hi everyone sad to be here (previous births mention )........ how soon after mc do you ovulate again

missr2505 · November 2014

so hi my name is rose and I was 4 weeks 6 days pregnant until this morning ... I woke up and went to the toilet and there was blood everyone's worse nightmare I've been epu and they wernt sure if it was miss carriage in action or too early to see or eptopic ... anyway since i got home my partner says we can try again as soon as it's all over and I'm ready ... I'm still very upset but I want to try again this will be our 4th when I get a sticky baby and my main question is how does ovulation work after mc? This would be my 2nd mc bit with 1st I didn't re try but we do want another baby so we do want to try again but when is the key question ? does it work as in you bleed then so many days after you ovulate again or do you have to have a period then you ovulate ? This one is definitely a loss bleeding has gotten progressively worse throughout the day ... pain isn't too bad but very clotty now I'm devastated but really want to try again since everything happens for a reason x

welly01 · November 2014

I'm sorry for your loss. If you were 4w6d pregnant, that's considered a chemical pregnancy. From my understanding, you can start trying again immediately whenever you're ready. You should ovulate at your normal time. I didn't understand what you were asking/talking about regarding an ectopic pregnancy. If that's the case, you need to be cleared by your doctor.

missr2505 · November 2014

I have read it I haven't said anything wrong I don't think ?

missr2505 · November 2014

Well I had a thickened lining no sac or baby they took my blood to check my levels I have to go early pregnancy unit again. weds they thought I may have an eptopic pregnancy but I have been passing clots so I think that's out of the question

Km380 · November 2014

Can you please put a living child warning in your title? Many of us do not have a living child and many may never have one.

Have you consulted your dr about when you are clear to try again? Everyone is different but you have to follow what the dr says. Cycles post loss can be very weird, you may ovulate and have a regular cycle, you may not.

I'm sorry for your loss

gscoville · November 2014

Some women ovulate within a couple weeks after a loss, some much longer. It took me over 7 weeks to get my period again after my loss and then another couple of weeks after that to ovulate again. But you really need to see your doctor to find out when he recommends to try again, it may not be right away.

Also, your post is hard to read and understand but it sounds like you have a child already? If so, please post a warning in your post title, it's a courtesy we appreciate on this board. When you intro it's ok to mention your child in your post as long as you put a warning in your title, but then please try to refrain from mentioning your LO (little one) in future posts, or post a warning in the post title if you must mention them for some reason. Generally there isn't much reason to mention them on this board, it's preferred that if you must talk about them you go to the Parenting after Loss board where talking about your living children is ok.

uromys · November 2014

I'm sorry for your loss.

rmpar29 · November 2014

I'm very sorry for your loss. As PPs have said, no one can tell you when you can try again or when you might ovulate. This is a discussion you must have with your doctor. Your cycles could be the same as before, or completely different.

Please place a "living child warning" in your title as the mention of your children could catch others off guard.

welly01 · November 2014

CFearsy said:

scout336 said:

I'm sorry for your loss. If you were 4w6d pregnant, that's considered a chemical pregnancy. From my understanding, you can start trying again immediately whenever you're ready. You should ovulate at your normal time. I didn't understand what you were asking/talking about regarding an ectopic pregnancy. If that's the case, you need to be cleared by your doctor.

@scout336, Please do not tell people that they can try again immediately whenever they're ready. This answer is different for every person, depending on their medical situation. Only a doctor can answer this.

Also, you can't possibly know that she will ovulate again at her normal time. Bodies are weird after miscarriage. Is it possible that she will ovulate "on time" again? Yes. Is it definite? No.

She needs to be cleared by a doctor regardless of what type of miscarriage she is having.

I'm sorry. It won't let me edit my response. It was my misguided understanding that physical recovery from a CP is relatively quick. I should have just kept my mouth shut, sorry.

buggirl72 · November 2014

Sterling13 said:

I'm very sorry for your loss. Please talk to your doctor about when it is appropriate to try agin after your loss.

On another note, please keep in mind that when communicating in writing on a message board punctuation and grammar go a long way in making sure you are being understood. I really had a hard time following most of your post.

This.

We are very sorry for your loss. If you notice, everyone on this board uses proper sentence structure which includes capitals and punctuation. This is so we can easily understand each other. Your original post and your response are very difficult to read because we have to guess where one sentence ends and the next starts.

missr2505 · November 2014

How to delete ? I've obviously offended people without intent and I'm not having a very supported response either considering I'm on the same boat as many right now ! I shall post her in future in hope of support ... goodbye and thankyou

missr2505 · November 2014

Shall not*

gscoville · November 2014

missr2505 said:

How to delete ? I've obviously offended people without intent and I'm not having a very supported response either considering I'm on the same boat as many right now ! I shall post her in future in hope of support ... goodbye and thankyou

You haven't offended anyone...yet. We're just letting you know how the board works, if you were to continue to post while ignoring the great advice you've been given, that would offend. If you take the advice given and follow the etiquette of this board, you'll be just fine. This board is amazingly supportive if you take the time to get to know the ladies here, offer support yourself, and do what you can to help others here be able to welcome you with open arms. You get what you give around these parts, and there are some amazingly giving women here!

Just as I'm sure you are sensitive following your loss, each of us is sensitive to a variety of triggers that can be painful through our various journies - open mention of living children can be a trigger to many, especially those who have not been successful in having even one LC of their own, so we simply ask that warnings be placed in the subject lines of posts containing mention of living children. This is clearly laid out in our intro post right at the top of the page, and we're merely reminding you of that as you seem to have missed that bit before making your introduction.

By the way, you cannot delete posts on The Bump, it's not a function of this site. You can, however, edit them. Simply go back to your original post, add "living child mentioned" to the subject line, and you're good to go. No offense taken if you just do that one little step.

buggirl72 · November 2014

missr2505 said:

How to delete ? I've obviously offended people without intent and I'm not having a very supported response either considering I'm on the same boat as many right now ! I shall post her in future in hope of support ... goodbye and thankyou

You received an incredible amount of support.

You had multiple people commiserate with your loss. You had many people advise you to follow the advice of your doctor, who is the only person who can tell you when it is safe for you to TTC again.

You asked a question that nobody can answer ("when will I ovulate again") because everyone and every body is different in how it handles a loss.

It was politely suggested that you read the post at the top of the board. It provides great information about how this board works - including how and when it is okay to mention living children that you have.

You were also asked to use full sentences. That is not being unsupportive. That was done in an attempt to ensure that you receive better support.

We communicate by written word. If people have a hard time reading what you wrote because you are cutting corners or behaving like this is a text message, then you will receive fewer responses. It's just how it works.

missr2505 · November 2014

I shall not post on here again nor respond thanks for the intrest

gscoville · November 2014

missr2505 said:

I shall not post on here again nor respond thanks for the intrest

Your choice entirely. I just don't think you understand what an internet forum is for, this place is a community full of women who give as well as ask for support, not just another version of Dr. Google. We're not just for fly-bys who post and run, and we expect members to contribute as well as ask for support. You wouldn't walk into a support group in real life and not expect there to be rules for how to behave, would you now? But I guess if following rules and being part of a community is not something you're prepared to do, then it's probably best you just leave now.