Keeping up with your gal pals

gigantan

Lately, I have been feeling very disconnected from my best friend and other close girlfriends. I feel like I don't have much in common with my bestie (interests have changed, I have a baby and toddler and she only has a toddler). She likes to go out and drink and even though she may invite me to come out, I decline because 1. MH is home all day with the girls and will need relief, and 2. I want to see my babies before they go to bed. As far as my other girls, I think it is so hard to find a few minutes to connect when you are working, caring for the kids and trying to keep the marital spark going. Before I know it, it is 11pm and the whole day has come and gone. Times this by 5 and my week is accounted for. The weekends are hard because MH works for himself and he works all day on Sat and Sun so I am on my own with the two girls until late afternoon.  I talked with MH about this and he does support me in rekindling my friendships, I just don't know how to find common ground. 

How do you do it? Is this a struggle for anyone? I really miss having a best girl friend. TIA

sdlaura

I think it's a totally normal struggle. I go to one book club and one mom's night out per month, and I try really really hard to make it to both. It's always hard to make myself go after a hard day at work or busy weekend day, but I feel so rejuvenated afterward. Otherwise, I mostly keep in touch with friends by email and socialize with coworkers.

gigantan

I like your ideas @BMBrinson‌ and @dnmolakides‌; the coffee idea could work as we both work in the same office. We have fast paced jobs and are pulled in many directions but as you said, if it is booked we can just do it. Also, the double date idea is doable; we hired a mothers helper and want her to be our go to at some point for evening babysitting.

@sdlaura‌, did you join either group with someone or on your own accord; and before or after baby? How did you find the moms group?