Pregnant naturally AFTER trying IVF

theblessingofababy

Hi Ladies, I'm new here. As part of my introduction, I MUST share this miracle with you all. On Oct 23rd I had an appt with my RE to discuss "next steps." The month prior I had an FET that did not take...2 months prior to that I had an FET that did take, yet ended. Anyhow...back to my story. Ironically...my RE brought it to my attention that the day I was there (oct 23) was ALSO the same day when I FIRST came to see him a year prior to begin my relationship with the clinic...WOW. But that's not it!! The synchronicity continues! The next steps I went to see him about was to do an IUI with donor sperm. My DH at the time when he first had his sperm analysis done came out low in all areas...low enough that it was recommended to go straight to IVF, plus ICSI. I ovulate regularly and have regular 28 day cycles...we talked and we decided together that this has been a long taxing (over a year journey)...and the goal is to have a baby so my DH was not thrilled but "ok" with the donor sperm decision. So the RE told me that I could do a natural cycle, told me how to order the sperm...gave me some diagnostic texts blood draw forms , (wanted to do my levels again FSH, AMH and CMV status neg/pos for donor matching) ...and then he asked me when my period was scheduled to come...I told him Wednesday the 29th of Oct (remember I'm very regular and always have 28-day cycles and I use an app on my phone that correlates with my cycle) anyhow...he told me to call when it came and come back for a baseline US and all. Wednesday came...no AF...Thursday came...no AF...Friday morning came...no AF...but ladies...I took a test and I'm pregnant naturally!! 1 year of trying...strategically TTC on ovulation days...and what the docs said COULD NOT happen AFTER one fresh IVF and 2 FET's...multiple hysterscopies etc AND was days away from ordering donor sperm for an IUI that would have taken place 14 days after my period...and we are pregnant naturally!! Took my beta hcg later on the morning of the 31st after racing to their office...I "guesstimate" since on my calendar I ovulated on the 15th that...implantation occurred approx 7 days later?? Which is approx the 22nd...so perhaps from the 31st I was 9-10 days past ovulation. My beta was 232. My RE called and was amazed. I did next beta on Tues. (4 days later) and it was 1856. My DH and I are ecstatic...there are no words really to describe these circumstances and synchronicity of this other than "miraculous." It is my wish that everyone reading this remains focused and see it happening! God has the final say...always believing in his miracles!! Today I'm 5 weeks and 4 days with a July 8th due date...feeling blessed!

kmc84

@TJ1979‌ make it go away!!!!

MoFree

Didn't you first post this on the IFV board and then get really bitchy and defensive when people explained how insensitive you were being?

theblessingofababy

Yes I did. I'm new I had no idea it would not be received well. I'm learning as I go

kmc84

Aaaaaand on PAIF.....


OP: If you really want to be welcomed into PAIF or SAIF, you owe a real apology. Why you thought it was appropriate to post your story on every board that has 'infertility' in the name is beyond me. Most of us have been here a loooooong time. Lots of us are active on SAIF/PAIF/IFV, so what you say gets around fast. There are many here who have cycled together, failed together, and had success together. This is a second 'family' for many and we have 'known' each other for years.

Lurk on the boards and get a feel for things before you jump in going 'squeeeeeeee!!!!!!'. Read some intros done by others and then maybe that will help you understand why you were not welcomed with open arms.

theblessingofababy

Thanxx...I will take your suggestion and "lurk" before expecting "squeeees" (I take it that word means something positive) You said what I said on the boards gets around fast as if I was gossiping or something?? I shared my personal story, wasn't trying to hide what I said...my intent was to share as I clearly said in my original post. I'm not familiar with this board yet and all the acronyms. So to all who are reading this, I apologize for posting my story in the wrong board. Was not my intention in the least to hurt anyone...I was hoping it would inspire hope. I have no ill will whatsoever and NEVER imagined my story would cause this negative reaction.

kmc84

*headesk*

I give up.......

theblessingofababy

kmc84 said:

*headesk*

I give up.......

(Sigh)
Never give up...

MoFree

@theblessingofababy‌ I have about .000001% chance of conceiving naturally, so your story does not inspire me. Sorry to burst your narcissistic bubble.

theblessingofababy

MoFree said:

@theblessingofababy‌ I have about .000001% chance of conceiving naturally, so your story does not inspire me. Sorry to burst your narcissistic bubble.

Best wishes on your journey

CarrieB.

This board is called Success After Infertility. We've all had success. We don't need a long rambley story on how you conceived to give us hope. That is great for you, but posting it on every board especially the IF boards is insensitive.

Do you want to join our community and add things to our posts, support people, etc? Lurk first, learn the acronyms. There's a whole board for new bumpies.

theblessingofababy

CarrieB. said:

This board is called Success After Infertility. We've all had success. We don't need a long rambley story on how you conceived to give us hope. That is great for you, but posting it on every board especially the IF boards is insensitive.

Do you want to join our community and add things to our posts, support people, etc? Lurk first, learn the acronyms. There's a whole board for new bumpies.

Hi
I came to the bump to get support and show support. I appreciate other people and their stories of success so I thought I would add my own story...did not anticipate it causing controversy. Best wishes and thanxxx

TJ1979

Sorry guys.  I saw it yesterday, but was hoping no one would respond and it would fall away.  Big hugs to all of you who were hurt (or flat out annoyed) by this.

theblessingofababy

LeahB12 said:

I also recommend lurking. While your story is great for you, telling people suffering through IF to stay focused and that God has the final say does not go over well.

Also, it's thanks, not thanxxxx

Ok...thanxxx for your suggestion...I will do that based on the recommendations I've been receiving...thanxx and for correcting something I already know...(the words thanks) be blessed and thanxx again.

itsmevkb

I'm a religious person but I honestly am always shocked when people say things like "God has the final say."  The implication is that somehow God is choosing for women to be infertile and not have babies while granting women on drugs or who will be abusive the ability to have babies.  Personally, I choose to believe in a loving God who would never deny so many good women the opportunity to have children.