Paternity Leave

flyster

The Maternity leave made me think of the guys (Or partners).  Does your SO get leave? Will he/she take it?  I don't think DH gets more then a few days leave, and he is likely only going to take a week.  I'm trying to push him to take more, but its not looking likely.  At my job the non-birthing parent gets 10 days paid (which is the same as our official Maternity leave.  The bulk of our paid leave is disability)  and can combine with vacation, and unpaid leave.  Adoptive parents get those benefits as well.  

My brother in law actually took 3 months unpaid from his job after my sister went back to work. I tried suggesting that to DH and he looked at me like I had two heads.  

CdnFarmGirl08

DH is self employed so won't get anything. He'll take a few days but probably not more than that. He will just work some shorter days I think and take DS with him as he can.

WanderingA

I also have a self-employed husband. With DD he took about 5 days off and then came home early whenever possible. We are likely looking at the same thing this time. He flips houses so if they have another property in February he should be able to take a few days off and then work shorter days to help me.

junebugjam

I think my H will take 2 weeks, but it'll just come from vacation time. I don't believe his company offers much.

maltwin1

DH is military and I don't know about the other branches, but it is Marine Corps policy for new daddies to get 10 days (weekends included) of paternity leave and he definitely plans on taking it.

It was really nice last time for him to have that time to adjust before heading back to work.

krispy83

DH took 2 weeks of leave when DS was born plus the occasional day during rough stretches for the rest of the school year.  He'll do the same thing this time.  It comes out of his bank of sick time, but he has a TON accrued so it's not a big deal and it's the only way for him to take more than a week and be paid for it.

twinklymama

Mine is taking the three weeks after she is born. He is using PTO for it.

umbcpt

DH will likely take a week when LO arrives, and has a ton of sick leave. Our plan is to have me off the 60 duty days allowable by FMLA, and then he will take about a month off to get us to the end of the school year. I am trying not to start with daycare until the fall, even though I have a summer work commitment. I am going to hire a college student to work the weeks I am scheduled to work over the summer and start daycare at the start of next school year.

t8keepr03

My DH teaches in the same district as me so he is giving all of his paid time off to me to use. He is going to save 5 days for himself for when the baby comes. He is really hoping the baby decides to make an appearance at the end of the week so his days won't be used in the hospital. I'm sure baby will come on a Monday though.

lizjennings81

My husband plans to take the 16 weeks he's eligible for under DC's FMLA. His work will pay him for four of those weeks and he'll use vacation time for some of the other weeks.

He'll probably dice the time throughout the year (six weeks when she's born, and he'll use some to bridge any gap in daycare), but says he wants every moment he can get with her.

Irishcurls

Yup, all AD get 10 consecutive days paternity leave. DH is in an office that's can be slow so he thinks he'll also take a week or so of regular leave at the end of March. He'll have to take house hunting leave around then too so who knows how it will work out in practice. 

Angeldcf

DH has FMLA but almost 4 wks of vacation saved up.  He's salaried so it's a wash.  Last time, he took 2 weeks off then went in a few days each week.  We're lucky he has the ability to work from home at times (sales manager) and have client meetings around his schedule.

dacora

My husband gets two weeks paid from his job, and then he's planning on taking two weeks of vacation after that.

PeaceofKia

DH will get to take one week.. He'll use his sick days because we're both new employees in our county and don't qualify for fmla... Blah.

mle106

DH will probably use a week or two of sick leave, or will work a modified schedule if possible. If I go back to work for the last month of school, he's going to try to take leave so we don't have to arrange for childcare.

MapleMomma

Ha! Another self employed hubby here. We will likely be starting maple syrup season shortly after or before so we will be busy here! Full swing into farming and construction season after that. Luckily though, all family business that will pitch in to let him flex his time.

Smyers2girls

My DH could have the same 12 weeks unpaid off through FMLA. But we couldn't go without the pay. So he'll be taking a week of vacation when the baby is born.

erobbins09

He is taking the hospital stay plus a couple of days then the rest after my mom leaves to spread out the help!

Ace226

Luckily, DH's weird schedule works out well for this. He works 12 hour shifts, with one week on/one week off. Hopefully that remains the case through when the little one arrives! If he takes a week off it means he has three off, so it'd be nice to have him for a while without a drop in income!

DBride2006

DH is self-employed. With DS#1, I asked him to plan to stay home with me for a week, but by day 4ish, I sent him back to work for at least a half day, we were good! With both our boys, he stayed in the hospital with me, then worked shorter days once we got home and were adjusting. 

His time off is unpaid, but it's nice he has the flexibility to go in late or give me a little break if I need it during those early days!

tee18

He will take 3 weeks at least - hopefully 4. One week company paid, then all the vacation he has (hopefully at least 1.5 weeks worth). Then std for. The remainder.

mishka29

DH will take two weeks vacation. He does have acess to parental leave with a % of pay through the government but he won't use it. This would subtract from my time off, he's too busy at work, and doesn't want the small pay cut for that time.

mom2xover2002

Hubs will take the hospital time off but probably nothing after that. My mom will probably be here for a week, & hubs mom lives in town and may come over after work. But we will see since she has hubs 26yr old sister who has autism to take care of also.

mom2xover2002

Hubs will take the hospital time off but probably nothing after that. My mom will probably be here for a week, & hubs mom lives in town and may come over after work. But we will see since she has hubs 26yr old sister who has autism to take care of also.

twinklymama

ChickenOnSunday said:

Just asked DH his intentions and he said he hadn't thought about it. He said depending on how things go he might stay home for a week or two. I also said that I might need him home early to help with the "5pm inconsolable crying for no reason period" if this little one is at all like her big sister. That stretch of time was the worse. 

5pm was like that every night in our house, too. We called it the "witching hour".

Neesey

You guys have me rethinking DH taking 4 weeks off and then going back parttime for two after that. He has 400 hours of sick time plus a ton of vacation saved up. I guess we will just play it by ear.

Dannylion24

DH usually takes a week of personal/sick leave (which will include any time I'm in the hospital) after each babe. Anything more cuts into vacation. I'm hoping he'll be able to try to work from home a little more after he goes back, but it's not really something to count on. DH also works out of state so he's gone from 630/7am till around 8/830 pm when he's not traveling :-p inlaws and parents are out of state, too. This spring is gonna be fun! :-p

At least now both my older two take the bus (even tho kindergarten is only 2.5 hours long) so I won't be driving to and from preschool each day with a newborn like I was doing last fall. Oh and the mom whose daughter I watch before and after school made other arrangements for February so I'll have a little break there, too.

Angeldcf

twinklymama said: 

5pm was like that every night in our house, too. We called it the "witching hour".

Crap- I forgot about that.  He would scream-cry for about an hour and nothing would soothe him. 

twinklymama

Angeldcf said:

twinklymama said: 

5pm was like that every night in our house, too. We called it the "witching hour".

Crap- I forgot about that.  He would scream-cry for about an hour and nothing would soothe him. 


Yep. The witching hour. Not my favorite hour!!

jaytee16

I'm self employed and get a whole lot if nothing, plus my job situation blows and I'll have no job to come back to. H will luckily be in a slow point at work (between contracts) so he's hoping to take 6-8 weeks of paternity leave when we bring the babies home. I am so grateful he'll be able to take that time, having two babies is overwhelming, I'm glad we can figure it out together!

kdhuling

DH doesn't get paid vacation just accumulates paid leave he can use for whatever he chooses. He'll have at least 2 weeks built up by the time baby comes. He will also be quiting in May for our move so I think we are just planning on him using it all at the time of birth instead of spreading it out.

CogDis

For parental leave my DH and I get 52 weeks to split between us any way that works best. For us it makes since for him to take some of the time as he'll get paid the maximum pay rate for parental leave.

There's a new program that we may take advantage of that allows you to make more than the max $40 000 a year that parental leave allows by working part time to make up to your original salary. It's a pilot program from the government and we're hoping that they keep it going past the initial guaranteed year (it is due to end in Sept or something). It is a great program for people who have flex time at their workplace.

freegiraffe

DH doesn't get anything beyond PTO and sick time but he works from home so he'll be around when I need him!

Alygohome

Dh will take a few weeks unpaid. Technically we can split the one year mat leave but he doesn't want to stay home alone with baby and we are trying to extend it as long as possible before paying child care

Mommalawyer

DH is USMC. I believe he gets 10 days of paid paternity leave, but that is it..... I don't get anything paid....

Dani_Love

Dh gets two weeks vacation a year so he'll use a week starting when baby is born and then I'm on my own. It worked pretty well last time when I had a c section and was healed enough to handle being on my own when he went back.

wintersong139

DH has no paid paternity leave (lol, I have no paid maternity leave, either). Both of us will be using PTO for the new baby. I will use up all my PTO, plus get a couple of weeks of short term disability, and then be out unpaid for the rest of the 12 weeks I am taking. DH has been saving up his PTO so that he will have time to take off. He will probably take a full week, and then telework and go in for half days the week after that. (He could qualify for FMLA leave, but it would be unpaid, and his immediate supervisors would look very much in askance at him taking much more time, even though he is entitled to it if he wants. They are all much older and from a generation in which men didn't really go to ob appointments or take much time off after the birth. They already rag him for the number of appointments he goes to with me!) 

maryxc1

DH will probably take a week of vacation. That is what he did with DS. While longer would be really nice, it is really hard for him to get away from work for long.

schnitz9

I'm super jealous. My DH gets better paternity leave than my leave.  He gets a full 12 week 100% paid leave.  He plans to take about 2-3 weeks and then work from home a few days too.  His job allows him to work remotely whenever he wants so he may do that.  He said he doesn't want to do the full 12 weeks as he doesn't like "being out of the loop" at work.  Since my dad works in NYC during the week and my parents live in NC, my mom will be with us during the week for the first month or 2 anyway.  I told my hubby I really didn't want him home the whole time anyway as knowing him he would get in the way more than help out. His company gives full 12 week maternity, paternity, and adoption leave.  They also have an IF program that will pay for treatments as well!!! Super jealous!!!

michelle142

DH is self-employed. It's just himself and his parents. So he gets no official leave.

With DS he was able to take the whole first week off to help, but usually went to work every night after I went to bed for a few hours. I'm guessing this time will be the same.

michelle142

Angeldcf said:

twinklymama said: 

5pm was like that every night in our house, too. We called it the "witching hour".

Crap- I forgot about that.  He would scream-cry for about an hour and nothing would soothe him. 

dang it... these are the things you block out after a certain period of time. Every single night for 3 months.. cryfest from about 5-7pm. Tourture.