Inconsideration

RitaMae0706

I have never posted anything on here before, but I occasionally read the threads. And something I've noticed, a lot of the people on here are very rude.
Someone will post a discussion about questions or concerns they have about their pregnancy. And a majority of the comments are so hateful. Telling them it's annoying they're posting about a certain topic, that they need to quit complaining, that they just want everyone's attention, etc.
They are posting about it because they want to know what other people who are in the same situation, are going through and if they've had the same questions and what they did about it.
And who doesn't want attention? I am 18 weeks today and I want to tell everyone in the entire world about my pregnancy. It's very exciting and I like to share my excitement with others. I haven't told anyone but close friends and family, but I definitely want to tell everyone else.
What I'm saying is, if you guys are mature enough to be a mother, don't you think you could be a little less rude? I am only 18 years old and I have more tact than most of you. Keep your rude, unnecessary comments to yourself. No one is forcing you to comment. Just because you don't like the person (whom you have never actually met) or you're having a bad day, whatever the reason, you don't need to go around to every thread and bash people.
What kind of a mother does that make you if you're that inconsiderate?

RitaMae0706

Like earlier stated, you don't have to comment. I didn't force you to

nomesy

Ok. So you're now going to get a lot of people calling you a special snowflake and a lot of people telling you to disappear. But I'll try and be nice about it ... Fact is some things people post just to get a rise out of us ... Like this post you created? Hmm. And some things are stupid questions like determining the sex of someone else's baby based on skull theory. Which btw is really really stupid. Then there's the ones who ask us for opinions on names ... There's a seperate thread for that and we tend to guide people there . So if you really sat back and read the posts more often ( these things usually disappear off the first page rather quickly) you would see we don't blow smoke up peoples ass, we don't answer stupid questions seriously and we get sick and tired of special snowflakes and people saying we are going to be bad mothers .... I usually just agree with people and keep my two cents , but I'm tired of being told I'll be a bad mum, my parenting has nothing to do with whether I can guess if you're having a boy or girl via skull theory.

My two cents , that's the things I get sarcastic on, not mean, I'm Australian and sarcasm is how we work before we get mean.
Did I miss anything ?

Edited cos I did miss something ... P.s you obviously have not read any of the posts where most bumpies are given support .. These are people who didn't ask stupid questions, act like a special snowflake, or personally attack anyone on the forum.

lindsayanne14

Posts like this are exactly why ladies get "rude". For many, many people this isn't someplace they "drop by and sometimes read threads" as you yourself do. It's an actual community. So if you don't care to be a community member and follow the well established guidelines then go somewhere else.

redneckmomma25

You obviously have only selectively read threads. If you have been around for a while and read every post you would not feel this way. So your opinion is invalid and unnecessary.

SunnyBeachBum

Who are you? You said yourself, you have never commented on here before. You have never supported ANYONE here, so keep your special thoughts to yourself. You have no idea what kind of mother I'll be... I have more life experiences under my belt than you can even imagine, young one. I hope you feel better now that you have gotten that off your chest...

redneckmomma25

This is what I wrote to the other ridiculous post. But since you are too special to read other posts I'm just going to copy and paste here.

Where are these people coming from. This week it seems they are just crawling out of the woodwork. 

This "app" does not take the place of a pregnancy book. 

I was a first time mom once. Google was around back then too. 

This is not a support group. It is the most supportive group you will find, though. 

As a community, we do not just sit here and wait for someone to download the app and post a stupid question that we can answer over and over again. A question that can be typed into google and given an answer as my screen shot showed. We are here for the community of women. Most are here daily or every other day contributing. We have supported women through miscarriage, hard test results, family problems. We have laughed over GTKY's and gifs and light hearted posts. 

You clearly have not been around since the beginning and if you have then you are blind or just cannot comprehend what you read. This group does not lack support. It does not lack in calling bs department either. Don't like responses? The common denominator is you. Move to baby center or grow up. Put a pair of big girl panties on and play.

missab

Do you feel like a special WK now? Great. Now leave and try focusing on growing the fuck up before your baby arrives.

jk3610

jk3610

RitaMae0706 said:

What I'm saying is, if you guys are mature enough to be a mother, don't you think you could be a little less rude? I am only 18 years old and I have more tact than most of you.

What I'm saying is, if you are mature enough to spread your legs and get pregnant (and have been raised in the age of the internet), I'm sure you can just hop along and find another site.  (Quote fail.)

kbehelr

When you post something that says most of us are rude, you are doing the exact same thing as to what you are complaining about. There are 300 or more of us and a very small handful get snarky with comments, but you will also find posts with women in the hundreds being helpful and supportive. Women that are complete strangers offering advice, recommendations, and overall letting people know that they are not alone. If you look for the bad you will find bad, but if you look for the good you will find plenty of good.

starshollow

Thank you OP. Your post completely changed who I am and how I will post on the internet from now on.

SMFB

You ladies have way more patience then I do. OP, grow up and piss off.

jk3610

paging @RHoPA1109, the post needs you!

jk3610

souptin said:

paging @RHoPA1109, the post needs you!

Thanks pal

You know you my boo.  Or something.

missab

@Lilzeezee‌ that may be my favorite gif ever. I agree with others that it should be your signature post!

twinklepits

Dear @twinkelpits


did you change your name? I see you love titting but I dont know who you is, but me likey your name!

Yes, ma'am. Allow me to re-introduce myself. I am the artist formerly known as amandastewart51813. 

I saw all the fun monikers and felt left out. I must say, though, that my favorite by far is @getoffmyballs. 

^:)^

fro88

Well this is a charming way to start a Sunday...

JLaudio

bsdub

SUNDAY FUNDAY!!
Fml I just can't deal today - I haven't even had breakfast. OP straight up just go away and never come back. We're just mean pirates who are big Internet bullies, so no need to continue to post here. Byeeeee nice not knowing you.

miahbelle

Oh geeze... What is with the crazies?

taahira

Did someone dump a bunch of idiots off at the bump this morning. You gotta laugh, I bet it took her all morning to construct that post. )

jc_twomamas

Oh OP, this was a bad decision, however, that cat was hilarious, so maybe this was worth it. Happy Sunday everyone!

SuperFudge00

You are annoying, this post is annoying, go away! Too mature to call out the multiple duplicate and nonsense threads but not mature enough to refrain from making this thread?

BYE FELICIA!

SuperFudge00

FlyThruMyDreams9 said:

Ok, imagine this:

You just bought a new house in a new neighborhood. On move-in day, you shout to every neighbor, "I'm here! Come over and help me move in all my stuff!" You would get a few people who may show up and help, but even most would do it begrudgingly. And then you'd get a few that are like, "I'm not helping a stranger move in their stuff. F that." And then you stand around and say, "All of you who aren't helping me move in are bitches! I'm just excited to be here in this neighborhood and was just looking for some support!"

LOVE THIS!!!

somewheresublime86

OP, I hate to break it to you - this is how online communities (not apps) work.

I could give you boatloads of details, since I kicked my butt getting a masters degree in communication while working full time and writing boatloads of papers on this exact subject, but I digress. You're 18, so you're just starting to understand what hard work means.

Put simply, online communities develop and enforce norms. New folks are welcome if they go with the flow and actively contribute and engage. Anonymity means people don't put up with bs.

The ladies on here have created a community that actively supports and engages people who take even a brief moment to engage and get a feel for the board. Leave your ill informed judgement at the door, or get with the program.

alleriya

Dear OP,

When I was 18, I already had my BS in Organic Chem and had one more year to go to finish my Masters. No matter how book smart I was at your age, I was still pretty naive in most things in life. Despite being naive, I still was smart enough to not go up to a group of strangers and tell them that they are rude or insult them. I've been lurking since I got my BFP back in August because I wanted to figure out these ladies before diving into their world (it's called being polite). Unlike you, I actually read most posts here and can see past the snark that was well deserved. If you even bothered to read the other posts, you would see the support they give to people. A few recent examples are on the first page. I would suggest you read them and get to know us before you post again. If you choose to never post again I would be fine with that. I will not miss your WK'ing for people who can't even figure out the simple things like a search function. For heaven's sake, the Internet Gods gave us this wonderful thing called a search option. It's magic! You type in something and it finds everything for you! Oh, and the best part? You didn't even have to take the time to type out a full post and wait for the answers! Other people have done all the work for you, isn't that lovely? 

starshollow

I just keep coming back because I am shocked this is on page 3 and no one has come to White Knight for this special special snowflake.

jdles16

SuperFudge00

@RHoPA1109‌, every time I read "piss up a rope", I want to add, "Up your nose with a rubber hose!"



Edited because this "app" doesn't actually talk to me.

SuperFudge00

RHoPA1109 said:

SuperFudge00 said:

@RHoPA1109‌, every time I read "piss up a rope", I want to add, "Up your nose with a rubber hose!"



Edited because this "app" doesn't actually talk to me.

Maybe I'm sheltered, but I don't know that reference.

I watch too much retro TV This is Welcome Back Kotter: John Travolta's claim to fame.

Smash1215

SuperFudge00 said:

RHoPA1109 said:

SuperFudge00 said:

@RHoPA1109‌, every time I read "piss up a rope", I want to add, "Up your nose with a rubber hose!"



Edited because this "app" doesn't actually talk to me.

Maybe I'm sheltered, but I don't know that reference.

I watch too much retro TV This is Welcome Back Kotter: John Travolta's claim to fame.

Quote issues...
Tight pants and wiener bulges.

JaneShops

Had some giggles, this is better than the Sunday comics (Anyone else still get those?)

Ooh when I was once 18.. When I was wise, considerate, mature, and tactful. College, grad school, boyfriends & breakups, post doc & career, engagement & marriage, friendships, family, celebrations & grief, pretty much my life experiences lead me to become this horrible Internet person that'll be a horrible mother. I really need to go back to being 18, & perfect

Rowsdower85

I've been staring at the word "inconsideration" for like 20 minutes trying to figure out if it's even a real word.

missab

alleriya said:

Dear OP,

When I was 18, I already had my BS in Organic Chem and had one more year to go to finish my Masters. No matter how book smart I was at your age, I was still pretty naive in most things in life. Despite being naive, I still was smart enough to not go up to a group of strangers and tell them that they are rude or insult them. I've been lurking since I got my BFP back in August because I wanted to figure out these ladies before diving into their world (it's called being polite). Unlike you, I actually read most posts here and can see past the snark that was well deserved. If you even bothered to read the other posts, you would see the support they give to people. A few recent examples are on the first page. I would suggest you read them and get to know us before you post again. If you choose to never post again I would be fine with that. I will not miss your WK'ing for people who can't even figure out the simple things like a search function. For heaven's sake, the Internet Gods gave us this wonderful thing called a search option. It's magic! You type in something and it finds everything for you! Oh, and the best part? You didn't even have to take the time to type out a full post and wait for the answers! Other people have done all the work for you, isn't that lovely? 

@alleriya I still creepy internet stranger love you.

sagehens47

To OP and all the other fly-by WKs...

The "mean girls" you complain about are NOT that. They are funny, supportive, awesome women who keep this forum going. If everyone just observed, the bump would be crap. The "rude" comments aren't because anyone is an immature bitch - it's absolutely frustrating to be an active member and see the same thing over and over again. Seriously - the thrice daily posts of a fuzzy u/s head profile asking for the baby's sex is more than infuriating. People get fed up and deserve to voice it!

I'm so over non-commenters coming in and trying to be the hero. Be active, get to know people, and get over yourself.

theinvadermothership

All i heard was she was 18 and my brain tirned off.

GOD TO BE SO SPECIAL AND SMART AND TACTFUL LIKE I WAS 10 YEARS AGO! ALL THIS LIFE EXPERIENCE IS A WASTE; WHAT DID I DO WITH MY LIFE?

I wanna be like OP... )

jk3610

mrsjack53 said:

No one has mentioned the two love titters @caird01‌ and @CamiEdge‌ who seem to agree with the OP and have never even participated in the board. If you don't like it, GTFO.

Lots of random love titting lately. I can see lurking a bit after you join. But we've all been here for months contributing. Why pop up now?

bsdub

MOtownMama said:

This is freaking intense!!!

redneckmomma25

mrsjack53 said:

No one has mentioned the two love titters @caird01‌ and @CamiEdge‌ who seem to agree with the OP and have never even participated in the board. If you don't like it, GTFO.

Neither of which have every posted a discussion or reply. Their love tits mean nothing. 

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