dh can go f himself

sunflwr2

Im so annoyed that hes sleeping! The snoring is driving me crazy! WTF?!? Hes up there in dreamland and im stuck on the stupid couch wide awake. I know its not his fault but come on!!! Its bad enough I cant get comfortable in bed let alone the couch and my three year old will be up in two hours to "go potty"so im just going to watch bravo until im too delerious to stay awake.
I hope you are all getting more sleep then I am!

kylik90

My DH thought it was a good idea to ask me to massage HIS ankle today after spending 4 hours in L&D last night and being put on bed and pelvic rest. Then got mad at me for saying no. Also, my 3 year old DD also won't lay down and go to sleep so I feel ya!

Manateearmz

sunflwr2 said:

Im so annoyed that hes sleeping! The snoring is driving me crazy! WTF?!? Hes up there in dreamland and im stuck on the stupid couch wide awake. I know its not his fault but come on!!! Its bad enough I cant get comfortable in bed let alone the couch and my three year old will be up in two hours to "go potty"so im just going to watch bravo until im too delerious to stay awake.
I hope you are all getting more sleep then I am!

I haven't slept in almost 4 years.

Grab a bunch of pillows and a unisom. Put your husband on 3 year old potty duty and go to sleep.

nedralynn

I feel the same way!! I sleep from about 8 to 1030pm when my other half comes home from work and feels the need to turn on every light and be loud and try to have a conversation with me about his day....... and then he passes out all perfectly within minutes while I've been laying here for 5 hours catching up on reading the blog posts and playing sudoku

ScarlettsMommy0515

I feel your pain!
My husband is fast asleep snoring and taking up half the king bed while I'm stuck in a tiny little space with a pillow propped underneath one butt cheek and my 2.5 year old on top of me and stealing my pillow. As soon as I fall asleep I'll be woken up to take her to the potty I'm sure.

caroline0613

Keep the pillow away from dh face.... And good luck!

ebilbao

My DH watched the new Hobbit trailer last night and proclaimed he'd like to go see it. It comes out Dec 17th. I'm due the 14th. I said I didn't think we'd be able to go WITH A NEWBORN. He said, "That's ok-you stay here with your mom and the baby and I'll go alone." He is so dumb. He's going exactly NOWHERE until February.

hollieandaaron2012

Snoring husband and pregnancy is the worst! I always go to bed before him so I fall asleep just fine but if I wake up in the middle of night there's no going back to sleep and let's face it there is no way I can sleep through the night. I either try to nudge him, wake him up and ask him to try to switch sides, go sleep in another room, or live with it depending on what time it is. A lot of times I have to grab an book and read for a few minutes to fall back asleep. I feel your pain.

Pros521

The snoring is serious! I sleep in our guest room. Don't care what anyone thinks about it!! It's the only way I can get any sleep. And most nights i need a fan on to drown out the sound of the snore through the wall. It's awful

amieeyoung

hollieandaaron2012 said:

Snoring husband and pregnancy is the worst! I always go to bed before him so I fall asleep just fine but if I wake up in the middle of night there's no going back to sleep and let's face it there is no way I can sleep through the night. I either try to nudge him, wake him up and ask him to try to switch sides, go sleep in another room, or live with it depending on what time it is. A lot of times I have to grab an book and read for a few minutes to fall back asleep. I feel your pain.

Yeah, hubby and I just sleep in different rooms most of the time now. I don't like that, but with me waking up all night long and his snoring at least we get a little more sleep this way . He even got a mattress to put in babygirls room so he can sleep on it the nights I take the room (we usually switch every other night or every couple of nights, honestly though I sleep better on the couch most times).

drpayne

So teach your kid to go potty alone.

drpayne

ebilbao said:

My DH watched the new Hobbit trailer last night and proclaimed he'd like to go see it. It comes out Dec 17th. I'm due the 14th. I said I didn't think we'd be able to go WITH A NEWBORN. He said, "That's ok-you stay here with your mom and the baby and I'll go alone." He is so dumb. He's going exactly NOWHERE until February.

Seems a little extreme.

racheldiaries

Duty days are my favorite days. Happens every 3-4 days and it means I get the bed to myself for the night since DH is at work the whole day/night til the next work day is over. It's pleasant now that we fight for bed space. I do miss him a little and all though.

diz1313

Yeah my DH is a snorer too. Some nights are worse than others. Last night was pretty bad. He fell asleep while I was brushing my teeth and was snoring right away. Took me over an hour to fall asleep with that going on. Then I got to repeat the whole thing after I had to get up and pee at o'dark-thirty. So I got MAYBE 5 hours of sleep and yet he still tells me that he is SO tired this morning. He got annoyed when my reply was "Don't tell me about tired when you have no idea what real tired is," instead of the sympathy he wanted.
The helping with the night potty breaks is exactly why I am not bothering to try and night train the 4 year old yet. It might be bad parenting, but DS doesn't care to wake up and I don't care for him to wake me up about it.... so it can wait a while.

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CandEChicago

Snoring could be a sign of sleep apnea. Left untreated there are health risks. Perhaps you recommend he consult with a sleep specialist.

CandEChicago

Anna930 said:

If he said to ANYONE that I could go f myself for any of those reasons, I would be extremely offended.  Your reaction is extreme... for all the reasons that my husband could go "f himself" this would certainly not be one of them.

Come on...she is a relative newbie and will say her word choice was not the best since she is sleep deprived, hormonal, and emotional.

Side Note: Guess since none of us are telling our SO to F off we are doing better with sleep, hormones, and pregnancy.

goatlady12

I got a laugh out of this.  I get frustrated when DH can sleep and I can't.  He's the type that his head hits the pillow and he's out and snoring.  It makes me jealous. The snoring is maddening.  When I wake him up to say, "You're snoring, please roll over."  He always says, "I wasn't even sleeping yet!!"  Drives me insane. 

CandEChicago

katehgee said:

misskilljoy said:

katehgee said:

Hahah thanks for the laughs, ladies. "Fuck my husband for sleeping" and "my husband is not going anywhere until February" should be our new mantras. If I weren't laughing, I might feel bad for your husbands.

But do you feel badly for their children, too?

Nah, that kid's got company every time s/he has to pee. S/he is doing just fine.

My dogs like to follow me to the bathroom. I can probably get them to potty train my kid, right?

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@katehgee - yeah if you want your kids to learn how to go outside.

Eora3

My DH is a very sound sleeper. The only time it annoys me is when we have a newborn in the house and I am recovering from a c-section. My DH always volunteers to change the baby and then hand him to me to feed for night time feedings. The problem is that even with the baby right next to the bed, my DH "sleeps like a husband" and doesn't wake up! Half the time I do it myself and the other half of the time, I poke at him until he is awake enough to help.

It is a petty stupid thing to be annoyed by, but when I am post partum and in pain, I get a little petty and pissy.

OP, take an Ambien and either let your kid pee alone or put them in a pull-up overnight. Don't get mad, problem solve woman!!!

CandEChicago

katehgee said:

Anna930 said:

@CandEChicago and @katehgee - kids going outside... now there's an idea.  Eliminates the need for the pee jug - I love it!

Haha oh the pee jug. I actually thought about the pee jug the other night when I was on my 7th bathroom trip. Still didn't seem like a good idea.

Is it bad that I am impressed with that OP's accuracy in squatting and aiming? That or she didn't tell us about the shower curtain or drop cloth she used to contain any spillage issues.

CandEChicago

katehgee said:

CandEChicago said:

katehgee said:

Anna930 said:

@CandEChicago and @katehgee - kids going outside... now there's an idea.  Eliminates the need for the pee jug - I love it!

Haha oh the pee jug. I actually thought about the pee jug the other night when I was on my 7th bathroom trip. Still didn't seem like a good idea.

Is it bad that I am impressed with that OP's accuracy in squatting and aiming? That or she didn't tell us about the shower curtain or drop cloth she used to contain any spillage issues.

I didn't even think about that! I have no idea where my pee is going these days. Unless it's in my pants. Pregnant lady problems.

I am also hoping her bedroom was not carpetted otherwise that would have been smelly between the rug cleanings.

(I am overanalyzing again).

ebilbao

drpayne said:

My DH watched the new Hobbit trailer last night and proclaimed he'd like to go see it. It comes out Dec 17th. I'm due the 14th. I said I didn't think we'd be able to go WITH A NEWBORN. He said, "That's ok-you stay here with your mom and the baby and I'll go alone." He is so dumb. He's going exactly NOWHERE until February.

Seems a little extreme.

You're right. I shouldn't be so harsh. He is totally going to get to go to the grocery store, the pharmacy, Target...he is going to get out A LOT.

BayCamp

My H snores, my dogs both snore, but I take the award in my house. Even before I was pregnant I snored like a fat man. Now it's so bad I wake myself up nightly. Once a week or so I get my full water intake early in the day to reduce night time bathroom trips, take a Benedryl, and catch up on sleep.

cynplus2

Snoring is dangerous. My husband and I both have sleep apnea and use CPAP machines. Sleep apnea shaves years off your life, weakens your heart, makes you grumpy... Our machines changed our lives.

Shortstack06

ebilbao said:

drpayne said:

My DH watched the new Hobbit trailer last night and proclaimed he'd like to go see it. It comes out Dec 17th. I'm due the 14th. I said I didn't think we'd be able to go WITH A NEWBORN. He said, "That's ok-you stay here with your mom and the baby and I'll go alone." He is so dumb. He's going exactly NOWHERE until February.

Seems a little extreme.

You're right. I shouldn't be so harsh. He is totally going to get to go to the grocery store, the pharmacy, Target...he is going to get out A LOT.

One of my close friends had her son in July. Her husband is a federal employee and got 6 weeks off with her.  My husband saw him at the bar a week after her son was born and his exact words were "She told me I was driving her crazy and to get the fuck out!"  Plus, (I am a FTM) and I am 100% banking on having a "date night" after the baby is born and to get out of the house with out baby. I do/will love my child, but it is for my own sanity.  To dictate to my husband that he couldn't go to a movie alone until February? Good luck.

nolanova85

goatlady12 said:

I got a laugh out of this.  I get frustrated when DH can sleep and I can't.  He's the type that his head hits the pillow and he's out and snoring.  It makes me jealous. The snoring is maddening.  When I wake him up to say, "You're snoring, please roll over."  He always says, "I wasn't even sleeping yet!!"  Drives me insane. 

My husband does this!  "How could I be snoring if I'm still awake?!"  Um, trust me buddy, you just didn't realize you had already dozed off.  With DH it's not a nightly thing, but he is definitely in denial about the snoring when it does happen.  I've even taped it on my phone as evidence.  

Anyway, he slept in the guestroom for most of my pregnancy so that I could get a good night's sleep.  Now that the guest bed has been removed to make it the nursery, we're struggling to readjust a little bit.  But, um...he doesn't need to go f*ck himself.  I'm fortunate that I'm still sleeping relatively well (middle of the night peeing has JUST started at 35 weeks, so I can't really complain).  

CandEChicago

cynplus2 said:

Snoring is dangerous. My husband and I both have sleep apnea and use CPAP machines. Sleep apnea shaves years off your life, weakens your heart, makes you grumpy... Our machines changed our lives.

Going to agree on this one. Family history of OSA and they were tall lanky men so there is a bit of a "genetic" component to it.

Shortstack06

I don't even think I can comment on the OP without being crude. My husband is the "bread maker" in our house, he needs the sleep more than I do at this point with his long hours (although I am still sleeping through the night at 32 weeks).  I am just glad he is home at night, there are many women who don't have the luxury of their husbands being home at night and they wish they were but they are deployed/working shift work/working OOT. Saying he "can go f himself" because he can sleep is very melodramatic and immature. Now all of D14 will pray for your child and your husband.

BabyByTim

I have been getting up throughout the night since around 20 weeks. My DH snores every night, thankfully a nudge or gentle rub on his cheek gets him to stop long enough for me to fall back to sleep. I get very minimal sleep these days at 35w, but I would never complain about DH getting more sleep than me. Like pp stated, my DH too is the money maker in the family so I don't complain when he sleeps soundly through the night.
As far as being "held captive" until February, that is extreme. My DH will be going back to work within the first week of baby's arrival. He will be allowed to go out when he feels like he needs a break. I think this will be more difficult for him than for me, because he has never been near a baby before...

sunflwr2

For the people being snarky...relax. I was totally sleep deprived and came on to vent. I obviously wasnt serious when I said my dh could f himself. I was cranky. I didnt wake him up because whats the point of us both being up? I was aggrivated at the time. He does more then his share and would have had no problem sleeping on the couch if I asked. But like I said, im not sleeping anyway at least one of us can get some rest. And as for my three year old sometimes she goes by herself, sometimes she calls for me. Shes learning. Like I said, just posted to vent last night no big deal. I think its funny how many of you think im being melodramatic and immature just because I was annoyed my husband was snoring. The fact that you are even comparing this post to someone who is deployed or not home at night is ridiculous. That seems more dramatic then me being annoyed I cant sleep.

Shortstack06 said:

I am just glad he is home at night, there are many women who don't have the luxury of their husbands being home at night and they wish they were but they are deployed/working shift work/working OOT. Saying he "can go f himself" because he can sleep is very melodramatic and immature. Now all of D14 will pray for your child and your husband.

Shortstack06

sunflwr2 said:

For the people being snarky...relax. I was totally sleep deprived and came on to vent. I obviously wasnt serious when I said my dh could f himself. I was cranky. I didnt wake him up because whats the point of us both being up? I was aggrivated at the time. He does more then his share and would have had no problem sleeping on the couch if I asked. But like I said, im not sleeping anyway at least one of us can get some rest. And as for my three year old sometimes she goes by herself, sometimes she calls for me. Shes learning. Like I said, just posted to vent last night no big deal. I think its funny how many of you think im being melodramatic and immature just because I was annoyed my husband was snoring. The fact that you are even comparing this post to someone who is deployed or not home at night is ridiculous. That seems more dramatic then me being annoyed I cant sleep.

I am just glad he is home at night, there are many women who don't have the luxury of their husbands being home at night and they wish they were but they are deployed/working shift work/working OOT. Saying he "can go f himself" because he can sleep is very melodramatic and immature. Now all of D14 will pray for your child and your husband.

With your post you were more complaining your husband was sleeping, not that you couldn't sleep. The title of your thread was directed at your husband ( dh can go f himself) , not that you couldn't sleep. So by focusing the majority of your post on him, you opened the door.

Shortstack06

@MissChristineMarie those look like PEZ. I want all the grape and strawberry!

OFortune1313

Wow... I feel for each of you who commented, but I especially feel for the lady who started this thread. She just wanted to vent and some of your replies are extremely rude and judgemental. I am very shy and was just starting to warm up to this group, but now I will be deleting my app. My mother always said ' If you have nothing nice to say, then say nothing at all'. We all have times in life that we need to vent and seem extreme, but there are enough people out there to judge us, why do some of YOU need to add to it?

riansmommie

OFortune1313 said:

Wow... I feel for each of you who commented, but I especially feel for the lady who started this thread. She just wanted to vent and some of your replies are extremely rude and judgemental. I am very shy and was just starting to warm up to this group, but now I will be deleting my app. My mother always said ' If you have nothing nice to say, then say nothing at all'. We all have times in life that we need to vent and seem extreme, but there are enough people out there to judge us, why do some of YOU need to add to it?

No body gives a fuck what you have to say. Please delete the "app" and go away.

FTR my hubby is currently deployed, won't be back until February, is missing yet another birth, will be deploying again come August. I'm sleep deprived, have an 8yo and a 16 month old that I have to take care of 24/7, live thousands of miles away from any family members but don't come on here bitching and complaining about it. The original post and her come back both pissed me off and rubbed me the wrong way.

diz1313

Mmmmm..... PEZ...... dammit, now I need to go o the dollar store.

sunflwr2

I seriously had no idea such a stupid post would turn into this. The fact that anyone has the time to go back and count how many posts disagree with me is so funny! Way too much time on your hands. I was tired and I posted about it. By no means do I think I am the only person who is tired and of course I am more then lucky that my husband is here with me. I would never compare myself to anyone who is doing it alone or who has a husband who is deployed. Im really surprised this offended so many people.
Now I just wasted some serious nap time and because of that I will be posting again tonight about how tired I am! ; )

Shortstack06

@Anna930 I can see my toes, no longer touch them, but I do see them!

abcmom12

DH said I snored and I denied it so the f*cker actually videotaped me "snoring" not long ago.  I played the audio and had to inform him I wasn't snoring, I was struggling to breathe through my congested nose.  It was noisy breathes rather than a whistle or the classic snore sounds on the tape.  I stopped starting to feel sorry for him that I "snored" especially after I "woke" up a bit on the tape and it goes to steady breathing through the nose.

gonna tape HIM next time

ebilbao

bvsbabymomma said:

Lmfao at "my husband won't be going anywhere until February" and then the even worse subsequent comment about going to the grocery store and Target. Sounds like you have a healthy marriage.

OP, sounds like you need to relax. You can come on here to vent all you want but expect the honest and snarky responses.

WK, go home. And it's not an app.

@bvsbabymomma‌
Adjust your sense of humor. It's broken.

leoandethansmom

SHUT YOUR STUPID WHITE KNIGHT FACE.