So two weeks ago, 11/10, I was diagnosed with a tubal pregnancy in my left tube. After serious debate and conversations, I decided to get the methotrexate shot. On day four my betas doubled so I planned for the worse for day seven. I had my dad take off time to help me with the baby and cleaned the house all nice. I was convinced I was going to need surgery. But low and behold my levels dropped 22%. I was surprised, happy, and felt bad for making my dad take off time. (But he loved spending extra time with his granddaughter) Well fast forward to yesterday. I went back to the doctor sure numbers decreased as I finally started bleeds Friday. Had a messy house and took baby with me to the doctors, no one lined up for help. And my numbers jumped back up. The doctor offered another round of methotrexate but I refused. I'm still breastfeeding and almost dried up last time. Also, I didn't want to put more poison in my body and was tired of the waiting game. We scheduled my surgery for today at four. He didn't seem to worried since I wasn't in bad pain. Well two hours later I was at home doubled over in a lot of pain. Luckily, MH decided to come home early. I told him he didn't need to since surgery wasn't until the next day. He said your numbers are going up, so it's growing. I want yo be there in case something happens. Thank god he did!! We went to the emergency, my doctor was on call, and was in the er within two hours. I lost my tube as it was ready to rupture at any second. My husband got to see pictures and he couldn't believe it hadn't ruptured yet. I'm surprised I wasn't in pain until then! Well I'm at home recovering. My shoulder is killing my from the gas. It's worse then the incisions right now and my baby girl is annoyed with momma for leaving her. I feel like a bad mom on so many levels but I know I'm doing my best. Can any one tell me what to expect recovery wise? An suggestions for helping with the shoulder pain or when it will go away. Thank you ladies for everything. Don't know what I would do without you.

Mom2anAngel2 · November 2014

Huge HUGS!!!! I have never been through an ectopic, but have had surgery. The pain that radiated to my neck and shoulder were the worst. My Dr told me to move as much as pissible to help the gas dissipate and be absorbed. Moving was hard enough, but it did work. The neck and shoulder pain resolved in 2 days.

I am sure you little girl knows that you are a great mom and loves every second she can be with you. Sending T&Ps for a speedy recovery.

KikiCohen · November 2014

Oh hun

It has just been a horrible, horrible time for you. You're not being a bad mom! You are taking care of your DD's mom and that is VERY important.

SunshinyLees · November 2014

Oh nooo I'm so sorry to hear this:( sending my T&P's your way. Huge hugs xoxo

BootsOrHearts · November 2014

I'm so sorry you had to deal with all that. I hope it's all behind you now and I'm glad they could save your tube.

I had bad gas pain in my mid section and had to do suppositories to get my bowels working again and that finally helped but it was awful. Hang in there.

km_md · November 2014

I have no advice, just wanted to offer hugs and say I'm so sorry you're going through this.

kateitho · November 2014

I'm so sorry you're going through all of this. ((hugs))

FmrAFBrat · December 2014

I'm so sorry for the late reply and your loss. I think ectopics are a harder type of loss both mentally and physically. I've had a miscarriage too..if you can't see my siggy. I've been MIA but try to reply to posts like this. I was on strict bed rest for 2 weeks and restricted for 6 weeks. The first month was hell....but I ruptured and lost my right tube. The gas and bruising were horrific. I wanted to fart or burp....but I couldn't. The two days of oxygen in the hospital pure hell. I've never been in so much pain....ever. My stomach started as black, turned purple, then blue, then green, and then yellow bruising. It took about 8 weeks for my stomach to look normal again. The stitches start desolving 2 weeks out. They itch like hell. You may get twinges....for awhile. I had them for close to three months. They felt like hard pinches on my tubes/ovaries. You will probably bleed off and on for 6 weeks or so, but you should get a period within 4-6 weeks. If you have any other questions let me know. I really loved the heating pad while I was recovering. If I could have take a month off it would have been helpful as it took my body a long time to resemble normal, as well as feel it. Make someone else do your work. That surgery is harder on your body than having a baby.