Anyone not feel a connection yet?

MrsPDX

I always thought when I was pregnant I would immediately feel this automatic connection to the baby. But, I feel nothing. I mean during my first ultrasound I cried, I was so happy and amazed, and the first time I heard the HB too, but overall I don't really feel a connection. STM is this normal?

jamiesc58

I believe this is totally normal. From the time the morning sickness stopped for me I have not "felt" pregnant except for the bump that I have. It is hard to make a connection early if it isn't your first because you are so focused on other things in life (mainly you other child(ren)). I also haven't felt this baby's movements yet so I think that will change things up a bit too.

MrsPDX

I'm a FTM, but I do have a lot going on in life right now. I just am eager to feel that "mommy" feeling that I assume comes during pregnancy... Just not sure when that comes or if I should already feel that way already. I also have not felt any baby movement yet.

jennypolkadots

I'm a first time mom. Totally planned pregnancy, we are completely overjoyed and can't wait to meet the baby. Everything has gone as good as possible to this point. Still, I don't know how much of a "connection" I feel. I love our baby and I want to meet him/her and can't wait to be their mother, but most of the time it is just sort of surreal. There is a fully formed person inside my body right now - wow! I haven't cried at ultrasounds or hearing the heartbeat - but I am just not a crier in general. Most of the things that "get me" feeling emotional about the pregnancy is seeing DH become a daddy. He learned a bunch of lullabys on guitar and I bawled over that one. I try to talk to the baby sometimes, read books, and just "connect" but it is not some overwhelming natural connection or something like you seem to be seeking. 

Just take care of your body and look forward to motherhood, this isn't a Hollywood movie and we all feel a different sense of connection with the bump. There is no right or wrong here.  

LimaD

I thought I would be ecstatic, but I have a lot of mixed emotions, since we lost a baby to MC just a couple months before getting pregnant again.  I think of my angel baby all day long, and feel guilty because I'm just not feeling any connection with this new baby.  I'm hoping things will change as pregnancy progresses.  I do remember it took a while with my first too...

Whitfry

FTM as well. I'm ecstatic and excited and scared about being pregnant, but I don't totally feel that "connection" yet either. I don't think reality has totally sunk in with me... I'm not sure I fully comprehend the magnitude of what's going on. Maybe there will be a lightbulb moment, maybe it will take going into labor or meeting my son for the first time for this all to sink in. But this process is just so huge and new that it's too big for me right now.

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MrsPDX

Thanks ladies! I'm so glad I am not alone.

sschwege

I think that's totally normal.  Even after my babies came I did not feel that instant love everyone said I would feel.  I remember looking at DD in my MIL's arms the next day and feeling like the worst mother on the planet because I didn't have this instant bond with my baby.  With DS I remember feeling so guilty because I felt a stronger connection to DD in those first few days.  I know in my heart of hearts I loved my babies, but I just didn't feel that instant bond. 

AnnaK1985

While I can't say I don't feel anything towards it, there's definitely no connection between me and this baby.

PrimRoseMama

I'd say I can't relate, but it's not abnormal if you feel this way. If anything I've always felt crazy attachment the minute the pee stick dries. Everyone is different, & as long as you are aware of your mental health (in either direction), then you are good.

runawaylaurel

You're totally not alone. Being able to feel movement has helped me feel a bit of a connection because now I can feel like the baby is showing a "personality" (I know it's not, but whatever, it helps me!). But I tried to talk to my belly the other day just felt ridiculous. I enjoy pregnancy, but the closest I get to really feeling love is thinking about holding the baby in my arms. 

Alygohome

I didn't feel a connection until im the mid 20's when baby started poking back when I poked it. And I started buying a few things here and there. I still don't feel super connected.

leela02

I'm a FTM and didn't feel super connected during my entire pregnancy. I mean, it was fun to feel DD move around and I was excited to meet her, but I didn't feel a bond. I didn't cry at any of my ultrasounds. I think it's normal. I mean after LO was born I was super connected to her. When she cried I cried...lol

nurserachel22

Don't get me wrong... Completely excited for the baby! I didn't cry at my
Ultrasound or when I heard the heartbeat. I feel some type of emotional connection, but not as much as other moms on here feel. I believe it will come for me in third trimester or maybe even when the baby gets here! And I think that is just fine.

gnomemom

It's totally normal. I'm 21 weeks and my pregnancy is still almost an abstract concept. I'm excited in a distant, this is happening to someone else sort of way. Just like with my first, I know it will start to feel more real as I feel more movement and start preparing around the house for the baby.

ekhull12

I am 22 weeks pregnant with our first child and just found out we are having a boy! Honestly I had pictured a girl up until the ultrasound and had a few moments of being a little let down even though I know my boyfriend is thrilled so that helped. We are naming him Weston, and I am very excited now, even buying him baby clothes! It helped to think of little boys being "mommas boys" and knowing he will love me so much, and picturing him doing all the daddy son things, hunting and fishing, they are going to do together. My boyfriend only wants 2 children so maybe we will have a girl next time and she will have a good big brother to take care of her. Im starting to feel a lot of movement so I think I will feel a stronger bond every day.