Questions about OPK's.....again

jenn.schott

Yesterday I went to the OBGYN for my annual and having an unusually long cycle (50) when mine have been clockwork around 35CD. We also used it for an overall preconception check up so blood work was drawn (results not in).

Due to the weird cycle she suggested that I use an OPK so we can make sure that I am ovulating or getting some sort of hormone surge. I went and bought the Clear Blue Digital and used it this morning for the first time (CD10) and it was positive. Has this happened to anyone? It just really threw me for a loop because I wasn't expecting it to be positive since my cycles have been whack. It just seems early - or maybe I am just over thinking it.

PinkCamino

are you planning to show support here?

jenn.schott

I am - I introduced myself and have also posted some on the loss board as yall recommended me over there as well since my loss is a little different being he was older. This is my first time as even trying to chart with an OPK so I have just been lurking trying to soak it all in.

I understand this is a tight knit community and let me know if you think I would just be better on the other board. I don't want to create any type of resentments or harsh feelings.

PinkCamino

jenn.schott said:

I am - I introduced myself and have also posted some on the loss board as yall recommended me over there as well since my loss is a little different being he was older. This is my first time as even trying to chart with an OPK so I have just been lurking trying to soak it all in. I understand this is a tight knit community and let me know if you think I would just be better on the other board. I don't want to create any type of resentments or harsh feelings.

This isn't a question about whether you belong here or not because after your intro many ladies including me welcomed you with open arms and unfortunately you never acknowledged any of the kindness you got in that thread.

Unfortunately, it seems like you come here when you have questions but never taken the time to return the favor so to speak. This community is very tight knit as you said and we really adhere to this idea that you give support to get support. Looking at your post history, you seem to come here to ask the community for support or advice but never take the time to offer encouragement or support to others.

jenn.schott

I never meant to offend. I did go back to the post because it bothered me that I had not acknowledged the post as you said. I actually thanked everyone in the post three replys after your initial post.

That neither here nor there. I will continue to try to show support more versus just lurking.

PinkCamino

jenn.schott said:

I never meant to offend. I did go back to the post because it bothered me that I had not acknowledged the post as you said. I actually thanked everyone in the post three replys after your initial post. That neither here nor there. I will continue to try to show support more versus just lurking.

I just hope that you realize that my comments today are not specific to you or to your situation. The sad fact is that there are so many situations on TTCAL where we are treated like google. Ladies pop in here with an intro and then simply post questions until they get to move on. This is a really tightly knit community and as such we support each other through both the good and bad aspects of our journeys.

FWIW, responding to your own threads is not showing support. Offering hugs or sending good wishes to other ladies in the community is what I mean by showing support.

jenn.schott

Kateisoptimistic said:

I've never used that brand before, is it one that shows lines? or a smiley?  are you sure you are reading it correctly?  OPK's can only tell you your body is gearing up to O.  It's possible your body may be getting ready to, but then it might not.  I would suggest temping along with the OPK's so you can see when you actual O'd.  Check the newbie blog (posted on a sticky at the top of the page), it has alot of useful info about OPK's and temping. 

This is the one with the smiley. Thank you for the suggestion.

megrae12

I agree with everything @PinkCamino said. I have no idea who you are, which is prolly not saying much since I was on a break and I do not know anyone on here anymore. 

As far as your question is concerned, you will only confirm O by temping. OPKs will tell you if you are gearing up to O but will not confirm it. Start temping and use OPKs. Once you do that for several cycles, you can start to see a pattern. 

Edit: Words are hard. 

EIsieMae

I agree with @Kateisoptimistic‌. I would temp along with OPK. Your body can surge, and you can have positive without actually ovulating unfortunately. The only way to truly tell if it happens, is by seeing a temp shift.

PinkCamino

EIsieMae said:

I agree with @Kateisoptimistic‌. I would temp along with OPK. Your body can surge, and you can have positive without actually ovulating unfortunately. The only way to truly tell if it happens, is by seeing a temp shift.

((hugs)) Elsie.

This is what I mean, Elsie who just had a fucking D&C is showing support. *sigh* Some people just don't want to get it.

jenn.schott

PinkCamino said:

EIsieMae said:

I agree with @Kateisoptimistic‌. I would temp along with OPK. Your body can surge, and you can have positive without actually ovulating unfortunately. The only way to truly tell if it happens, is by seeing a temp shift.

((hugs)) Elsie.

This is what I mean, Elsie who just had a fucking D&C is showing support. *sigh* Some people just don't want to get it.


I got the point. At this time, I feel like I will just go somewhere else with my comments and questions. I'm sorry if I offended anyone by not participating or showing support but please know that I read most of the posts since joining here. I am still heavily grieving my almost 2 year old son who should almost be 3 and spending the holidays with us as I know most of you are as well. I just don't want drama or anxiety over posting a question.

Thank you all for the advise. I wish everyone the best in their journey.

PinkCamino

jenn.schott said:

EIsieMae said:

I agree with @Kateisoptimistic‌. I would temp along with OPK. Your body can surge, and you can have positive without actually ovulating unfortunately. The only way to truly tell if it happens, is by seeing a temp shift.

((hugs)) Elsie.

This is what I mean, Elsie who just had a fucking D&C is showing support. *sigh* Some people just don't want to get it.

I got the point. At this time, I feel like I will just go somewhere else with my comments and questions. I'm sorry if I offended anyone by not participating or showing support but please know that I read most of the posts since joining here. I am still heavily grieving my almost 2 year old son who should almost be 3 and spending the holidays with us as I know most of you are as well. I just don't want drama or anxiety over posting a question. Thank you all for the advise. I wish everyone the best in their journey.

Please dont play the pain olympics. We are all grieving.

jenn.schott

I am really trying to be nice here. Like I said sorry for offending, but please don't say comments like I am playing the pain Olympics - that is why said I know we are all here (grieving that is).

PinkCamino

jenn.schott said:

I am really trying to be nice here. Like I said sorry for offending, but please don't say comments like I am playing the pain Olympics - that is why said I know we are all here (grieving that is).

I totally get that you are still grieving. We are all still grieving and to be honest I don't think we will ever stop grieving. It's just ironic that you are grieving and can't show support but can come here with questions. It doesn't work both ways ya know? If you want to stick around and return the favor then great but if you're going to come here asking questions and only replying to your own threads then that might not work out so well.

PinkCamino

GLB30 said:

I'm not exactly new to this board, although I took a long break. Basically, every "new" person is greeted with some sarcastic remark lately.

I know when I was first on this board part of why I didn't contribute much is because I didn't know shit. OP is asking abt OPK's- she clearly doesn't have a ton of knowledge abt many of the issues people are dealing with. (@jenn.schott- I'm not trying to be offensive.)

Maybe we can add something on the newbie blog abt the fact that there are TTA and/ CLBBC on this board. I personally wasn't aware of the amount of people in that place on this board, even after actively participating for time and lurking. I wouldn't have posted abt in 2 WW for the first time in months HAD I known that.

I appreciate being advised of that. I'm waiting to intro into 3T until after this cycle for this reason. BUT, no one had to call me crazy to get that point across.

It seems abt half the people who intro here are greeted by a ride comment- and once one person says something that might get the point across multiple people "add" to it by saying the exact same thing.

I get being protective, but we seem to be going overboard a little lately.

I hope no one takes this the wrong way. (It is flame free friday by the way!!!)

So in your opinion it's okay to use this community as your own personal google?

PinkCamino

GLB30 said:

No- but I don't think it is an appropriate place to ask questions. And personally, I'd rather the people who don't know anything NOT respond. (But that is getting specific to this post, which wasn't actually my point...)

so what the hell is your point?

PinkCamino

GLB30 said:

Stop piling on once a point has been made

No, I don't understand what the fuck you're talking about.

Where did someone give bad advice in this thread? You clearly stated that you would prefer that people who don't know anything not respond? *Waves arms around* - where? Where is that comment you speak of?

Oh, you're referring to me right because I told her to stop abusing of TTCAL? Actually, I know a lot about OPKs but I wont share my knowledge with someone who can't show anyone else in this community kindness and support.

And as for the sarcastic remark, are you still tiffed that you were told that introing during your 2ww was in bad taste?

EIsieMae

@GLB30‌ I can't say that I agree with you. I've only been active on this board for about a week and a half, and the ladies on this board have been nothing short of amazing. I haven't received an ounce of snark, and I feel like a lot of the other newbies would agree.
I truly feel that you get what you put into this board. If I just had a random question about my loss, or TTC, I could easily get an answer from google. Or the search function at the bottom of the page. But the main thing that I get from this board is support. And I'm glad that I can support other women who are going through this awful situation as well.
Anyways, that's my opinion as a newbie, FWIW.

PinkCamino

GLB30 said:

GLB30 said:

Stop piling on once a point has been made

No, I don't understand what the fuck you're talking about.

Where did someone give bad advice in this thread? You clearly stated that you would prefer that people who don't know anything not respond? *Waves arms around* - where? Where is that comment you speak of?

Oh, you're referring to me right because I told her to stop abusing of TTCAL? Actually, I know a lot about OPKs but I wont share my knowledge with someone who can't show anyone else in this community kindness and support.

And as for the sarcastic remark, are you still tiffed that you were told that introing during your 2ww was in bad taste?

Seriously? I'm not going to spend my afternoon going back and forth with you. If my general thoughts were that difficult to understand, so be it.

renegadewhit

Interactions like these are part of the reason I'm terrified to ask a question or post anything outside of my check-in. I can't handle being jumped on right now, and some people take it way too far. I'm not looking for platitudes and unicorn farts, but I think throwing out f- bombs to other members is too hostile.

**cue panic attack in anticipation of responses to this post**

PinkCamino

whitneyandconcep said:

Interactions like these are part of the reason I'm terrified to ask a question or post anything outside of my check-in. I can't handle being jumped on right now, and some people take it way too far. I'm not looking for platitudes and unicorn farts, but I think throwing out f- bombs to other members is too hostile. **cue panic attack in anticipation of responses to this post**

You are more than welcome to ask a question freely. I recognize your name immediately and know that you take the time to support the community the best you can.