GTKY: best and worst traits (plus bonus question-what would you change?)

Nikolie93

I'm going to start my first off topic thread. :-SS

I did a search and didn't see anything recent on traits in here so hopefully this hasn't been posted recently

Here they are: (feel free to add however many you want!)
What do you feel your best traits are?

What do you feel your worst are?

Bonus question - if you could change one trait about yourself, what would it be?

(since I'm on mobile and it never works for me)

forevermyfenix

Great thread  

Best traits: I'm loyal, and I usually have best intentions behind everything I do. I'm usually that friend who sticks around when no one else will. 

Worst traits: I'm so introverted. As in, so introverted that since I've moved to my current location (2 years ago), I have no IRL friends that I keep in touch with. When bad things happen to me, I retreat and isolate myself. 

If I could change one trait about myself, I'd stop isolating myself anytime bad things happen. I've got so many supportive family members and I need to hold onto that rather than run into my hole to hide. 

Menrandes

Ok sure, I'll give it a go

Best traits: friendly, observant, very loyal

Worst traits: slow to get to know people because I am incredibly shy and not outgoing at all.  Then when I do get to know people you can't shut me up.  Also, when someone betrays me once, it is very hard for me to forgive them. I can also be pretty insecure.

I would say the trait I would like to change is my shyness.  As a child I very outgoing, but that changed at some point in my life.

Nikolie93

AFM:

Best- I seem to be very approachable. People always seem to just start talking to me. Someone told me it's because I'm always smiling. I went to NY one time to see my ex bf. He told me that growing up there he has never seen so many people in NYC smile and say hi to someone. I think they felt pity for me because I seemed so out of place haha. I have have to say is one of my favorite things is smiling at someone when they aren't and seeing them smile back

Worst- I am so trusting. I trust everyone and I always see the best in everyone. Even if they've screwed me over before. I've been walked all over and taken advantage of so many times due to that. I just can't seem to change it though!

What would I change? - I wish I could have an "it is what it is" attitude. I seem to carry the weight of the world on my shoulders and I've even known to care about others more than myself. Some may not think that's a bad thing but it makes for a stressful life sometimes.

Nikolie93

@crimpgirl‌ I also have a low confidence issue. Which is odd if you look at my best trait. People say I come across as very confident but I really do have some low self esteem. It's a good thing to see how others see you. How are you doing that?

@forevermyfenix‌ you sound like you'd be a great friend. I'm sorry you've isolated yourself in your new location. Do you think you'll get out of your shell there?

@Menrandes‌ when someone betrays you sometimes it's not bad to have a hard time forgiving them. I have the opposite issue and sometimes I feel like people take advantage of me.

Menrandes

@Nikolie93 The not forgiving thing is fairly recent.  Probably from too many taking advantage of me for most of my life! 

jjbmstinco

Best- I am a caring person.  I will go out of way to help anyone.

Worst-I am super emotional? or sensitive?  I take a lot of things personally.  

What would I change?-to have a thick skin?  I don't have the attitude that oh well, it happened.  I have to analyze it and think that it happened for a reason. Then I have to find out that reason all while being mad.  I just want to let it go.

Nikolie93

@Menrandes‌ that means there is still hope for me then! Lol but really, sorry so many things happened for you to get to that point.

@jjbmstinco‌ I tend to take things personally too.. I HATE it.

Nikolie93

@heartbot‌ I used to be pretty patient with people but lately I've been losing it a bit. I'm not sure if I'm just getting sick of being nice or if the recent shitty shit in my life has changed me a bit.

@crimpgirl‌ I'm somewhat of a leader at work too. Maybe I will reach out to my team and see what they say, I'm just afraid they won't be honest. Thanks, that helps!

flyoffeve

What do you feel your best traits are? Honest and reliable. I don't think lying or manipulating is nice (I just don't think of doing it and I could never get away with it with a straight face). I am always there when I say I will be.

What do you feel your worst are? Bad temper and insecure. Co-workers like my temper when it shows I am passionate about getting district to understand our frustrations. Then, when I get an email going I always ask someone to read it before sending it, so worried. Also, very insecure about my body and losing DH to some hottie.

Bonus question - if you could change one trait about yourself, what would it be? Adapt my honesty better to situations because I can be honest to a fault at times.

stephy1221

Well one of my best traits is also my worst. I am a stubborn gal. That means I don 't give up easily but it also means I tend to dig in my heels sometimes for no good reason.

My best trait people tell me is I am a good listener and give great advice.

My worse trait I can be a bit hard to get to know

If I could change one thing it would be my tendency to go to the negative and assume the worst. I am working on that one.

Nikolie93

@agpjt413‌ no need to apologize, mine almost turned into a TP to myself lol. I am the same regarding feeling responsible for everyone. It gets exhausting and I tend to get weighed down with all of that one shoulders

@flyoffeve‌ I feel the same way about lying and manipulating. I have NO poker face to the point that strangers can tell what mood I'm in. It's hard to not get frustrated with lying and manipulation if you've never been that way. I also have the same insecurities about my body *hug*

@stephy1221‌ I'm absolutely a pessimist. I find it's easier to think the worse and be happy when something works out rather than think the best and be disappointed when it doesn't. Strange I'm like that but I'm always smiling and happy. No wonder I'm exhausted all the time. My different personalities are fighting each other lol

mflowers929

Best - I'm super creative, and optimistic almost to an extreme, though it has shot me in the foot more than once.

Worst - I've got a huge fear of rejection, and it's translated into procrastinating, because I'm always afraid I'll here people say "no". For a long time, I wouldn't even ask at a store if they had something because of that. I'm better now, but for big things it still puts me in a panic.

And, as mentioned in the TP thread a few days back, I have a bad habit of sticking my nose into places they don't belong. I've lost more than one friend that way.

What I'd like to work on - The fear of rejection is a big thing. I'd really like to go to nursing school, but I'm terrified of applying.

Nikolie93

@agpjt413‌ I haven't really gotten to the point where I let things go and realize that there are going to be things that are completely out of my control.

@GLB30‌ I definitely could have gone on and one about my bad traits

@cavewmn‌ I'm definitely way to open. I feel like I can't talk to anyone about most everything. Open book for sure!

@mflowers929 I definitely can't relate to the creativity... I envy that trait in people. Same as optimism. I'm sorry you find yourself scared to take the plunge in nursing school (I totally say go for it though!) . I so wish I had words of wisdom but I'm stuck in a career I don't really enjoy for that same reason.

jjbmstinco

@crimpgirl-thanks. I got that it is bad a lot. I work in a school that is really hard.  If you are somewhat emotional at all...the teachers will eat you alive.    I will be emotional with you anytime.

mflowers929

@Nikolie93 - the creativity, at least in me, is a bit annoying. I'm creative in SO many areas, that sometimes I have to forgo one project to do another. I generally have at least 3 on the go - right now I'm sewing a corset, trying to finish up a costume, working on a crochet blanket, and working on my book. And next month I have at least 2 cake orders to do. So, yeah... lol

lycih

What do you feel your best traits are? 
I'm very good at "thinking on my feet" and being objective in most situations.  I also have a lot of patience/perseverance.
What do you feel your worst are? 
I'm too giving of my time/my energy.  I try to remind myself regularly the two things my mom always said "No is a complete sentence; it does not require explanation or qualification"  and "people will continue to expect what you continue to give"  
I'm not very good at turning work/clients off when I'm not at work.  

Bonus question - if you could change one trait about yourself, what would it be? 
I'm getting better, but I wish I were more emotional.  My upbringing raised me to be thick skinned, almost to a fault.  That any sign of emotion is a sign of weakness.  I'm trying to rearrange my thoughts about that to be more along the lines of "any sign of emotion is a sign of honesty"  

reginaphilangee

I'll play too! This is a good way to GTKY

Best traits: loyal, friendly, compassionate

Worst traits: too sensitive, cynical, and have trust/approval issues

Bonus: I would change my ability to accept me for me and to not over-analyze myself to a fault

Nikolie93

Thanks for all the responses, ladies!

@mflowers929 I can completey understand it being annoying when you're skipping from project to project. You have much to do it seems!

@lycih I have the same issue. I can never say just No, I always have to keep going on and on and on. It's so freaking irritating to me yet I can't seem to stop it! I also never turn work off. I guess that's a good trait in a project manager but it's not so great for mental well being and personal lives.

@jj32 it's good that you have realized you were being passive aggressive and that it's best to talk out the problem. I am sure I have done the same in my lifetime!

@reginaphilangee Ugh, I need to accept me for me so bad. If you ever find out how to do it, please share with me! And you say one of your best traits is loyal, I find that when somone has a trait that it cynical or has trust issues, they make the best friends once you do gain their trust.

Nikolie93

and I missed the second page

@petitchou1019 Being a good listener is a good trait to have. I find myself getting more and more frsutrated in people though when they ask my opinion,I tell it, and they do the complete opposite. Ugh! I also hate asking for help. I think a lot of people that are good listeners and are open to help so many people, feel that way. It's odd though and I have no idea why it's like that.

meredithcarole

Best: I am very pragmatic and will always give it to you straight (though I do try to frame it in a positive manner).

Worst: see above (it doesn't always go over well)

As Popeye would say "I yam what I yam."  But I do wish it was in my nature to be a little more "soft."

meredithcarole

@jj32 I don't know if I am passive aggressive, per se, but I do use my dry humor some times as deflection.

@cavewmn I tend to be a bit of an open book (over share), too.  I like to gather a lot of opinions before I make up my mind on something and thus I don't have many secrets.