The topper to my cake.

theyazzmatazz

So as some of you may know, I've been going through a very rough time. Our car got stolen, my husband became unemployed, The doctor found gallbladder issues and Cholestasis and now just when I was starting to get super close to my husband I find out he had been looking for other women online. I know what his intentions were to based on a past occurrence. Just effin great. I didn't leave him because I truly wanted to make things work and forgive him especially because of our kids and because I truly have love for him, but someone who is like this doesn't deserve it. I'm so broken-hearted. I don't want divorce, I don't want a broken home but I also don't want to have to keep going through this. My daughter is a few weeks from being born and I feel like I can barely rejoice in that. I feel so down. Not to mention my Cholestasis is intensifying and I just don't feel in the mood for anything....

BookitBoo

I'm very sorry that you're going through this. I think if you seriously don't want divorce (and even if you decide you need a divorce) that counseling would be good for you both.

I wish I had more advice; lots of T&P

Maebb

I'm sorry for what you're going through. Have you confronted your husband about it? If my H cheated on me any time, but especially during pregnancy, it would cause me to seriously reevaluate the relationship. A "broken home" might be preferable to one where there is little trust, respect, and love.

Please talk to someone if you can. And T&Ps for your health issues too.

marvan5

I agree with PP's, talk to someone, preferably a professional and be up front with your husband. Marriage is so hard but it can be a ton of work, especially through the rough times. If you can't build trust or respect then leave, that is no environment for children to be raised in. I am so sorry you are going through this, I really hope things work out for the best.

ShuShubee

That is a lot to deal with. I agree in that you should find a counselor to talk to, alone and with your husband. I don't think that cheating always means divorce, and that it is possible for a marriage to recover. Both of you have to be willing to work at it. However, I also think that there are times where divorce is the best option for all involved (including children). Only you and your H can make that decision.

mmur76

I am sorry you are dealing with this, especially being pregnant.  I have no experience with this, so take my advice with a grain of salt.  But I've never understood couples staying together because they don't want their children to be part of a "broken home".  In my opinion, having one loving parent is far better than watching your parents in a miserable relationship.  I don't think staying with someone who is unfaithful, just so your child can have 2 parents living under one roof, is a wise decision.  You may not be ready to make any decisions right now, but please talk to someone and think things through.

snowbaby1214

Agree with PPs; you need to talk to someone about this!

longcat07

i don't have anything helpful to add...there's a lot of good advice here already.  just wanted to add my own T&P for you to find some clarity in what to do.  what a shitty situation.  i'm so sorry you're dealing with this.

SheHulk723

I'm so so sorry to hear that.  I don't have any helpful advice, but my heart hurts for you.  I truly wish you the best, whatever you decide to do.

honeybeee3

I don't have any more advice to add to what PPs have already suggested. I just want to let you know, I'm really sorry you're going through so much. I can imagine it must be really difficult and overwhelming, especially with a LO on the way. Sending you lots of good thoughts and hugs!

soon2bejp

Sending thoughts and prayers to you. It is terrible that you are dealing with this especially while being pregnant. Hang in there and let us know if we can help in any way!

Lanatir

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this while pregnant.  In general, it would be difficult enough, but throwing in preparing for a new child and you don't need all the extra strains on you.  I don't have any advice other than what has already been said.

sfgiantsgamerbabe

No additional advice but I just wanted to say I'm really sorry you're going through this. Lots of hugs and prayers to you.

nlscroggins

i am so sorry. no one deserves that kind of treatment. for now, just concentrate on your health and your kiddos and hang in there the best you can. we are all here for you if you need to vent! 

januarymommy2015

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this on top of everything else you have been dealing with. I was in a very similar situation while pregnant with my DS. The stress and anxiety of the situation nearly cost me my life being that I had severe pre-e that went full blown before an emergency c/s. I only telling you this because I fully agree with earlier posts...for your emotional and mental health you have to find someone to talk to and vent to. Right now your job is to stay both physically and emotionally healthy for you and your little one. Get through the next couple of weeks, then go from there. Thoughts and Prayers.

StarLiteKiss

Sorry to hear that you are going through a rough time. Best thing I can say is take a moment to evaluate everything, talk to someone and seriously have a heart to heart talk with H. If you two want to work it out and both are willing to put in the effort to rebuild your relationship and trust then definitely consider counseling. I understand not wanting a broken home but you deserve to be happy. Children can sense when something is wrong and that can be just as toxic as breaking apart. Whatever you decide to do, know that you have many people by your side for support.