bedsharing question

narabug

How do you deal with sleeping in the same position all night? I woke up after a 3 hour stretch with pretty bad hip pain from not moving. I was hoping I'd be able to get better sleep from the baby not being as fussy, but if the pain keeps up I'll actually be getting less sleep.

Emerald27

This is a great question. I've been flipping over and switching sides with baby, but DH has been sleeping in DS1's room with him (this sibling thing has been rough on the kid), so there's no concern about putting LO between mom and dad.

How big is your bed? How deeply does DH sleep? How much does he move in his sleep?

You could try putting baby between you if your bed is big enough and your DH a light/still enough sleeper that you feel safe giving it a try. You could also try sidecarring a crib against your bed, so that sometimes during the night when LO is deeply asleep, you can move him/her there and roll onto your other hip to take a short break.

narabug

We have a queen size bed. DH is a super heavy sleeper and moves a lot so I'm not able to put the baby between us.

The sidecar might be an option... I'm not sure if there's enough space to do that and still get the door open, but I'll check on that tomorrow.

You are always so helpful! Thanks for answering everyone's questions.

Emerald27

You're welcome!

We rearranged the room completely for our bed and sidecar. :P You can secure the crib to the bed with bungees or zip ties, but we decided to just push it against the wall. DS has yet to sleep in the sidecarred crib, but it has made a great place to keep diapers and wipes and stacks of wash/burp cloths! Lol It is more for show anyway, but when he gets older, he'll probably sleep there some.

DS1 is currently sleeping in the sidecarred crib because MIL is visiting this week and she is in his bed. I'm more comfortable with baby between DH and me then baby between DS and me (huge bedsharing no no), so for the past week, we've had him in the middle. Our bed is a queen too, but with the sidecar and no danger of me falling out of bed, I've been able to sleep right up against the edge of the bed, leaving about 1.5' between baby and DH. My DH barely moves at night, though, so this works for us.

krazyinsane

DH is a heavy sleep who never moves (so it wakes me if he moves) and we have my side of our king size bed against the wall. Right after my c section though when I wasn't able to lay on my right side I would flip my head and feet in bed to keep DS away from the edge. Maybe that would help?

Emerald27

krazyinsane said:

DH is a heavy sleep who never moves (so it wakes me if he moves) and we have my side of our king size bed against the wall. Right after my c section though when I wasn't able to lay on my right side I would flip my head and feet in bed to keep DS away from the edge. Maybe that would help?

This is a really great idea!!!

kindacrunchy

I've had the same problem. We have a king sized bed and I'm not worried about DH because he is a light sleeper but I can't put baby in the middle because our three year old still comes into the room in the middle of the night a few times a week. What I do is shift my weight slightly and go from my side to more of my side and back then back to my side as necessary. Just the small movement is enough for me.

LightBright515

I've been living on the edge with bed sharing.

But I put SO out of the queen bed completely, and she is in the middle. The way my bed and mattress are set up, I'm too scared to have her on the edge. But she sleeps on her side basically skin to skin(if she doesn't feel body heat warmth, all hell breaks loose). I don't get quality sleep like this, and lying so still does suck..

But I can get 3-5 hours out of her like this!