Post Pardom after preemie

CynthiaVRey

Hi I came across this board I've been looking for a support group for possible post Pardom , my daughter was born two months pre mature due to ruptured membranes, it was very traumatic she came home 5 weeks ago. I can't get used to her at all , I feel so irritable when she cries I cry a lot , I miss my old life and my husband and I planned her so I don't know why I feel this way. I'm always tired and sad I look around my house and feel trapped

I was prescribed lexapro and it made me worse so much worse so I've weened off .

My daughter has reflux and is very fussy being preemie her needs are more intense and I just want to know does it get easier ? Do babies get easier as they grow? I'm not sure what I'm even asking here maybe I just need reassurance that things will get better .

deanna1313

Hang in there! It does get easier.
My son is now 5 mths and I'm still struggling with PPD, but I am sooooo much better. I do have some bad days though.

You sound like me exactly when you said you feel trapped in your house and miss your old life and husband. I was always telling my husband how much I missed him and he was with me everyday.
I can't give advice on the meds because I'm not on any. Didn't react well to Zoloft. Please get out if the house as much as possible. It always helped me. Exercise also helps with your mood and so does the sun. Not sure how sunny it is where you live, but I'm in NJ and I won't have that for long.Get help from whoever you can, too.
My anxiety and the worst of the depression is gone, but I am still not my old happy self and still think too often about my old life, but I really function so much better.

CynthiaVRey

Thank u so much for the encouragement and hope. It's good to know I'm understood and not alone thank u so much

deanna1313

You're welcome! Feel free to contact me anytime with questions or if you need to talk to someone.

CynthiaVRey

Thank u I will. I have lab work I need to get done tomorrow the doctor said I might be low on my vitamin B and he says that has a lot to do with how I feel

deanna1313

Yes! Not only do I still take my prenatal vitamins, but I am also on b vitamins and magnesium. I hemmoraged during delivery so I ended up anemic on top of all this other stuff. Ugh!
Good luck at the dr

KutiePebbles

hi ladies i hope you don't mind a 3rd wheel joining the party. Cynthia- I have an ex 29 wker now almost 9 months actual.  my delivery was sudden and traumatic so i suffered from PTSD and PPA. now, i feel I get slight (if there is a sliding scale) PPD but it comes in waves. I am now a SAHM and tend to be at home 24-7.  when i have too many consecutive days of being home, the PPD kicks in more.  case and point, it's thursday 1/29 and I have not left the house since tuesday 1/20.  granted we almost had a blizzard, it's cold and i am sheltering my preemie from cold and flu season but my trapped, anxious, depressing side comes out when i do not get out enough. i just started to join mommy groups so hopefully that will assist. i also am very open with my husband and best friend about my emotions. venting helps me. 

Deanna- i am also in NJ, which part are you in?

Charmedseed

Hang in there! My LO is still in the NICU and while I feel okay dealing with him (so far, ha) I think a month later I'm only just now coming to terms with the trauma of his birth. He was 7 weeks early due to my superimposed preeclampsia, and I spent two days in ante-partum on magnesium before the c-section. Afterwards, I developed a massive hematoma that caused my incision to open, resulting in several ER visits and one re-admission to the hospital. I find I'm obsessing about the negative experiences I had (though my care in the hospital was excellent) and I still have panic attacks. I don't know if that really qualifies as PPD, since I feel like it's more about ME and my health (baby's NICU caregivers are amazing and I trust them implicitly)... so I don't quite understand what's going on. It almost seems like post traumatic stress.

I've been dealing with anxiety for most of the last ten years and am back on Cymbalta, but I'm so sad and frustrated most of the time that I'm seeking a therapist for additional help.  My OB was able to recommend several great folks, so I have high hopes there.

Hope things are improving for all of you!