When Would Be a Good Time to Go Public

headhurt

So, I just hit the 12 week mark today. Went in and had the NT scan (all is normal thus far). They took the blood for the DNA testing (genetic junk, can't remember the official name). Our immediate family knows, not to mention almost all my coworkers (I work in a Cancer Clinic giving chemo, so it was kinda important for them to know why they were shuffling my patients).

We want to go public with the news, but are afraid it's too soon. Is it?? Or should we wait??

mandyreads

with this one...we told at 7weeks. but we've always told somewhat early. and we suffered a mc our first pregnancy.  but this time at 10 weeks you could obviously tell from my growing bump. there was no hiding it.  it is something you are going to have to decide for yourself. 

ThreeXsaCharm

I would say when you and your DH feel comfortable. 

I am very early and have told our immediate family and my two besties because they know of the IVF road wee have been on and  following our progress...  The rest can wait until I feel like I am out of the woods which is not for another several weeks.

Follow your heart and your instincts..

ewenner

I agree that it's a very personal decision.  DH and I haven't told anyone yet (I'm 11 weeks).  We plan to tell our families around Thanksgiving - by then we should have results of MaterniT21 and genetic screening back, which will make me feel more comfortable with the health and progress of the baby.  I'm still not sure when I will be telling work. Whatever you decide, just be sure that both you and YH are comfortable.

edited because I cannot spell.

BeckyP005

Since many knew we did ivf and knew the transfer day because of my big mouth they knew right away. My family, his immediate family, my boss and close friends. Guess that's a lot!

I announced on fb at 14 wks. I couldn't wait any longer Everyone is different when it comes to letting others know.

harmonicbabe26

There is no right or wrong time. You have to be comfortable and keep in mind there is never a 100% safe time, regardless of mom age and situation. Things could happen or not happen at any time. So as long as you're at peace with people at large knowing, that's the time to tell. Or if you're waiting for test results, then wait some more...

Jenniferk08

First time I told at 7/8 weeks. This time we will be about 10 weeks (waiting for Christmas).
I tell before 2nd trimester because the people I tell are those I would also go to for support if something happened.

Tsuga76

Yep, whatever works for you.  12 weeks is pretty typical.  We told immediate family and closest friends right away, started expanding the circle at 12 weeks, and then were really open after we got the MaterniT21 test results.  That's also when I told my boss.  Did the FB post around 20 weeks, about a week after the a/s.

niknak1208

I always say I'm not going to spread the news but I always end up telling way too many people anyways. I think all of our immediate family and friends new at like 6 weeks.. even a few people at work.. then someone at work told a bunch of other people so the only thing I haven't done is announced on FB. lol  I haven't told extended family and I haven't told all of our friends.  I usually wait until my anatomy scan at 18/19 weeks and then I just post the u/s picture on FB and then everyone knows.