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Hello, still birth and rainbow babies mentioned... And question

SaraL1175SaraL1175 member
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Hi everyone. I'm new to TB. I had 2 healthy boys (spring babies), then lost my baby girl full term in F2010 because of cord issues and IUGR. I have since had two healthy boys (summer babies). I'm now expecting another girl in F15. Everything is normal and healthy so far.

I have been through the head game of carrying rainbow babies to term, but for some reason I'm having a hard time wrapping my brain around the thought that *i* could deliver a living and healthy girl. Any one else ever been through this kind of gender issue? Any advice for how to open myself to emotionally connecting with my baby girl?
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Re: Hello, still birth and rainbow babies mentioned... And question

  • 22roses22roses member
    I have no advice but your in my T&P.
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  • SaraL1175SaraL1175 member
    22roses said:

    I have no advice but your in my T&P.

    Thank you.
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    snowbigdeal said:

    I can totally imagine how you feel. I had a stillborn son in April, and just found out at my A/S that I'm going to be having a girl next April. I was at first super sad because part of my wanted to have a boy because it would help me see what the son I lost would have been like. But then I had this sudden huge wave of relief, and I realized then that a lot of it was because I don't think I can disassociate having a boy with the son I lost--so if I get pregnant again, and find out it is a boy, I guarantee I will be extra frightened about losing him.

    Just try to remember that the baby you are carrying now is a whole different person from the daughter you lost. Unfortunately, she is gone and no one will ever replace her, and that is so so sad, but it also means that the baby you are carrying now has a whole different future in front of her.

    Good luck, mama!

    I'm so sorry for your loss, and appreciative of your insight. It's such a struggle, esp. To be expecting her in the same month that my other daughter was due, when none of my other babies have been winter babies at all.

    The mental aspects of this pregnancy are so challenging.



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  • Danielle0311Danielle0311 member
    I am so sorry for your loss. It's so hard to stay positive after dealing with such tragedy but just take small comforts in every good doctors appointment and do the best you can. PGAL is so hard ((hugs)) you are in my thoughts

    Me (30) DH (31) Married 5/13, TTC since 2/13
    BFP #1 Blighted Ovum resulting in D&C on 11/1/13
    BFP #2 Ectopic Pg, lap surgery on 3/12/14, R tube removed

    BFP # 3, EDD 2/21/15 * please be our rainbow*
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  • SaraL1175SaraL1175 member
    Danielle0311 said:

    I am so sorry for your loss. It's so hard to stay positive after dealing with such tragedy but just take small comforts in every good doctors appointment and do the best you can. PGAL is so hard ((hugs)) you are in my thoughts

    Thank you.
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  • shandorfml2shandorfml2 member
    I also lost my daughter full term. Don't know what I am having yet, but I have heard from other mamas that they feel they can't deliver a living baby of whatever gender their loss was. I haven't felt that way, at least now but I could understand how it would be scary. 

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  • beckynsean11beckynsean11 member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I know that if we find out that this is another girl, I'll be more stressed. Hugs to you!

       Me: IR-PCOS, elevated DHEAs, low progesterone, weak ovulation  DH: low volume, low T
    SHG 5/10/13: both tubes blocked; HSG 6/28 = Left tube cleared! Right blocked.
    BFP#1 7/20/13 EDD 3/30/14, m/c 8/19/13, D&E 8/21/13, Chromosomal results = normal, female
    Lap & hysteroscopy scheduled for 10/31, right tube cleared, no endo found! ...Happy Halloween!
    Cycle 14: Clomid (50)+ IUI = BFP! EDD 9/16/14~ Rowan Elizabeth born sleeping at 17w4d on 4/12/14 due to IC.
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    New RE June 2014. RPL b/w - negative. SIS looking for uterine/cervical abnormalities & Asherman's 6/10/14 - ALL CLEAR!  
    Cycle 16: Natural IUI = CP, Cycle 17: Femara (2.5) + IUI = BFN, Cycle 18 Femara (5) + IUI = BFFN, Cycle 19: Break
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  • mrsjg2013mrsjg2013 member
    I'm very sorry for your loss.  I don't have any advice, but I just wanted to offer sincere ((HUGS)) and wish you the very best.
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