My aunts traditionally throw the cousins a shower and have offered to do so for me. However, they said they would like to at Christmas (due in May and will be about 20 weeks) because the majority of my cousins live all over the country and only come to town 1-2 times a year. I also live about 6-7 hours away. I am extremely grateful that they would like to host a shower but am nervous because it is still so early in the pregnancy. I'm not sure if I should gratefully accept because, A.) I'm fortunate that they are offering and this is what they suggested B.) So many of my cousins will already be in town and I wouldn't expect them to make the trip a separate weekend just for a baby shower. Because of our relationship I feel confident that they would in fact like to be there. and C.) I suppose it will be nice to take the stress out of making the trip when I am more uncomfortable and give us more time to purchase things via coupon and sale.
But I am also hesitant because A.) It's so early, things could still go wrong, I might not be showing, and may not yet know the sex (does that matter?) etc B.) It's Christmas time, there is already so much going on with seeing family, presents etc. it might be a lot to ask to also attend a shower.
The aunts have said they would be happy to hold off and host something later in the pregnancy, but on top of cousins not already in town, it's Buffalo, NY and the weather is not the most predictable and travel in late March isn't always the best.
Also, I would likely be inviting a few people outside of that side of the family.
Thoughts? Hold of until a bit later in the pregnancy or happily accept the Christmas shower?