Need Advice!

hathomas1

Hey! I'm TTC and am currently six days late for AF. I took a test the first day I missed and then one the third day I missed and both were neg. I have had cramps off and on for like a week and a half but they aren't as bad as normal. Also, I have had nausea, constipation, and some other pregnancy symptoms. I called my OB and she can't see me until next Friday. Have any of you had all the signs of being pregnant but still got a BFN? Did you end up being pregnant or not? TIA!!

hathomas1

No, I've just recently been actually trying. I had sex like every three days though for the first twenty days of my cycle.

hathomas1

I just read it, thanks. I guess this app is different from the last time I used it. People used to be really friendly and not have many rules. Sorry for posting.

hathomas1

Not your reply per se, but the link. It seems like the people that are the admins or whatever don't want to be bothered with people just wanting to talk and ask questions to other people TTC. It's just like "hey, read this long list of things not to bother us with and then you can post something we are interested in"

hathomas1

"We cannot see inside your ute!" -I mean that is hateful. Obviously no one thinks you can diagnose pregnancy through an app. But having questions about whether someone has gone through something similar isn't stupid. I only asked because I don't have many friends interested in TTC right now and I am curious what other people have found out. I certainly did not think that was a stupid thing to ask.

mosdub

hathomas1 said:

Not your reply per se, but the link. It seems like the people that are the admins or whatever don't want to be bothered with people just wanting to talk and ask questions to other people TTC. It's just like "hey, read this long list of things not to bother us with and then you can post something we are interested in"

I personally was very thankful for that link as a newbie TTC (I am not a mod or close to being a mod by the way).  I know it can be intimidating, but please understand that 99% of what would be posted here would be posts just like the one you posted.  How do I know?  Because I used to post things like this on other forums.  It very very quickly gets old and repetitive.  I like this board because it branches out and can become more of a distraction when you need it, or delves deeper into ttc topics than just surface things.

Anyway, I hope it doesn't strike you as rude because it can definitely be helpful!  

As for your question about people getting a bfp after a bfn, I'm sure it has happened but considering this is a "Trying to get Pregnant" board many may have NEVER gotten a bfp (myself included) and won't be much help. 

You can go to FertilityFriend.com and search charts for people who have gotten a bfn before a bfp.  It happens.  Or, like a very wise @littleliverpill said, you probably just ovulated later and your AF is coming later than you expected (happened to me too).  If you aren't charting your BBT I recommend you do - I learned a LOT that way!

CaveWmnInBrit

FFS- this is not an app its a message board... and if every person posted every basic thought that pops into their head it would be full of "OMG I must be preggers, what do you think?" posts

@littleliverpill was being nice, helpful and pointed out that without more info you have to wait it out... your lucky you caught her before cocktail hour

Put your big girl pants on and take some initiative to learn about your body... 

hathomas1

Yes, but this is supposed to be an informal thing, or at least I thought it was. I did read part of that but seriously it's super long. And so is the blog. I just thought this thing was kind of a lighthearted place to talk to other people TTC.

hathomas1

Well, I think I should join a board more suited for people who have been pregnant before and are just not trying so hard to conceive. I haven't been trying for long at all and i conceived my first without trying so I don't feel the need to take my BBT or anything like that yet. Sorry for being a bother, guys. Best of luck getting pregnant.

mosdub

hathomas1 said:

Yes, but this is supposed to be an informal thing, or at least I thought it was. I did read part of that but seriously it's super long. And so is the blog. I just thought this thing was kind of a lighthearted place to talk to other people TTC.

@hathomas1   I forgot to mention - we do have daily "TWW" (two week wait) and "WTO" (waiting to ovulate")  threads where thoughts like this are more appropriate to be posted.  It helps keep the main page from being cluttered with similar posts.  

As for the blog being long - it is a wealth of info and is worth reading through!  Research is your friend when ttc! 

hathomas1

Laziness? Seriously? Ask almost any OB and their first piece of advice is to not try so hard to get pregnant and it will happen. Obviously this isn't always the case, but it's kind of what I'm going for right now. Enjoy your wine, I'm sure that's good for the baby.

CaveWmnInBrit

hathomas1 said:

Laziness? Seriously? Ask almost any OB and their first piece of advice is to not try so hard to get pregnant and it will happen. Obviously this isn't always the case, but it's kind of what I'm going for right now. Enjoy your wine, I'm sure that's good for the baby.

Guess I tried too hard having all that sex... and damn the lingere is def too much!

As for wine- I don't have a baby so daytime drinking/cleaning it is getting ready for date night!

mandy522

This is the most tame am I pregnant thread ever, and OP is done because the newbie blog is mean? The blog? Srsly?

Congrats on your awesome fertility OP. I'm so happy for you that you don't feel the need to understand your body since pregnancy comes so easily for you. Taking your temp is not "trying so hard to conceive" - it's 10 seconds out of your day to understand how your body works so you don't have to wonder at the end of every month where the hell your period is. But hey, if you'd rather stay in the dark, that's your choice.

hathomas1

I know when I ovulated too. FYI.

mosdub

hathomas1 said:

Well, I think I should join a board more suited for people who have been pregnant before and are just not trying so hard to conceive. I haven't been trying for long at all and i conceived my first without trying so I don't feel the need to take my BBT or anything like that yet. Sorry for being a bother, guys. Best of luck getting pregnant.

Hopefully you do get pregnant the first time and you won't have to learn about your cycles and mess with your BBT.  Statistically, most of us aren't so lucky and are thankful for a place like this.  I'm getting frustrated because I tried to be so helpful and welcoming and you keep just calling us rude or are dismissing our attempts.    

hathomas1 said:

Laziness? Seriously? Ask almost any OB and their first piece of advice is to not try so hard to get pregnant and it will happen. Obviously this isn't always the case, but it's kind of what I'm going for right now. Enjoy your wine, I'm sure that's good for the baby.

THAT was RUDE and "hateful".  @Littleliverpill did NOTHING to merit that response.  Also, this is a fucking TRYING to get pregnant board. Do you think we are guzzling wine because we ARE pregnant?!?  FFS.  

Ugh, go enjoy a different board.  I tried to welcome you but you have obviously made your decision. 

mandy522

hathomas1 said:

Laziness? Seriously? Ask almost any OB and their first piece of advice is to not try so hard to get pregnant and it will happen. Obviously this isn't always the case, but it's kind of what I'm going for right now. Enjoy your wine, I'm sure that's good for the baby.

My OBs advice was to temp and have sex in my fertile window, actually. And drink wine until I had a positive test in my hand. I'm so very glad I don't see your OB.

nandaboob06

Seriously, fuck off and find a site that will blow glitter up your ass if that's what you want. @littleliverpill‌, @mosdub‌ and @CaveWmnInBrit‌ were nice and patient with you, I however am not.

Lurk and get to know your audience before spouting shit off. The link they were referring to is to help you learn about your body and how it works. Seriously, just because you are "just starting out" is no excuse to act like a child that needs hand holding. Tests do not lie. Negative means not pregnant at this time. Early pregnancy symptoms and pms symptoms mimic each other; you'd know that if you took the time to learn about your body.

hathomas1

My OB said that when and if I'm meant to get pregnant again, I will. Gosh, you are all so uptight. I seriously didn't mean to upset anyone. I just remember this app being full of dumb questions and people just answering them anyway. Lord knows while I was pregnant I asked a lot of dumb questions especially!! Lol I hate that you all have a hard time getting pregnant. I can't understand what it must be like and I truly do have sympathy for you all. I don't think it is stupid to chart your BBT or take OPKs, I just meant that I haven't been trying long enough or hard enough to find it necessary for me yet. I honestly just assumed I would get a few stories similar to mine and be done with it. I know this is a "Trying to Conceive" board, but I didn't know it was more of a trying for the first time. I figured there would be lots of women trying for baby #2 or #3 or #7 like I am. Like I said before, this app is so different from when I last used it so I am just a little lost. And I apologize for the comment about wine, I realized that you weren't pregnant but also (believe it or not) I'm not clueless and I have read several articles that suggested that drinking alcohol can be bad for the baby even if it is right after you conceived. I don't drink period though so I can't understand what it is like to have something that actually calms your nerves like wine. Anyway, I truly am sorry and I hope you all get your sweet babies soon. They're a blessing, for sure! Mine is waking up right now coughing his little head off! So I have to go give him some medicine. Ttyl

nandaboob06

hathomas1 said:

Laziness? Seriously? Ask almost any OB and their first piece of advice is to not try so hard to get pregnant and it will happen. Obviously this isn't always the case, but it's kind of what I'm going for right now. Enjoy your wine, I'm sure that's good for the baby.

And no, my ob suggested I take time to learn about my body, temp to confirm that I am ovulating, and make sure I have sex during my fertile window. But please, waste resources and take time away from patients that genuinely have an issue other than they dont believe a hpt.

gypsymermaid

hathomas1 said:

Well, I think I should join a board more suited for people who have been pregnant before and are just not trying so hard to conceive. I haven't been trying for long at all and i conceived my first without trying so I don't feel the need to take my BBT or anything like that yet. Sorry for being a bother, guys. Best of luck getting pregnant.

Oh.Oh.Oh. I haven't played the game Bullshit in so long! OP, I am calling bullshit on you know when you ovulated.

@littleliverpill for your efforts you have my admiration:

hathomas1

I actually do feel when I ovulate because it is super painful for me. I had sex one time when I ovulated and got pregnant. Every woman is different. Also, yes pregnancy tests do lie. If a woman's hcg is rising at a rate slower than normal it could not show as "pregnant" until farther along. I also am well aware that pms symptoms are similar to pregnancy symptoms as I have had experiences with both. I feel a lot like I did the first time I was pregnant and I have way different symptoms than when I'm PMSing. I have a blood test with my general doc in a few hours so I will be glad to post whether I am indeed pregnant or not.

nandaboob06

hathomas1 said:

I actually do feel when I ovulate because it is super painful for me. I had sex one time when I ovulated and got pregnant. Every woman is different. Also, yes pregnancy tests do lie. If a woman's hcg is rising at a rate slower than normal it could not show as "pregnant" until farther along. I also am well aware that pms symptoms are similar to pregnancy symptoms as I have had experiences with both. I feel a lot like I did the first time I was pregnant and I have way different symptoms than when I'm PMSing. I have a blood test with my general doc in a few hours so I will be glad to post whether I am indeed pregnant or not.

No. Just no. If you're pregnant dont come back and post here. We dont care because we don't know you.

And no on the only way is to know is by blood test. Want to know why the hpt was negative? They ovulated later or implantation took longer thus delaying the production of hcg. You wouldn't run into that issue if you charted your temp. General you, not you personally.

nandaboob06

riderchik said:

The blog is mean that's fucking funny.

@riderchik‌, hey boo! I'm missing you terribly.

hathomas1

I don't understand what I said wrong in my apology that warranted "I can't even"s. I was apologizing for the misunderstanding...

hathomas1

Yeah I definitely don't talk like that. I was just being friendly. I'm sorry I have a child?

hathomas1

FYI, I decided to take one more test before heading out to the doctor and it was a BFP. So I guess maybe I ovulated late or I am just less educated, but it worked for me anyway. Tried urinating straight on the stick instead of dipping it in a cup, maybe that made a difference.

mandy522

hathomas1 said:

FYI, I decided to take one more test before heading out to the doctor and it was a BFP. So I guess maybe I ovulated late or I am just less educated, but it worked for me anyway. Tried urinating straight on the stick instead of dipping it in a cup, maybe that made a difference.

You really didn't need to update us. No one here knows you or cares. Move on to first tri.

nandaboob06

riderchik said:

nandaboob06 said:

riderchik said:

The blog is mean that's fucking funny.

@riderchik‌, hey boo! I'm missing you terribly.

Nanda I'm not sure if you're more mia or if I am. My house looks so much better though. How are you feeling?

Maybe we're just missing (time wise) each other? I'm really sore from this last procedure. Like I went to the ER sore. The lovely stent placement is aggrivating an already tender spot. If it doesn't calm down on a day or two they'll have to go back in. All of it is trivial compared to what some others are dealing with. Kids are insane as always (wheezy tool his diaper off at nap yesterday and pooped in his crib while sneezy laughed his butt off). How does mr rider like his new job? @riderchik‌

hathomas1

I didn't have one until DH got home. I was wondering if it would be worth the money to pay for another before going to the doctor to have blood work.

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nandaboob06

hathomas1 said:

FYI, I decided to take one more test before heading out to the doctor and it was a BFP. So I guess maybe I ovulated late or I am just less educated, but it worked for me anyway. Tried urinating straight on the stick instead of dipping it in a cup, maybe that made a difference.

You're a real fucking piece of work. You were just told not to update us. Either you're really dense or a troll. Either way fuck off.

hathomas1

Well, I guess I just assumed that you guys were able to control your thumbs and not click on this thread unless you wanted to hear what I was saying. I didn't post it on your board so that you HAD to see it. Just saying..

CaveWmnInBrit

nandaboob06

@riderchik‌ I'm glad he's happier! How are the kids handling him being gone? What about you?

thewickedfairy

ginger1228

hathomas1 said:

I didn't have one until DH got home. I was wondering if it would be worth the money to pay for another before going to the doctor to have blood work.

So you're willing to pay for a blood test and waste your dr's time, but not shell out $1 for an hpt?

cabgirl

Yeah, the newbie blog really hurt my feelings, too. Wth?

hathomas1

I'm not the one getting upset. JS.

Cythe

hathomas1 said:

I'm not the one getting upset. JS.

Oh good, I'm glad you're still here. Just a friendly post to ask you to get the fuck out of here.

You are not wanted, nor is your questionable BFP nor your [what you think are] subtle ways of working your LO into your sorrynotsorry apologies.

ChristyM87

WTF. This thread is too much

cabgirl

hereistreble said:

srv84 said:

Yeah, the newbie blog really hurt my feelings, too. Wth?

It's all those facts that really hurt.

Right. I'd rather have an OB who just tells me I'll "get pregnant when I'm meant to."