Natural Miscarriage or D&C

lswimbish

I will/would be 9 weeks tmrw but am experiencing a blighted ovum. Dr said it could take up to 4 weeks for my body to realize I'm not truly pregnant. I am starting to lean towards surgery bc I hate the fact that I'm prolonging this. I really want this whole thing to be over so I can move forward and not wait and anticipate. I know it's a personal decision but advice? It's right at the holidays too so dealing with this now is awful. Surgery or continue to wait.it.out...

krnten

Another vote for a d&c. I write this as I'm lying on the couch a few hours after mine. Maybe you have a higher tolerance for passing blood and tissue than I do, but I just couldn't stomach doing it at home. Plus I wanted the baby out ASAP. I was 9 weeks when the baby passed, just a few days ago.

The d&c was painless, now I have mild cramps and light bleeding. I feel so fortunate I got to do this in a controlled medical environment and recover peacefully at home.

lswimbish

Gosh I'm so sorry for your loss. I know this is just horrible and I hope we both can move forward quickly. Sending hugs and prayers your way.

eswany1

I just had my 3rd d & c today. It is definitely a relief I feel like I can breathe now and some weight is lifted off my shoulders now its just time to grieve and take care of myself and my family. I strongly suggest d & c. Sorry to hear of your loss make sure you take time to heal and grieve.

flyoffeve

I am so sorry for your loss. (Hugs) It is a personal decision. My last natural mc lasted 28 days of bleeding, so if I could go back I would request a d/c. Again, only you and your dr can make the decision.

zimni

So sorry you are having to go through this. I have myself just taken this decision today (blighted ovum at 8 weeks) and going for the natural route. We discussed this with our doctor and the only way I would have opted for d&c would be in case we go ahead for the genetic karyotyping, which we do not wish to do.

I know, there all the blood and pain but am going ahead with the natural induction by medicine - it allows me to grieve and find closure (had a miscarriage earlier in March too).

Please discuss with your doctor and go ahead with the procedure that feels right for you. Thoughts and prayers for you. Take care.

leahabattle

So sorry for your loss. I partially miscarried before my D&C and I can say it was terrible, so I'm for the surgery route.

Jessalicious01

I have done the cytotec to "help" the mc along and it was aweful. None of the choices are really anything we want to go through, but between the options I chose to go for the D&C this last time. I had originally told my OB that I wanted to just go the natural route and wait. But then I found myself doing exactly that, just waiting, not being able to move on. I ended up calling her and scheduling the D&C after a few days. I don't regret that decision. 

LittleMrsW

I'm so sorry for your loss and that your have to make this tough decision.

I chose to have a D&C because I couldn't stand waiting around for it to happen. 

Keeping you in my T&Ps.

bmich81

I am so sorry for your loss! I found out at 8w6d that my baby stopped growing at 5w. That was almost two weeks ago and I decided that I wanted a second opinion before I got a D&C. I felt I owed it to the baby. I got a sonogram the next day and the doctor confirmed the loss and told me that a D&C was the best option. I ended up waiting almost a week to get it mainly because I didn't want to get a D&C cause it's like $800 out of pocket for us and I didn't want to add to my husband's plate. (We are in the process of moving out of state for a new job when all this went down. My husband wanted me to try to wait it out,but I started miscarrying naturally on Wednesday. By Thursday morning, I was in so much pain that my obgyn ended up prescribing me pills to speed up the miscarrage. I went back to the doctor Friday am in more pain than I was on Thursday even while I was taking pain killers. Just standing up for a few minutes was painful. Obviously the pills didn't work, plus my doctor(who is new to the practice) seemed very flustered cause I still had tissue that wasn't coming out and I was bleeding badly and in so much pain. My husband had to say that enough was enough cause I was in so much pain. Long story short, I ended up getting a D&C later that morning at the hospital adjacent to my doctor's office and I physically feel great. I didn't even feel a thing! I would get the D&C if I were you because it's over and done with. Plus, you don't want to get an infection which could lead to greater health problems if one wants to conceive again. I wish you the best whatever decision you make.

ChanelA

I too was diagnosed with a blighted ovum! I opted for a D&C and im glad i did, i want it to be over and that was the fastest way. I also didn't want to be caught of guard with a natural miscarriage, the D&C was quick and the recovery wasn't bad. I took off from school and spent a few days at home to take it all in.

brunettemomma1

I found out at my Nuchal Scan that my baby died around 10 weeks. My body didn't seem to know that the baby died. I had no bleeding or cramping. I didn't want to wait … I also felt a horrible sadness carrying around a baby that was no longer living. 

I had my D&C on Wednesday (11/12) and am happy I can get through this quicker. Although I am obviously still grieving, I am hoping we can start trying again in a couple months (sooner than waiting it out). I am still sore from surgery, but hoping to get better with each day.

I am sorry for your loss and wish you the best. 

((hugs))