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bumpuser10331514

I'd call it Significant Other Soundoff (SOS). A place to anonymously vent about your SO so you don't have to divorce them just to save face after complaining about them so much to your friends.

My SOS: he's sick. He's been nursing a 100.3 fever since late afternoon yesterday and now he wants me to take off of work, so he doesn't have to get the kids up and around to DC. I take enough time off with 2 kids. I have no desire to also take a day everytime my lameass H gets sick. Part of what makes him so intolerable when he's sick, is that he's a hypochondriac. The last time he was sick, he ended up in the hospital with viral meningitis (it was horrible). Now he's paranoid that that will happen again. Actually paranoid is a vastly scaled-back term for what he's going through. He had a panic attack last night and wouldn't take a Xanax b/c he had a fever. Ugh. Never marry a hypochondriac.

~X(

emberlee3

MH is a hypochondriac, too!  And I'm a doctor, but he never listens to me. 

I love your new board idea. 

bumpuser10331514

I'm so sorry, @emberlee3. There have been times that I wished I was a doctor so I could alleviate his fears, but then I remember that logic and facts don't work in these situations. I imagine being a doctor actually makes it even more frustrating.

bumpuser10331514

@tricia560 Exactly. I heard the beep-beep beep-beep of our thermometer about every 5 minutes last night. The battery is going to die and then what's he going to do?

For my next husband, I won't be nurturing any of them at all while we date. If they can't handle it, then they are not independent, self-sufficient adults. In fact, I might have a no-contact rule in between dates just to minimize the neediness.

rmbrjry

SomebabiesMom - I LOVE your idea for a new board and think you're onto something with your plan for your next husband

2chatter

I would love to make this a weekly thing like FFFC or UO.

Man colds are far more painful for wives than husbands.

That really bothers me, especially since my husband disagrees.

justjinny

OMG I agree with the man colds!  Last winter I had the flu at the same time MH had a pitiful man cold.  After I had spent a few hours laid out sick on the bathroom floor he had the idiocy to ask me to check on DS before coming back into bed at 2am since I was "already up".  I mean, I know he was sick too, but come on!  He may never live that one down.

jamiesc58

I have a hypochondriac husband also. He isn't working right now because he messed up his shoulder but is refusing the surgery the doctor is saying he NEEDS to have! There is always something wrong with him until it comes time to go hunting or something else with his buddies.

SomebabiesMom next time I will be marrying for money so I don't have to be the stressed out one trying to hold up a family and pay all the bills while he sits at home and does whatever it is that men do home alone!

bumpuser10331514

K3am said:

Man colds are the worst.. I swear, every time DH (thankfully not too often) is sick, I'm pretty sure the world is ending. 

No words, but I love the fact your planning the next husband. (I'm 95% sure it's in jest.)  My next husband will be an orphan. And wealthy. 

You're much more confident than I am...

I can totally do a weekly SOS. My DH is a PITA (and I mean that in the most loving way possible).

Mustardseed2007

@k3amthat should be a new dating site. Instead of farmersonly.com or Jdate.com it's going to be wealthysingleorphanlookingforwidowedmomof2.com (widow for when I kill DH next time he acts like he doesn't know what DS's shoes look like (or that he ever had shoes) so he can't possibly help me look for them in the morning).

  

74dragonfly

My sound off is lack of sleep. DH is awaken by dog at 4am, he can't fall asleep again and then he whines. Wtf man, I have not slept through the night in probably 15'months. Quit your bitching

alli2672

lol...this is a great idea.  I just recently had dinner with that friend who complains so much about her husband that I am embarrassed to be in the same room with the guy.

Love the idea of doing it here    

rubber_chicken

This really belongs in FFFC but the topic is more about spouses so here goes...

I'm the one who gets the man-colds.  When my husband gets sick, he's totally stoic.  When I get sick, the world is ending.

He also does all the cooking and most of the cleaning.  I'm in a backwards stereotypical marriage.

*sparky*

My SOS: I am so tired of hearing how unhappy my DH is with his job but he will not do anything about it. I used to have sympathy for him but really don't anymore because he has been complaining for years. At this point I just want to tell him to STFU. Is that wrong?

Don't get me started on the mancold! Fortunately it only happens about once a year around here but when it does it is a full-on crisis.

2chatter

@sparky - I was about to post the same!

Seriously, just really annoyed lately with DH being annoyed by/stressed out by work.  He could find something else, but he keeps interviewing for jobs that are not here and we are not moving (by mutual agreement - he would never move away from his family).  It makes me insane.

PSU_Texan

My SOS:   I'm sick of my husband being so lazy about sexy time.  Could we get a little romance before DTD?  I know it's not always going to be thrilling and there is a time for "comfort" sex, but I need a little more effort.  Of course, I'm sure he could say the same about me...  Not sure the last time I put on lingerie.

MickeyM04

My SOS:  My DH is literally the most absent-minded man alive.  He went upstairs this morning to let the dog in right before we left the house, and I asked him while he was letting her in, to grab me a bottle of water.  He goes upstairs, lets the dog in, and 10 seconds later comes down with no water in hand.  He forgot.

Every time he packs DD's bottles, he forgets one.  Once, he actually packed an empty bottle that had a label attached to it that said, "Bring freezer bag," but he didn't pack the freezer bag.  He said he didn't notice the bottle was empty.  ????

Yesterday, he forgot to pick up DD's prescription even though we talked about it 3 separate times...once when I talked to the doc, once when they called me to phone it in, and once before I left work for the day (pharmacy is a block from his office).  I feel like he literally needs me to remind him to put on pants or he doesn't notice he's not wearing any.

sugarbear0524

I have to preface my comments by saying that my DH is awesome. No real complaints. I chose him-- I didn't wait in a husband-receiving line and had to take the next one available when I got to the front. So I take the good with the not-so-good.

My SOS is that I'm tired of being the big meanie with DS. I told DH to channel his dad, who is very nice but means business when necessary, and help me discipline. I want him to tell DS, "I won't let you talk to Mommy that way." Basically, I want him to put me first. 

I love that gentleness when he is using it on me, I just want him to step up and use some discipline on DS.

mommaoftrips

socialmediamommy said:

My SOS: My husband gave our two year olds pretend swords and taught them to sword fight and use them as drums on all the furniture before i got home from work last night. Sometimes I wonder if I really have triplets, not twins.... 

Well, I have quads instead of triplets. Mine would do the exact same thing. Rolling my eyes.

VitaLuna

Ohh, I like! Mine: I can't stand that H doesn't do ANYTHING around the house after I go to bed with LO. He has 2.5 hrs that he is up by himself every night and he never bothers to help pick up the kitchen, fold laundry, etc. His job is to wash 1 bottle and 2 pump parts, and half the time he "forgets" that, too. I swear I could beat him with a stick sometimes!

bumpuser10331514

I'm so glad I'm not alone. It makes divorce seem less imminent.  <:-P

litzo27

@MickeyM04 - yep, that's mine too. I ask him to bring a roll of paper towels from the laundry room, he goes there, stands and looks around for a minute and then comes back and says "what did I go to the laundry room for?"

Mine is that he is physically incapable to clean up 100%. Every night I ask him to clean off the table while I start baths ready. Every night I come back and see that he only took like 60% off the table. And he says "the table is clean". Um, not it's not. There is still one glass, napkins, a candy wrapper and placemats on it. The table is clean when there is NOTHING on it. Every. freaking. night - same conversation. Oh and he won't put dirty dishes into the dishwasher. He will put them in the sink for me to load the dishwasher. Because "I don't know how to load it as well as you do". After fifteen years I still can't get this (very smart) man to do it. I would gladly switch and clean up (rather than have to re-clean) but he is always the last one to finish his glass of beer when everyone else is done and ready for a bath.

shakinros

VitaLuna said:

Ohh, I like! Mine: I can't stand that H doesn't do ANYTHING around the house after I go to bed with LO. He has 2.5 hrs that he is up by himself every night and he never bothers to help pick up the kitchen, fold laundry, etc. His job is to wash 1 bottle and 2 pump parts, and half the time he "forgets" that, too. I swear I could beat him with a stick sometimes!

OMG! Are we married to the same guy?! I am going to murder my H next time he points out that we get the same amt of sleep so I shouldn't complain. Dude. If I spent the 2.5hrs that I am awake while you sleep in the morning reading magazines and watching TV, you might have a case. But since I spend it getting dd and I ready, packing lunches, feeding breakfasts, and doing daycare dropoff, it is not at all the same. Spend your awake time doing SOME work around the house! Gah!