New BMB *post title change*

hollowway

Ugh! I forgot how much the first tri sucks on a BMB! Every post is about either a loss, not having symptoms, anxiety, am I showing, bla bla bla! Ah! Oh my goodness I can't take it! "I'm only 6 weeks but I swear I'm showing!" No. You have bloat because your appleseed is still hiding behind your pubic bone. I dread the "I felt baby kick" posts when its just gas... or the moms electing to be induced early. Ugh. Ugh. Ugh.

Going to go snuggle my toddler and wait for the first tri to be over...

cagoldi

Okay...

[Deleted User]

I would be careful saying stuff like this if you intend to stay on that board

fitmama418

cagoldi said:

Okay...

This.

Mommyxtwo1113 said:

I would be careful saying stuff like this if you intend to stay on that board

Plus this.

fitmama418

I think one of my firsts posts ever on N13 was loss anxiety related. Some gals from here gave me warm fuzzies and helped me feel better, others gave me firm, sound advice saying if I was anxious and if reading the posts on the BMB made it worse, I should take a break and come back later...and that's what I did; I learned the lay of the land in the meantime, too.

Rather than whine about your new BMB to your old BMB (where they can fiiiiind yooooou), consider taking a break or offering sound, firm, reassuring advice as someone who's BTDT. We were all newbs at one point or another.

fitmama418

MaMaBear1323 said:

Ugh! I forgot how much the first tri sucks on a BMB! Every post is about either a loss, not having symptoms, anxiety, am I showing, bla bla bla! Ah! Oh my goodness I can't take it! "I'm only 6 weeks but I swear I'm showing!" No. You have bloat because your appleseed is still hiding behind your pubic bone. I dread the "I felt baby kick" posts when its just gas... or the moms electing to be induced early. Ugh. Ugh. Ugh. Going to go snuggle my toddler and wait for the first tri to be over...

QFP

[Deleted User]

fitmama418 said:

MaMaBear1323 said:

Ugh! I forgot how much the first tri sucks on a BMB! Every post is about either a loss, not having symptoms, anxiety, am I showing, bla bla bla! Ah! Oh my goodness I can't take it! "I'm only 6 weeks but I swear I'm showing!" No. You have bloat because your appleseed is still hiding behind your pubic bone. I dread the "I felt baby kick" posts when its just gas... or the moms electing to be induced early. Ugh. Ugh. Ugh.

Going to go snuggle my toddler and wait for the first tri to be over...

Ok I can KIND OF get venting about the early showing and other minor stuff but to throw in The topic of loss as the first thing you are b*tching about hearing about is pretty insensitive and ignorant. Unfortunately it will happen to some women and it isa very real concern for many. As a veteran I would think you would know better than to brush that concern off and be so crass about it.

mamasoup030

I'm impressed any of you can keep up with 2 bmb, too much for me. I gave up on my new one. But I still wouldn't complain about them in such a rude way. It's all new for them. They are still shiney and bright, don't burst their bubbles, life will do that for them.

Kfran84

I remember those days. We all bonded over our nausea together, right? Remember some of those girls have no one else to talk to about their feelings because they may not be "out" to friends or even family. 

I look forward to playing a BTDT role in my next BMB. I know I have really appreciated all the words of wisdom I've received from our moms of 2+. So either play that role, or don't, but whether it's first tri nausea/losses, 2nd tri anatomy scans/gender parties, 3rd tri naming and babyshowers, it's all gonna be the same jazz as it was here. Except less awesome.

BTW, OP your DD's pic in your siggy is so freakin' cute.

hollowway

I'm not being insensitive to the losses, but they get overwhelming in the beginning, and its disheartening and sad. After two losses of my own, I tend to avoud thise posts, which means I avoid over half the posts. PGAL brain can't handle it.

The anxiety posts I was referring to are the ones where the OP has no symptoms is bragplaining about it. At only 4-6 weeks, if your boobs being sore is your only symptom, be thankful.

Every post is the same, its a bit tedious and very repetitive. It may seem like bs to complain about... but when the board is flooded with the same posts over and over again, it makes it hard to find and respond to the serious posts where moms need support and input. After the 100th post about no symptoms, or showing already, they flood out the beta and ultrasound posts. If OPs took time to read other threads, right below theirs about the same thing, they'd get the answers to their questions without aw-ing. Which I'm doing. So I'm a hypocrit today.

hollowway

I wont even tell you the new number Sing2phins... I had all my wonfo's left and couldnt help it. Like I said. Hypocrit today.

hollowway

I'm a basket of ridiculousness today. Thank goodness for the BLADS of N13.

cagoldi

MaMaBear1323 said:

I'm not being insensitive to the losses, but they get overwhelming in the beginning, and its disheartening and sad. After two losses of my own, I tend to avoud thise posts, which means I avoid over half the posts. PGAL brain can't handle it.

The anxiety posts I was referring to are the ones where the OP has no symptoms is bragplaining about it. At only 4-6 weeks, if your boobs being sore is your only symptom, be thankful.

Every post is the same, its a bit tedious and very repetitive. It may seem like bs to complain about... but when the board is flooded with the same posts over and over again, it makes it hard to find and respond to the serious posts where moms need support and input. After the 100th post about no symptoms, or showing already, they flood out the beta and ultrasound posts. If OPs took time to read other threads, right below theirs about the same thing, they'd get the answers to their questions without aw-ing. Which I'm doing. So I'm a hypocrit today.

Sorry, but this is hilarious. Speaking of AW, you only post in HDBD threads. I bet you won't miss your chance for those on your new board either.

[Deleted User]

It would also be wise to remember that we have newly pregnant ladies on this board that may be having anxiety and needing reassurance. Just because someone is a stm doesn't mean they are excluded from these situations.

fitmama418

So when I was freaking out and asking people if the lack of pregnancy symptoms was something I should worry about, I was bragplaining?

Oh.

cagoldi

And there's the part where one of our regs just had a loss, OP, but you wouldn't know that since you're only here to post pics.

UntaggableKatie

You all took the words right out of my mouth... so here's a picture of meatloaf because I don't have anything else to offer

UntaggableKatie

Also, boom went the @cagoldi and @sing2phins dynamite and I'm Loving IT!

Kfran84

#goldiburn

UntaggableKatie

Would it be rude to point new BMB in this direction??

That's mean right?

TJHine

CeeShellz said:

This rubbed me the wrong way too. I'm sure there are plenty here that would be thrilled to at least have the option of joining a new BMB, at this point. You hardly participate on this board at all anymore so it seems weird that you'd come to us bitching about them, in the first place...

I totally agree - I was just thinking how I so wish I could be a BTDT mom on a new BMB.

PeachsMama

Mommyxtwo1113 said:

It would also be wise to remember that we have newly pregnant ladies on this board that may be having anxiety and needing reassurance. Just because someone is a stm doesn't mean they are excluded from these situations.

Love you for this! @Mommyxtwo1113‌

FTM or STM doesn't matter. Every pregnancy is different and growing a human is scary.