TTC again..

xoalicia

Hi ladies I posted in another forum here but I wanted to be apart here as well as I have had 2 losses and we are finally going to try again since the loss of my son to a ntd at 22 weeks back in 2012. I have been on 5mg of folic acid since September 1st and just got my mirena out last Friday . Nervous
But excited so I'm glad I have you ladies for support

Alicia

welly01

I'm sorry for your loss.  Welcome.

AngieL610

so sorry for your loss, but welcome!

MellyMel15

I'm sorry for your loss. Wishing you all the best. 

renegadewhit

I'm sorry for your losses. Welcome to this board.

xoalicia

Thanks girls trying to not put a lot of
Pressure into ttc but at the same time , excited (my boyfriend had my holding up my knees this morning after the deed) lol. I have been bleeding alot last 2 days someone said it's probably withdrawal bleed from mirena however my period was due 2 days ago as well .

PinkCamino

Welcome. I know I welcomed you to TTGP earlier this week but wanted to extend my sympathies again. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know I mentioned it on TTGP but please don't use the term baby dust - I know you said you wouldn't but that term is so offensive that it needs repeating.

PinkCamino

xoalicia said:

Thanks girls trying to not put a lot of Pressure into ttc but at the same time , excited (my boyfriend had my holding up my knees this morning after the deed) lol. I have been bleeding alot last 2 days someone said it's probably withdrawal bleed from mirena however my period was due 2 days ago as well .

You should start charting.

off2thefunnyfarm

PinkCamino said:

Welcome. I know I welcomed you to TTGP earlier this week but wanted to extend my sympathies again. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know I mentioned it on TTGP but please don't use the term baby dust - I know you said you wouldn't but that term is so offensive that it needs repeating.

isn't it worse to mention it if someone hasn't already mentioned it???

rubysi

Welcome. I'm sorry for your losses.

flyoffeve

off2thefunnyfarm said:

PinkCamino said:

Welcome. I know I welcomed you to TTGP earlier this week but wanted to extend my sympathies again. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know I mentioned it on TTGP but please don't use the term baby dust - I know you said you wouldn't but that term is so offensive that it needs repeating.

isn't it worse to mention it if someone hasn't already mentioned it???

AE? Hiding in a new user?

 

off2thefunnyfarm

flyoffeve said:

off2thefunnyfarm said:

PinkCamino said:

Welcome. I know I welcomed you to TTGP earlier this week but wanted to extend my sympathies again. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know I mentioned it on TTGP but please don't use the term baby dust - I know you said you wouldn't but that term is so offensive that it needs repeating.

isn't it worse to mention it if someone hasn't already mentioned it???

AE? Hiding in a new user?

 

The words are hurtful, they hurt me personally and I don't see the point of saying them and bringing them to everyones mind.  That's all. 

FutureMrsWright2012

Sorry for your losses. As the PP's have already said, charting and reading the tutorials on Fertility Friend are a great place to start when you're ready. Best of luck to you!

PinkCamino

off2thefunnyfarm said:

PinkCamino said:

Welcome. I know I welcomed you to TTGP earlier this week but wanted to extend my sympathies again. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know I mentioned it on TTGP but please don't use the term baby dust - I know you said you wouldn't but that term is so offensive that it needs repeating.

isn't it worse to mention it if someone hasn't already mentioned it???

and you are who exactly?

xoalicia

I thought about waiting as well but my obgyn and the doctor who removed
My mirena both insisted I didn't need to wait . I made sure to ask cause I was worried ..

As for charting and temping I am definitely going to become familiar with that because I have never done it before .

Thanks ladies for the suggestions!

PinkCamino

xoalicia said:

I thought about waiting as well but my obgyn and the doctor who removed My mirena both insisted I didn't need to wait . I made sure to ask cause I was worried .. As for charting and temping I am definitely going to become familiar with that because I have never done it before . Thanks ladies for the suggestions!

Temping is pretty easy. Just sign up for a free account on fertility friend. Do you have a BBt? If not, you should pick one up at your local drug store. It's important that it reads to the hundreth, so something like 97.85 <--- 2 numbers.

From there, just take your temp. Set your alarm from the same time every day and just input your temps. Eventually you'll be able to anticipate O instead of BDing without really knowing what's going on.
 

off2thefunnyfarm

jj32 said:

off2thefunnyfarm said:

PinkCamino said:

Welcome. I know I welcomed you to TTGP earlier this week but wanted to extend my sympathies again. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know I mentioned it on TTGP but please don't use the term baby dust - I know you said you wouldn't but that term is so offensive that it needs repeating.

isn't it worse to mention it if someone hasn't already mentioned it???

@off2thefunnyfarm Pink mentioned it again because the OP had used the term on another board, so Pink was trying to protect our community from it accidentally being said again here. 

I also see in your history that you have never posted here, you did mention that you read the blog. It would be nice if you introduced yourself here so we can get to know you. I see that you are posting on 3T as well without an into. It is polite if you are going to engage in conversation to at least let people know who they are talking to.

I intro'd in the newbies thread, which seemed like the appropriate place.  

I'll stand by my assertion that there is no reason to say it, even to tell someone else not to say it.  I am sorry that it was among my first posts, sure the timing is stupid, but I was reading and it basically came out of nowhere.  

Nikolie93

I am sorry for your losses but welcome!

PinkCamino

off2thefunnyfarm said:

jj32 said:

off2thefunnyfarm said:

PinkCamino said:

Welcome. I know I welcomed you to TTGP earlier this week but wanted to extend my sympathies again. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know I mentioned it on TTGP but please don't use the term baby dust - I know you said you wouldn't but that term is so offensive that it needs repeating.

isn't it worse to mention it if someone hasn't already mentioned it???

@off2thefunnyfarm Pink mentioned it again because the OP had used the term on another board, so Pink was trying to protect our community from it accidentally being said again here. 

I also see in your history that you have never posted here, you did mention that you read the blog. It would be nice if you introduced yourself here so we can get to know you. I see that you are posting on 3T as well without an into. It is polite if you are going to engage in conversation to at least let people know who they are talking to.

I intro'd in the newbies thread, which seemed like the appropriate place.  

I'll stand by my assertion that there is no reason to say it, even to tell someone else not to say it.  I am sorry that it was among my first posts, sure the timing is stupid, but I was reading and it basically came out of nowhere.  

Okay you need to calm your tits.

Then, you need to have a good hard look at my siggy to understand why I'm so fucking protective of this board and that term specifically. I've had to cremate my daughters, I have their urns in my house and when women wish other ladies "baby dust" it makes me ragey inside. OP used the term on another board here on TB where I post. That board is not specifically a loss board but TTCAL is my home and I'll be damned if someone comes here and uses the term even if it's by accident. It was a reminder. End of fucking story.

Also, if you plan on sticking around here you may want to intro on the main board. Just because you feel like that Newbie Check in is the right place for the intro doesn't mean it is.

off2thefunnyfarm

PinkCamino said:

off2thefunnyfarm said:

jj32 said:

off2thefunnyfarm said:

PinkCamino said:

Welcome. I know I welcomed you to TTGP earlier this week but wanted to extend my sympathies again. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know I mentioned it on TTGP but please don't use the term baby dust - I know you said you wouldn't but that term is so offensive that it needs repeating.

isn't it worse to mention it if someone hasn't already mentioned it???

@off2thefunnyfarm Pink mentioned it again because the OP had used the term on another board, so Pink was trying to protect our community from it accidentally being said again here. 

I also see in your history that you have never posted here, you did mention that you read the blog. It would be nice if you introduced yourself here so we can get to know you. I see that you are posting on 3T as well without an into. It is polite if you are going to engage in conversation to at least let people know who they are talking to.

I intro'd in the newbies thread, which seemed like the appropriate place.  

I'll stand by my assertion that there is no reason to say it, even to tell someone else not to say it.  I am sorry that it was among my first posts, sure the timing is stupid, but I was reading and it basically came out of nowhere.  

Okay you need to calm your tits.

Then, you need to have a good hard look at my siggy to understand why I'm so fucking protective of this board and that term specifically. I've had to cremate my daughters, I have their urns in my house and when women wish other ladies "baby dust" it makes me ragey inside. OP used the term on another board here on TB where I post. That board is not specifically a loss board but TTCAL is my home and I'll be damned if someone comes here and uses the term even if it's by accident. It was a reminder. End of fucking story.

Also, if you plan on sticking around here you may want to intro on the main board. Just because you feel like that Newbie Check in is the right place for the intro doesn't mean it is.

Wow.  I don't really know where the hostility is coming from. 

PinkCamino

off2thefunnyfarm said:

PinkCamino said:

off2thefunnyfarm said:

jj32 said:

off2thefunnyfarm said:

PinkCamino said:

Welcome. I know I welcomed you to TTGP earlier this week but wanted to extend my sympathies again. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know I mentioned it on TTGP but please don't use the term baby dust - I know you said you wouldn't but that term is so offensive that it needs repeating.

isn't it worse to mention it if someone hasn't already mentioned it???

@off2thefunnyfarm Pink mentioned it again because the OP had used the term on another board, so Pink was trying to protect our community from it accidentally being said again here. 

I also see in your history that you have never posted here, you did mention that you read the blog. It would be nice if you introduced yourself here so we can get to know you. I see that you are posting on 3T as well without an into. It is polite if you are going to engage in conversation to at least let people know who they are talking to.

I intro'd in the newbies thread, which seemed like the appropriate place.  

I'll stand by my assertion that there is no reason to say it, even to tell someone else not to say it.  I am sorry that it was among my first posts, sure the timing is stupid, but I was reading and it basically came out of nowhere.  

Okay you need to calm your tits.

Then, you need to have a good hard look at my siggy to understand why I'm so fucking protective of this board and that term specifically. I've had to cremate my daughters, I have their urns in my house and when women wish other ladies "baby dust" it makes me ragey inside. OP used the term on another board here on TB where I post. That board is not specifically a loss board but TTCAL is my home and I'll be damned if someone comes here and uses the term even if it's by accident. It was a reminder. End of fucking story.

Also, if you plan on sticking around here you may want to intro on the main board. Just because you feel like that Newbie Check in is the right place for the intro doesn't mean it is.

Wow.  I don't really know where the hostility is coming from. 

I think you need to lurk more, read the blog and get a feel for this community before you come in here to judge.

eliida

@xoalicia I am so sorry for your losses. Welcome, I hope that you find comfort here.

off2thefunnyfarm

PinkCamino said:

off2thefunnyfarm said:

PinkCamino said:

off2thefunnyfarm said:

jj32 said:

off2thefunnyfarm said:

PinkCamino said:

Welcome. I know I welcomed you to TTGP earlier this week but wanted to extend my sympathies again. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know I mentioned it on TTGP but please don't use the term baby dust - I know you said you wouldn't but that term is so offensive that it needs repeating.

isn't it worse to mention it if someone hasn't already mentioned it???

@off2thefunnyfarm Pink mentioned it again because the OP had used the term on another board, so Pink was trying to protect our community from it accidentally being said again here. 

I also see in your history that you have never posted here, you did mention that you read the blog. It would be nice if you introduced yourself here so we can get to know you. I see that you are posting on 3T as well without an into. It is polite if you are going to engage in conversation to at least let people know who they are talking to.

I intro'd in the newbies thread, which seemed like the appropriate place.  

I'll stand by my assertion that there is no reason to say it, even to tell someone else not to say it.  I am sorry that it was among my first posts, sure the timing is stupid, but I was reading and it basically came out of nowhere.  

Okay you need to calm your tits.

Then, you need to have a good hard look at my siggy to understand why I'm so fucking protective of this board and that term specifically. I've had to cremate my daughters, I have their urns in my house and when women wish other ladies "baby dust" it makes me ragey inside. OP used the term on another board here on TB where I post. That board is not specifically a loss board but TTCAL is my home and I'll be damned if someone comes here and uses the term even if it's by accident. It was a reminder. End of fucking story.

Also, if you plan on sticking around here you may want to intro on the main board. Just because you feel like that Newbie Check in is the right place for the intro doesn't mean it is.

Wow.  I don't really know where the hostility is coming from. 

I think you need to lurk more, read the blog and get a feel for this community before you come in here to judge.

I'm not going to continue this conversation past this, but I am absolutely not judging.  I came here to learn from people who had been there and hopefully to be able to help people down the road.  I can't say I want to stick around and be subject to this queen bee mentality.  I think even as a newbie, I have the right to say that preemptively shaming someone is kinda (crappy).  

I don't read the other board, and wouldn't have heard it if you hadn't said it. It's as simple as taht.

While I agree with your sentiment, I simply was asking if it isn't worse to say it out of the blue for no reason.

I'll move along now, this has taken over the OP's thread.

EIsieMae

@xoalicia‌ I'm so for your losses.

And I agree with other posters about temping. When I had my Mirena removed, I had a lot of off and on spotting, and I didn't actually ovulate until CD42 (I usually ovulate on CD15). Had I not been temping, I would have been all sorts of confused.

Welcome to the board.

ashlee113085

I'm so sorry for your losses. I also had a loss at 19 weeks due to complications from a ntd. TTC again after that is slightly terrifying and has been an emotional roller coaster. I hope you find lots of support on this board. 

buggirl72

PetraStonegirl said:

There is a hell of a difference between wishing baby dust on the ladies here, and warning someone with a track record for saying shit like that from saying it here. Besides, if you want to sling names, I'm queen bee around here. **points to top of board** So, @off2thefunnyfarm‌ your argument is invalid.

Invalid and she does not seem to realize that her post history is in chronological order - which means she decided to "scold" an established member of this community as her very first post, argue about it, not acknowledge the OP's loss or offer an ounce of support to anyone, and then finally intro on the newbie thread. @off2thefunnyfarm, apologies are golden - this is a great community and you may want to lurk a bit and then start over.

@xoalicia, I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your son. Many (((hugs))) and welcome to our board.

rslh10

I am so sorry for your loss of your dear son. Welcome to the board. 

schuebja

@xoalicia‌ I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. Welcome to the board.

alm288

I'm so sorry for your losses. I think temping is a good place to start. It was very insightful for me. Welcome

kyliehopeful

I'm sorry for your loss ( hugs)

xoalicia

Thanks girls still bleeding tonight quite a bit.. Gonna go out and get a thermometer to start temping and read about it. I chart my periods and ovulation a bit with "pink pad" app but
I think I'm going to pay more close attention

ChanelA

Sorry for your loss and welcome to the board! I hope you find the same comfort and support I have. Just my two sense I would wait a few cycles after mirena removal. I removed my mirena in July and got my bfp the last day of august after waiting the recommended one cycle. Sadly I loss that pregnancy and although my Ob won't entertain the idea that mirena had anything to do with it.. It seems like a frequent "coincidence". Best of luck on your TTC, I just started charting as well.

xoalicia

^ ^ I seen a few girls on here that sadly said that.. Which makes me wanting to wait a cycle or two now for my lining to build back up.. I wouldn't want to be excited about a positive test and then be let down again..

Elliecat17

Welcome and I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. This is a wonderful place full of really supportive people. If you feel nervous then wait. It's better then having what-ifs.